Post # 1
I was talking about pinterest with my SO and was telling him about the different boards I have. I told him I had a future children board and a wedding board. He just kind of smirked and shook his head. I then added that I also have a ‘future home’ board and he goes, “Well, I can understand that one somewhat.”
I was not pleased with his reaction to my having a wedding board. But I just dropped the topic and let it be.
What frustrating comments has your SO made?
Post # 3
@mollz0621: I think it depends exactly where you are in the waiting period. My SO has told me we’ll be engaged by the end of the month, so there’s no pressuring from me, he even brought up the idea of e-pics tonight and I showed him my favorite photographer and how much they cost, etc. He knows I have a ton of wedding ideas and look at dresses and stuff, but he know we wouldn’t be getting married until Fall 2014 and he knows he’s got the lead on the engagement, so he’s not annoyed by it.
Post # 4
I agree…it all depends on where you are in the waiting process. Wedding conversations happen all the time at my place and it’s not weird because it’s getting really really close.
Post # 5
We’ve just recently started talking marriage. No timeline discussed yet, so it’s still a very fresh topic.
Post # 6
I think it depends on where you are in your relationship. It also depends on your age. If I was 20 and made mention to my SO that I had pinterest boards about my dream wedding and children, I could see where that could be frightening/annoying to any man.
Men are weird like that . . .
I’m 26, and my FI and I have been together over two years (engaged for one). He knew going into this relationship I wanted to get married and have kids someday, but I never got on to pinterest until after the engagement just to stay organized with my ideas. Try not to push too hard or you will push him away.
Post # 7
I agree with everyone above. I’m able to mention wedding things to my SO but we are a few weeks away from getting engaged and we would like to get married in fall 2013 so he knows we are already running low on time. You definitely don’t want to overwhelm him! I think the childrens board might be a little much but I watch ALOT of HGTV and for probably 4/5 of our 3 year long relationshp have been talking about what I want to do with our future house. He has never cared about that. The children’s thing might have bothered him though (but I’ve been a nanny for 3 years and would never have a pinterest board about it because I know exactly how I want to raise my kids) and we aren’t planning on having children in the near future.
Post # 8
I don’t know about frustrating, but maybe funny? Okay, yeah it was pretty damn frustrating. 🙂 We’re already engaged and we have been for a long time now, but when I was waiting for my ring I kept asking him when he was going to do it (we already had the ring I picked out online but I was waiting for the proposal). He kept giving me really vague answers. Once, I asked him for a clue, and he said “Twinkle, twinkle, in my eye…you will get your ring sometime in the next 11 months”. UGHH! Damn him!
But it will come eventually, and it will be wonderful when it does, I promise! (Plus, he asked me way earlier than 11 months)
Post # 9
Im a BM for 2 of my friends, one has a definite date for next July, and the other is shooting for next September if she can get a certain venue, otherwise it will be the follwing spring. And I have had soo much fun looking at ideas for menus, favors, flowers, etc. Thats how I found this site in the first place. Bride one is on a budget, so Ive been helping her find easy money cutting ideas for many things wedding related, and bookmarked them in my laptop, and have a folder in ‘My Pictures’ He teases me about being wedding obsessed at first, and it made me want to smack him!!
Then after being on the Bee for awhile, and posting on threads, voting on polls, I told him I already have some things planned out, like the bridal party. Cause what girl doesnt fantasize about her wedding? And he told me when/if he got married again he would have Nick as his best man, and Mike, Brian, and Kieth as GM. I told him he needed 2 more people and he said “Wow, you have that many friends?” REALLY??
Post # 10
@chillyteddy: lol I was thinking the same thing. They can be he-man of the universe but mention weddings when they’re not ready and suddenly they’re Bambi
Post # 11
All.the.time. Most of them involve him mentioning how the act of getting married is unimportant to him.
Post # 12
Oh i definately understand what you’re talking about. SO has talked about a wedding and kids since we started dating and likes to taunt me with the idea. Yesterday we were laying in bed talking about the trip were taking after I graduate and when he’s going to have his debt paid off and he started singing the wedding march(or whatever its called) then took my hand(as I stuffed my mouth with more salad) and said “i have a question to ask you…” I rolled my eyes and he started laughing “yeah, no i’m just kidding.” Then later that night we went over to his parents and his dad starts talking about how getting married lowers your car insurance and says “maybe you should get on that!” and SO responds “Yeah you get a huge tax break too.” After that as we were leaving I asked about that and he just responded with “yeah that was awkward right?” Aghh…the man is slowly driving me crazy lol.
Post # 13
@MsSorixo: O.M.G. I would so slap my SO silly! That’s just cruel!!! (Okay – I wouldn’t really resort to violence, and would giggle about it later, but I would definitely be rocking the pouty face for awhile)
Post # 14
Haha yes! The SO keeps joking that he might postpone proposing and that I may have the next ten years to wait… I just glare at him lol
Post # 15
We were in Cuba last April and had an argument about getting married. Anyway, after the argument we went to the common square where there happened to be karoke that night and the guy singing just happened to be singing the 70’s, 80’s song Patience (don’t know what band it is) My SO sat right next to me and sang that song to me. I could of knocked him over into the water fountain we were sitting on!!