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He hasn't seen it. We both want him to be surprised.  

However, about a month ago I had a mini panic attack that my dress would look like his ex-wife's wedding dress. I didn't really think it would, since I think hers was a $10,000 couture dress and mine is ... really not (although I love it!). But still, you worry. So I asked him to describe her dress and thankfully it sounds absolutely nothing like mine. So he does know it doesn't look anything like hers ... :-)

I hadn't planned on him seeing it, but he has! Far from freaking me out, it's relieved so much stress. I showed him pictures from when I went dress shopping without telling him which one I bought, cleverly thinking I'd left out the real one I bought. Well, he saw it and deduced that it was the one, because my sister was talking about the champagne color & it was the only champagne dress I tried on!

 I only found out because I started having 2nd thoughts and lamenting about it to my FI. He kept reasuring me, but I didn't believe it. He always helps me decide on outfits & I said that I wished I could just show it to him so I'd know (he's always very honest, like "that length makes your legs look short"). Then he said, "Well, do you want to know the truth? I saw it in the pictures already - and you really look great!"  

I feel so much better now!

I'm so undecided on my two favorites I just showed him both online - and he wouldn't really give a straight answer!

@Doctorgirl: My FI and I have the same game!  I even tried to convince him to go dress shopping with me in the beginning.  My dress has been in the guestroom closet for the past few months & will be for the next year, so I'll have many more opportunities to tease him about it!!

Over time, I began to develop a love/hate relationship with my dress...with a heavy emphasis on the hate. My dress was too big and I really was unhappy with it. I showed it to my fiancee to get her opinion (this was when I was in search of a replacement) and she was in the middle of the road about it. That REALLY made me hate the dress more. But, as luck would have it, I went to the bridal shop that week to order a new dress and wound up trying my dress on again, but for the seamstress and now I am keeping it because she can salvage it.

Now I wish I had never shown my fiancee the dress. I do believe she will like it once it's taken in...because now, it makes me look shapeless because it's far from the form-fitting version I will wear on my wedding day. I am SO looking forward to the big day now!

Brides, if you are contemplating showing your sweetie your dress, DON'T DO IT! It's not worth the potential heartbreak if he/she isn't enamored with your gown. I know when they see you on your wedding day they will be awe struck...and you could be wearing a potato sack for that matter. I would keep it under wraps--an element of surprise is always good.

@ doctorgirl, she is wearing a suit!

Nope! It's hanging in it's bag in the spare room. He could see it anytime he wanted but he swears he hasn't. Honestly, I don't think he cares that much. At least until it's on me!

I've teased him about it. I want to show him, but he won't let me, he looks away. I'm reallllly bad about keeping surprises and I tell him EVERYTHING, so it's really hard for me to keep it a secret like he wants. We are doing the "first glance" before the ceremony though, and even then he was a little hesitant.

I had gone to one boutique with a girlfriend and tried dresses on...I had it narrowed down to 4 dresses and I showed the man pictures of the dresses.  I'm glad I showed him because he hated the one that I was leaning towards.  THEN a month later I still hadn't gone in and purchased the dress...I found out that the bridal store was closing and all the dresses were majorly discounted.  So one day after hitting the beach him and I went in there and I tried to find the few dresses I had liked and tried them on and he said which one looked good and which one didnt and I bought the one that he liked right there with him in the store.  To us, it wasn't a big deal.  A lot of people were shocked/horrified that he saw it, but the people that really know us just kind of said yeah that sounds like something you guys would do. 

Yes, and no. He's seen it on me in it's current state, but won't see it after it's makeover.

Yep.  I showed him my favorite 3 and wanted to know which he liked best.  His choice and taste was most important to me.  I think the whole superstition thing is just tradition, and well he won't see me the day of.

I really really really want to show it to him.  I tell him all the time that he should be my MOH, not my sister.  He's my best friend and my wedding helper extraordinaire.  I really want him to see it because I want his opinion - but he refuses.  Oh well, I guess his traditions are the way it's going to be.