I'm so sorry for everything you are going through. ~hug~ It's hard to put on a nice and happy face when your own life is throwing you curve balls, but it sounds like you are really good at what you do. And, it's okay to cry and vent! Let it out!
I do understand, to an extent, what you are talking about. I teach at the local community college and I get the nastiest comments from students sometimes (the ones much older than me and the ones younger than me). I come home crying a lot, so I do understand.
Just keep on trucking through it until you can leave and find somewhere better.
And, take care of yourself!
I had a customer make me cry when I was a waitress. She belittled me because I was a server for a living... I could have spit in her food and she would have never known (I NEVER would do that. I'm just saying, you don't need to be mean to waitresses!). My FI and I were in a LDR at the time and I was about to start my period. It just wasn't a good time. haha.
I'm so sorry you've had a bad day! I'm sure there are good days that fill your work with meaning :) You have to hang on to those days at times like this!
I can't say my "job" has made me cry, because at this point it is my job-in-training; I am presently a student teacher. My students' heartbreaking life situations have made me cry, the overwhelming stress has made me cry, and the aggression and ignorance of my students' parents has made me cry. Oh, and I've cried because I'm paying thousands of dollars to work full-time.. without pay.
I think you can see you're not alone. -lol We'll survive!
OMG I've cried about my job more times than I can count!! It's normal!
I have cried at every job I've ever worked.
In retail, customers called me stupid at least once a week. When I was a sales assistant, I had one salesman find a way to blame me every time he lost a bid. In the tax business, the one office manager told me I could have a weekend off, then reneged on it when he realized it was a busy weekend and someone was already off. He tried to blame that on me. I worked at a dr's office once and that office manager yelled at me for asking a question on my 2nd day. At my dispatcher job for a plumbing and heating company, we got so busy that I literally did not eat or pee for nearly 10 hours and nobody could understand why I was miserable. And don't even get me started on my last job -- we'd be here for hours.
If you went to school for a job you have no and you hate it that much, I'm really sorry. It doesn't sound like this was just a bad day, it sounds like you genuinely regret your career choice and that sucks. Can you maybe try working at a different hospital or doctor's office and see if that atmosphere is any better?
If not, you may have to go back to the drawing board. That sucks, but a it's happening to a lot of people, so you are not alone.
Good luck!
In my first year of teaching, I was driven to tears on a regular basis. I was a bad fit for the school, and a restructuring of senior management mid year turned it into a negative for me. I was literally working about 14 hours a day, the other 2 were for driving and picking up takeout meals (cooking would have taken time away from work).
When I was a student I worked with severly disabled children. A lot of them were dying. A few died when I was working there, and a few more since then (it's been seven years).
It sounds like people are treating you horribly, and you are attending to your responsibilities. That sucks. I can't give advice, but hope things pick up.
Yes. I was working at a small company in GA that completely lied to me about the job. This was after I left my fashion apparel job in LA because I had to move, which was heartbreaking. It was an extremely hectic, fast-paced position and there was no support from the owners of the company. They had "inherited" the business (which was uniform apparel) and had absolutely zero clue how to run it. They brought me in because of my apparel background and one of the owners was particularly nasty. He would come up grandiose schemes and we (my boss and I) would tell him not to go through with it. He had some complex with women so he would never listen to us and he was just rude and nasty. We were sitting in a meeting with all the managers one afternoon and he comes up with another grand plan. I turn to my coworker and we exchange knowing glances and I give a little chuckle. The owner guy goes nuts and basically calls me out and says I have a shitty attitude and dont work hard (I was working 14 hour days at that point and had a 2 hour commute) and basically kicks me out of the meeting. In front of everyone. I get back to my desk and there are 400 emails in my inbox. After I was gone for 1.5 hours. I just lost it.
It took me another 7 months and then I quit. Best decision I ever made. You should never cry at work.
I've worked in oncology, and totally feel your pain!
However, things only got better for me when I started voicing my concerns to my HR and supervisor. I realized that patient care was too much for me, and I was doing more harm than good to both myself and the patients. I eventually got transferred out to a more stable enviornment. I'm happy as ever, but whenever I look back, I realize that never myself in my previous position...always driving home in tears after my shift, completely frustrated and defeated. I was emotionally drained, physically tired, and mentally checked out.
In short - Don't let your work-life affect your whole-life, especially in this season of your life! This is easier to say than to do, but I will encourage you to take baby steps to improve your situation. If you aren't able to confide with your superiors, try venturing out for new options. Who knows what you'll find!
That totally sucks!! :( People should not be mean to others helping them!
I have cried at my job, yes. Once because one of the carpenters said something really sexist and rude and mean. Once because I asked a supervisor a question via email, and they emailed back that I was unprofessional and rude...CC'ing my supervisor, my supervisor's supervisor, and a bunch of people. Nothing ever came of it.
Ugh yes I have cried at my job a few times. I can't help it, I'm highly emotional and when I get angry, upset or stressed my face goes red hot and the tears just well up. I think 'oh shit, here they come'
Luckily it hasn't been in a meeting or infront of people.
@AcheneMalefic: It's fascinating to me how rude patients are to everyone but the doctor. I go into the visit with the doctor, so I see them before, during and after their visits. They are so snippy with the processor, they are so rude to people if they need to ask questions, and then they are a peach to the doctor. Then they come out and bitch to whoever about how long their wait was. As if that person had something to do with it. UGH. I feel your pain. And I'm so sorry.
To answer your question, no, my job has never made me cry. My last one did though!
I have cried at my job several times. Sadness over stuff the kids I work with have gone through, sadness when a kid is discharged and I'm fearful it won't be a successful discharge (I work in residential care), and days when I just have too much falling on my shoulders and am fearful of getting into trouble or looking bad for something that wasn't my fault. (A stack of my paperwork went missing and my coworker responsible for filing told my supervisor I never gave it to her. It looked like I was months behind, and two weeks later it turned up in another office as someone had mistakenly taken it with them when they picked up other stuff.
I think a big part is that most people can't see outside their own perspective to look at the situation clearly and validate where the other person is coming from. It is a two way street though. I think back to my ultrasound when I was pregnant with DS. I was so upset because the tech was rude and rushed. I wish that I had said "I understand that you are busy and do this all the time, but this is my first time seeing my baby and it is a huge deal to me. Can you please explain x and y to me." I think it could have reminded her that just because she does ultrasounds all day, every day, for first time moms, this is a HUGE deal and she could stand to be a bit softer.
Not this one, but my old job made me cry all the damn time. Awful awful awful. Being laid off from there was the best thing that happened to me.
Yes, but not so much anymore. I've gotten better at handling stress and laughing (internally) instead of crying. It's no less frustrating, but it does seem better if I can not get overly emotional on top of whatever the problem is that is bothering me.
I'm a judge for family court. I see, hear and know things that literally makes me sick to my stomach. I have cried so many times in my chambers. There will be days that will make you cry and sometimes wanting to spit in someones food :) Keep yourself classy.
I'm a high school teacher at the lowest performing school in my city. I cry all the time - overwhelmed with work, not enough time with my family, overwhelmed by my students' needs (15% homeless, often in foster care or broken / addicted homes, etc), feeling like I'm making no difference at all but still putting in 14+ hour days...
Somehow I get through it. But most days are so, so rough. I take time out for myself when I can - like now, on WB :)
I'm a high school teacher at the lowest performing school in my city. I cry all the time - overwhelmed with work, not enough time with my family, overwhelmed by my students' needs (15% homeless, often in foster care or broken / addicted homes, etc), feeling like I'm making no difference at all but still putting in 14+ hour days...
Somehow I get through it. But most days are so, so rough. I take time out for myself when I can - like now, on WB :)
Yup, I've cried. Some guy wrote these belittling emails to my bosses (like 3 in the span of 45 minutes) about me; he wasn't happy with the communication I had sent out about a problem I had fixed over the weekend. I worked alot that weekend, and the last thing I was thinking about was sending him some email that could wait until Monday.
You betcha. I made a mistake at work, was majorly stressed out and had the client come in and tear strips off me. I totally cried. My boss made the client apologize though lol
@AcheneMalefic: Oh yeah, I've definitely cried in EVERY job. Every job has some frustrations. Luckily this is the best one I've had, but I have been in the bathroom crying many times. I cry when I'm frustrated as well though... and cry really easily, so for me it's not that big of a deal.
Hang in there!
@ChuckNorris: Exaaaactly. They are extremely rude to me (when, you know, I'm the one that actually ensures their chart is typed up to be seen, and I file their insurance and make sure they're good to go once they leave!) They come up to me on a daily basis and complain about the wait time (I'm sorry, I didn't realize 15 minutes was a long time to wait for a fever and sore throat).
I work in an Emergency Dept, so it isn't the same as a scheduled visit for a doctor's office. Everyone assumes they're dying and that they're the MOST important, when they have no idea what's going on in the back (we actually had one patient pass away, and the lady in front was complaining because she hadn't gotten called back for her migraine yet. Uhhh...) LOL.
I'm doing much better today, thank you for all your wonderful responses! Fortunately, this is just a part-time job for me until I finish college and get a job more suited for me. I would never stay at a job that I considered to be my career if I was unhappy...but this job does pay (a teensy bit) more than minimum wage and it really is easy for me (my coworkers always say that I'm the best and that if anyone else needs help to come to me- does this mean I get a raise? jk lol).
Another good thing is that I've learned to handle stressful situations and can cope better with them now. I have extreme anxiety and don't like social situatinos, so I do like that this job has pushed me into those types of things where I have to learn to handle them well. Yesterday was just a bad, bad day for me due to my recent MC, my current UTI, and the fact that I'm having symptoms of AF now. All that, plus a really rude lady...didn't make for a good reaction from me. ;)
Yes, i work in jewellery retail and over christmas we get some nasty customers. I actually told a customer to get out of my face after he told me that I was just a silly little girl with no education. Come on! He came back later an apologied though because he knew I had burst into tears.
I have before. I am a first year teacher. I feel like, enough said. Parents are so vicious when really they are the ones at fault for either not communicating, or not being honest with you. A little communication could go a long way.
only once I think...it was a client who was being vague and extremely confusing about how she wanted her hair cut (ie: its short but I want it long but I want to cut it today into something it's already too short for LITERALLY) I asked her to leave because she was belittling me, but at least she didn't see me cry!
@AcheneMalefic: Oh honey I feel you. I work in a hospital and I can't tell you how many times I've cried over something stupid just because someone was being rude to me. I've been yelled at by doctors, other nurses, patients, other depts you name it. My current job is scheduling for the entire hospital and associated clinics and most times I love my job but occasionally I get calls from people who think they know what they are talking about and I will try to correct them but I will get rude answers or whatever.
The most recent thing that made me cry was probably when I was scheduling a pt for a test and they started yelling at me because we are getting towards the end of the year and everyone has met their insurance deductible so our depts are pretty full. I was telling the pt what days we had available (which is like 2 weeks out) and they start screaming at me that they can't wait that long to get an MRI, they needed to get in yesterday (meaning their problem couldn't wait, well then why did you wait to call me when I've had the order sitting on my desk for 2 weeks already). I finally had to tell the pt that I was not going to allow them to talk to me as they were (pt was swearing at me) and they could call back after they calmed down. I ended up hanging up on the pt and then telling my boss what happened, but I just started bawling after it happened. I think I was more mad than anything and I tend to cry if I get really mad, plus I was PMSing.
Normally things like that I let roll right off my back. I mean a pt can't get physical with me (for one thing I'm in a closet at a desk all day they couldn't find me if they tried, second the hospital staff wouldn't allow a pt to verbally or physically abuse other staff here). Usually when a pt gets irrate and yells they are being irrational yes they are in pain, yes they want to feel like the only pt in the place but that's just not plausible. Hope you're feeling better, sounds like you've had a rough week.
I think pretty much every job I've ever had has made me cry at some point. I'm in a glass case of emotion!
I definitely cried the most when I was working in restaurants and retail... Restaurant jobs made me cry when my tables would get mad at me over the kitchen messing something up, or give me a bad/no tip along with a scolding when I hadn't done anything wrong. Retail made me cry b/c I worked on commission and one girl in particular would always steal my big sales... and management would do nothing about it. Customer service is a bitch sometimes.
A lot of it really is the people you work with. Corporate culture is so different between teams, even within the same company.
The team I was on when I was living in California was awful. I had at least two major bawl-out sessions that I can think of when I was working there (over 5 years). The first was when my (female) team lead chewed me out in front of my manager and pretty much made me feel insecure about my position there. I ended up working for a different team a week or so later. The second was when I was really trying to get a promotion (typically your first promotion is within a couple years, and I had been there almost 5); I had a meeting with both of my managers and they pretty much said that I wasn't going to get the promotion this year or the following year because the work assignments I was receiving weren't helping me develop skills I would need to get promoted. Oh man. I cried in the bathroom, then went home and cried some more. I felt *awful*. Then I went out and got my transfer to Texas. It's been really rough, but I would take my work environment here over the one I dealt with in Cali any day.
@hisprettygirl: I seriously want to give you a hug. You are making a difference. Thank you for what you do, those students need someone like you!
When I was teaching I cried every night. It was horrible! Not only did I have the most notorious class with several kids with disorders and problems, but my coworkers were a nightmare. 
I'm so sorry they treat you like this. I know all too well how hard it can be.
I was a server for a couple years and now I work at the front desk of a hotel. And let me tell you, they get really nasty. A guest once left his phone in the computer room and when he went back it was gone. Of course he blamed us (although knowing that the computer room was a PUBLIC room). Well he comes to the desk screaming and yelling. Talking about "That phone costs more than your yearly income!" blah blah blah.
Another man got so outraged that he was not personally called in his room when our cookies were available (that were for arriving guests NOT guests already checked in, he already got his cookies when he checked in) that he called the desk yelling and screaming about our hotel being run by nothing but "incompitent women" blah blah blah.
These people really irk me, but after years of being yelled at like this, I've learned those people are just miserable. They want you to be miserable so they aren't the only ones. But I wont let them keep me down. I hope you wont let them either.
I have two more years until I'm out of the customer service field. Just two more years. Some people say "Well you will still have boss' who will yell at you, unless you are your own boss" but I have never once been yelled at by a boss. I'm a darn good worker so I'm not afraid of that.
But working in customer service can really turn you into a hateful person if you let it.
When they are rude, just smile walk away and mentally beat them up a little bit. And when you get home have a few jokes at their expense, it helps a little
ohh gosh. i so know what you mean. ive felt like crying many times at work and after in the past. Im a carer/nurse student and i work from a nursing home and agency. when i go out on call for the agency at nursing homes the nursing staff roll their eyes as soon as i walk into the facility because they might have to work with some one who hasnt been there before. some of the staff boss you around like you are a slave to them aswell and even take advantage and make you deal with all the difficult patients. then to top it off im getting ordered around by the patients and told off when i dont know some thing right (because i dont know them and the nursing staff are terrible at giving me information/hand over on who im looking after) or i dont answer the bell fast enough. Not all of the staff/patients are like this by the way but i totally understand where you are coming from.
@AcheneMalefic: That patient sounds like an asshat. Please don't take it personally!
I'm a high school teacher. Many tears have been shed!
I cried all the time when I worked at a vet clinic. And it was emergency/icu so I saw it all. I couldn't take it. I carried the weight of it everywhere I went and it brought me down and burned me out.
Saw lots of good, heartwarming stuff too, but maybe the 24hrs rotating shifts had something to do with my outlook :P
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I'm having that issue right now.
A patient was extremely rude to me (and, as I was doing a favor for my fellow clerk, it wasn't really my burden to do this) when I tried explaining to her brother that he could call a number to get directly to her room as she was in the hospital. We were very busy and I had a patient waiting in the lobby for me so I HAD to get back quickly, and she said, "What are you doing over there, girl?" I explained that this was just the number for family and a medicare sheet that I was leaving with her. She said, "Frankly, I don't care HOW busy you are in the lobby. If it involves me, you need to talk to me." I said, "Okay, I have to get back to the lobby now, there's a patient waiting." I got back and almost busted into tears. Patients are SO DAMN rude to me all the time, no matter how nice I try to be. You know what? I don't CARE if you're hurting, or sick, or coughing, or what. I have a UTI due to a miscarriage I just had, I'm about to start my real period, and I HURT and you being a total BITCH doesn't make it better!
God, I hate hate hate my job. This is only part time as I get through college, but I really am considering finding a different one with nicer people. I know people can be rude anywhere, but when they're 'sick' they tend to be a little bit meaner/ruder.
I'm always NICE, so nice to everyone that comes in, no matter how they treat me. And it is unfair how absolutely mean they are to me. Yeah, that's life, but I'm going to vent because I'm stressed and I'm depressed and these f**king idiots aren't helping me.
(End rant.) Sorry I was super not nice on here!!