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Has your relationship always been long distance?

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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    J and I were long distance friends before we became a long distance couple - he came all the way around the world to pursue me, a two week trip. It took him a week to get up the guts to do it, and took me five days to respond... so our relationship was only 2 days old when he got on the plane back to America!

    This winter we'll spend 7 weeks together when I go to visit him; it'll be the first time we've been in the same state for more than 2 weeks in we met in high school 8 years ago!

    What about you? How'd you meet, and how'd you end up far away from each other?

     
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    TexasGalah    January 24, 2011   Houston, TX/Queensland, Australia

    That's a great story, Daydream, very romantic. Good thing he got up the courage to speak to you; that must have been an amazing two days!

    Enjoy that 7 weeks. I just got home from 7 weeks with my guy (hmmm, I think I'll call him Spike, an in-joke). It was great being able to just be with him, live with him, for an extended period. Really gave us a chance to see how we'd manage in the same living space. I hope you two enjoy some domestic bliss!

    As for how we met and ended up in this whole long distance situation, we met playing an online roleplaying game. (I'm in the US and he's in Australia.) Our characters hit it off and became a couple (and got married in-game), so we became online friends. Then hurricane Ike knocked out my power for two weeks, and I had this wonderful guy calling me long distance, several times, for hours at a time, and I realized something more was going on. In spite of ourselves we managed to admit how we felt. We had already been planning to meet as friends at Comic-Con in San Diego, but I decided to go meet him a couple of months beforehand. We spent three weeks running around Australia, I met his family, and by the time I left we knew this was the real thing.

    The Internet really can be a wonderful thing.

     
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    wow!! That's awesome, Tex!

     
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    futuredrbraun    May 15, 2010  

    We have been long distance our whole relationship, but not as long distance as you DD and Tex. FI's younger sister and I went to the same university and met in a bible study group. She thought that her brother (my FI) would be perfect for me so we started talking and then met about a week later.

    At first we were only about 3 hours apart (Chicago to Indianapolis) but then I went overseas for a summer during the beginning of our relationship so we were REALLY long distance and now we are Chicago to PA which is about a 10 hour drive. We get to see eachother every couple of weekends and we talk a ton throughout the day.

    It makes it that much better when we do get to see eachother and our communication is SOOOO excellent since we have spent a lot of our relationship talking on the phone. It really helps you get to know eachother in a deep way :)

     
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    zippylef    October 30, 2010   Norfolk, UK

    We actually just became long distance. We dated for 3 years before FI joined the Air Force and left. Actually, his first day in basic was our 3 year anniversary.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Dang, that's a story, daydreamwanderer! I'm all about it =]

    Us: started dating Dec 04, were together for the spring semester, apart for a summer, together one more semester (fall), then 30 minutes apart for another spring semester, lived togheter that summer in GA, then LDR him: Georgia, Me: Missouri....the following summer i was in Seattle.....and two months later he got deployed. Then he came back to GA and I was in St. Louis.

    I need a chart. I confuse myself =]. We were mostly long distance, but we really cemented where we stood in our relationship based on that summer together. I wasn't about to embark on a LDR relationship including a deployment without living with him for a little bit. I really wanted to know how I felt about him. It helped solidify how I felt about him and encouraged me to stick it out for a few more years =]

    And now it's all behind us. It's so strange. Feels like vacation and that tomorrow i'll take him to the airport. But no, I won't. He'll still be here tomorrow and the day after.

    During those 7 weeks, take time for yourself. When you don't spend 24/7 around someone and they're finally here, you'll spend every waking second with them. It will wear you out. I did it for 2 weeks and was exhausted. I needed my "me" time, so try to find some balance, even though you'll be LDR 7 weeks later. For me, I almost startted getting annoyed with having him around so much...i started going tot he gym just to get away from him! It was like, personal space overload....you really do get used to it =]

     
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    mismikado    May 29, 2010   Texas

    That is a sweet story DW!

    FH and I have always been in a LDR of 500 miles altho there was a brief 4 months where we were 2000 miles apart and did not see each other at all :-/

    I just can't believe that we will finally be together forever in only 6 months :)

     
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    DreamComeTrue    06-25-2011   Silver Spring MD

    FH and I met online...I thought he lived in Birmingham US...but he lives in Birmingham UK ;) ROFL However that was never an issue for either of us. So, we clicked from the first message...March 2008 and we've been together in a long distance relationship ever since. It has been an amazing journey! We feel that our ability to survive this has given us the foundation we need to last a lifetime.

     
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    Such great stories!

    Aren't we fortunate to have stuff like the internet to help us keep in touch (and sometimes meet)? I think, often, how much harder this would have been 50 years ago - then again, 50 years ago I probably wouldn't have come to China as a single woman, and if I had, J probably wouldn't have pursued me for it.

     
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    gingerlex    June 25, 2011   UK

    Sort of, we both went to university away from our homes, so we could be together there, but when we were at home it was long distance. Since graduating and doing a training year we've had to maintain long distance because of our work contracts. We take turns seeing each other on the weekend like we did when we were on summer/easter/christmas breaks :)

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    We've always been apart.

    We met online playing a free-trial game on zone.com! We were both in long term relationships with other people, but kept in touch via MSN messenger. Fast forward 11 months later- we were both single & he met me in Seattle, Washington for a weekend! It was an amazing weekend & we both have fond memories and feelings about SEA! :)

    We first talked May 2005.

    We met April 2006.

    Broke up June 2007. (As you know LDR are hard and often fall apart around the 1 year mark- we were that statistic! Ahh)

    Got back together January 2008.

    Got engaged March 2009.

    Getting married July 2010.

    *Phewf*

     
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    tea       norcal

    yup, we've been long distance from the start. we met via our blogs, i commented on his blog first and then he returned the favor and then we started IMing each other and then finally talking on the phone. we were talking for about four months before he asked me to be his girlfriend.

    almost five years later and we're still just as happy as can be and looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together!

    once we figure out how to close the gap. haha

     
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    @RB - I've never knew you guys broke up (for 6 months!) before. I'm glad it worked out :)

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    @daydream: We broke up... it was terrible. We just kind of stopped talking after we had a big fight right before I left to fly home from his place.

    (oh my gosh I can't believe I'm saying this!) He told me in November 2007 "I don't want to speak to you ever again" or something equally as devastating... so the next day I hopped on a plane, rented a car, drove to his work & waited for him to come out during his lunch break.

    I sat outside the courthouse & had a 2 hour conversation with the bailiff. lol the courthouse was up in arms trying to figure out why I was there waiting. I just wanted to talk. I knew if he saw me again, in person, he couldn't say no to me! lol ahhh.

    It sounds crazy... but it saved our relationship. He said so himself! Once he saw me he lost his anger, we talked it out & we started building a solid foundation. :) We've been together ever since.

     
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    RedTartan    December 2010   The beach

    Oh yes. We met online. He was so perfect for me that I didn't care about the distance involved when I first emailed him.

    Ten months later he flew out to meet me. Within 24 hours, we both knew we'd found the one.

    A few more trips and eighteen months later, we're planning our wedding.

     
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    We lived in the same place for a little over two years, then moved to different states after graduation. For the next year and a half we were ten hours apart, then I moved again for work and we were 3 hours apart for 9 months, now we have been an hour and a half apart for the past year and a half. I'll be creeping even closer and we will be living together by JUne! It is going to be a big change.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I think without the internet and modern technology, we may not have made it. It makes you so much more connected and I don't think I could have handled "just" snail mail. We must realize we are indeed spoiled by internet and whatnot, even if it still sucks to be LDR

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    We're different than a lot of the LDR on here, in that we met in person, lived in the same town (and the same neighborhood!) for the first 8 months of our relationship, and then went long distance. We knew that we would eventually have to be LD from the beginning because of the timeline of how he got into TFA. We've been LD for 5 months but it honestly feels like it has always been this way! I'm glad we had the foundation of being together in person for so long first. I've been in other LDR when we started out LD and its really hard, though of course if its the right person, you can always make it work - as so many of you have!!

     
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    @RB - wow, that's a crazy story. I'm so glad things worked out... good for you, going for what you knew was right!

     
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    MAlove    May 7, 2011   Boston

    BF and I met at a new employees training course in IL. We were staying at the same hotel and went out with others we were training with and partied. I was in a relationship at the time. What I didn't know was that BF had the hots for me and we kept in touch via FB.

    Fast forward 1 year and my relationship was done, I embarked on a trip to NYC to celebrate my singledom where I reunited with BF (the girls decided to bring their BF's and I wasn't going to go alone and hadn't seen him in awhile since I had quit my job where I met him). Now we visit every 8 weeks (or try to).

    Being in an LDR is definitely hard, but the the time spent alone won't feel that long when we're trying to learn to live together. Also, I get to enjoy life as a single person while still being loved :)

     

     
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    We were friends at college, but we didn't start dating until after he had graduated and was in the Navy.  We maintained a LDR for the next 3.5 years, at which point we both moved to Virginia.  We were here together for a little over a year and now we're apart again for the last few months before our wedding since he started grad school in NC.  I thought that being married would put an end to our long distance aspect, but with a summer internship for him looming, I think we'll have at least one more round!

     
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    jamie80218    7/10/10   Denver, CO

    Such great stories. My FI was living in Denver until July when he moved to Atlanta for a job. We've been doing the long distance thing ever since. I can't wait till we live in the same town again!

     
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    allisonc    October 9, 2010   Boston, MA, wedding in Middletown, CT

    We've always been long distance, since March 2005 (where'd the time go!) The longest amount of time we've spent together is 10 days in Costa Rica, LOL. It's funny, writing it out like that makes it seem as if we barely know each other! I can't wait til fiance finds a job up here and we can live together full time.

    @daydream: enjoy those 7 weeks!

     

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