Post # 1
Often times bliss leads to resentment once the wedding planning starts. Just a reminder – do not sweat the small stuff! Men are generally not interested in calligraphy, chair covers, or aisle runners.
If your gentleman isn’t interested in the details, don’t force it on him. More importantly, do not take it personally! He just wants to marry you.
Enjoy your time as a couple. You’ll have the rest of your lives to plan parties and celebrate.
Post # 3
It’s the same. Very pleasurable, we both gush when we talk about the wedding. 🙂
Post # 4
It’s better! We feel more of a family unit already. I think it also helps to be living together, see his cute face every day 🙂
Post # 5
@lina010: +1. It’s the same. He cares a lot more about the wedding than I do, but that’s okay.
Post # 6
It has gradually improved but I think at a fairly consistent rate compared to when we were dating. I don’t know how much it has impacted relationship quality. Maybe it has improved it just a little because now there is that extra symbolic heft of the fact that we are engaged. It makes it feel a little more like “there’s no going back now, we’ll just have to sort this out!” when we disagree.
Wedding planning has not really impacted our relationship because
1. We are having a fairly simple wedding and longer engagement
2. He likes party planning just as much as I do (perhaps more) so he is playing an equal role in it.
TBH there is nothing interesting to me about chair covers or aisle runners.
Post # 7
I learned very early on that my husband didn’t give a shit about wedding planning and when he did have an opinion it was important and I had better listen.
No bitterness or resentment after I learned this fact. I thought we’d be planning together but he wanted no part of that, so when I realized it was now my problem, everything went swimmingly.
Post # 8
The relationship hasn’t changed any more than it would have had we not been engaged. Time has a way of changing things…
Post # 9
Mine seems the same. We’re both really excited and giddy over the wedding and having the same last name, so maybe a smidge better because we’re acting like hyper teenagers.
Post # 10
It’s always been about the same for us! We’re a pretty steady pair.
And my Darling Husband LOVED wedding planning! He was a total Groomzilla.
Post # 11
For a period of time this spring it was quite rough, but that wasn’t all to do with the wedding. Then things improved and have been great ever since.
We haven’t really fought over the wedding or anything, but I have had added stress because of it, and I think that strained us a bit.
Post # 12
I agree with PP”s that now during arguments that whole “this is going to be forever so let’s hug it out” is a lot more prevalent.
On the flip side, we’re still pretty steady, if not a little better overall. We moved in together fairly early on so we definitely had some kinks to work out!
Post # 13
It has stayed the same. For a little bit after engagement, I was in “wife in training” mode, and super lovey-dovey, but the actualy relationship has stayed the same.
Post # 14
in the long run, it’s about the same. Right after we got engaged, we both got super lovey and happy but leveled out back to normal after about 6 months. Things still feel the same except all the talk about wedding and the rest of our lives together 🙂