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Hat or no hat

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  • poll: Can future MIL wear a hat with her outfit?
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    stressedbride2be    September 17, 2011   outside of DC

    My future MIL wants to wear a hat with her outfit. My understanding has always been hats aren't allowed out of respect however, I wasn't sure if church hats are allowed. I know I see little girls wearing Easter hats but don't know if they can get away with it because they're small. So what's the deal? Can future MIL wear a hat to our wedding?

     
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    MissSawyer    September 1, 2012   Toronto, Ontario

    I think women are allowed to wear hats to church as well if they wish, I've never heard otherwise. Men are to remove them but I was under the impression that women were not an issue.

    I could definitely be wrong though!

     
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    Neva    July 2010  

    She can definitely wear a hat.  When my parents were growing up, ALL women wore hats in the Catholic Church.  Now it's not required, but it has always been allowed.

     
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    june42011    January 29, 2012   NORTH DAKOTA

    When my mom was in gradeschool they went to Catholic Church everyday and you had to wear a hat. If you didn't you had to put a kleenex on your head to cover it. It was actually seen as a sign of disrespect NOT to wear a hat.

     
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    stressedbride2be    September 17, 2011   outside of DC

    @june42011: hmmm didn't know that!

    Thanks gals for your answers! She'll be happy to hear this!

     
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    Loribeth    December 1, 2010   Michigan (Married in Savannah, GA)

    Women are allowed to wear hats indoors, but men are required to remove theirs... At least that's the way I've always known it to be.  Back in the 1950s and into the 1960s, women always wore some kind of hat or covering on their heads to attend Mass.

     
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    Hirondelle    July 21, 2012   Portsmouth, NH (getting married in Montesquieu, France)

    Hat are ok for women. Not that long ago, they had to cover their head in public including especially at church. All the women (at least most of them) at our wedding wil probably wear hats.

     
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    tinlizzleizzle    September 24, 2011   Washington, DC

    I say let her wear a hat. Hats can be absolutely fabulous, and an easy way to lend a bit of old-fashioned elegance to a wedding. Just look at Kate and William's wedding a few weeks ago. I almost wish I could get some people to wear hats to mine. It just seems like fun.

     
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    Miss Smashville    September 17, 2011   Nashville, TN

    My FMIL is wearing a hat at our wedding & I think it's awesome & hilarious & so totally her!

     
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    jedeve    August 14, 2010   Montana

    Didn't you watch the royal wedding?  Hats galore! :-)

     
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    mandi.pitt    October 15, 2011   Nashville, Tennessee

    @Miss Smashville: Hey Miss Smashville! I saw your name and wondered if you were from Nashville! You're Catholic? Where do you go to church? :)

     
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    FutureMrsMaher    July 22, 2012   Bridgend, South Wales, UK

    Well over here hats are the norm (or more so that elsewhere, on the decline though) and it's standard to wear a hat to a wedding ESPECIALLY a church wedding. It is literally unheared of that a MOB in particular wouldn't wear a hat. A hat used to be considered part of a woman's 'Sunday best' and it is totally fine for ladies to sport them in a church. Gents to remove them indoors out of respect as mentioned previously.

     
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    Miss Stella    November 17, 2012  

    june42011 is right. Women wore hats, scarves, mantilla/chapel veils (or if they didn't have one, a kleenex) to cover their head as a sign of dignity and humility before God. Although it is less common today (in my area) to see mantilla veils, I still see plenty of women wearing hats to mass. So, if your MIL wants to wear one, I'd say absolutely go for it :) 

     
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    simpleandchic    November 27, 2010   Adelaide, South Australia

    It is very appropriate for a lady to wear a hat to church, especially a wedding!

     
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    Sasha2011    July 30, 2011   Toronto

    I love hats! They have a dignified sexiness to them! And yes, they are 'allowed' in church for women.

     
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    @Neva: Exactly what I was about to type!

     
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    rosworms    October 10, 2012   Sea Breeze Point in Disney World

    i'm not having a church wedding, but i am thinking of telling people to wear the most outrageous hats they can find (as a bit of goofiness to make fun of some of the guests at the royal wedding).

    even though etiquette says a female can wear a hat... really, it's up to you as it is your wedding.

     
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    stressedbride2be    September 17, 2011   outside of DC

    @jedeve: That I did....however, we're not in England and def not royalty. lol

     
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    DanielleZara    August 21, 2010   California

    Totally fine. Royal Wedding proves it. Men - no.

     
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    Mrs.Oat    September 3, 2011  

    Everyone's right! Men remove their hats in church out of respect, while women always used to wear hats or head coverings in church, also out of respect. Now it's less common for women to wear hats but always allowed.

     
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    playingdaisy    September 8, 2012   Forest Hills, NY, wedding in South Jersey

    @rosworms: I'm thinking of doing the same thing! I think it would be so much fun to see what hats the women come wearing.

     
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    red_seattle    April 17, 2010   Seattle

    My granny (most genuinely, warmly hearted, saintly Catholic woman I ever knew) wore a hat everyday, including every Sunday to church as part of her outfit. On top of that, as others have said (yeah, beating a dead horse here), hats or mantilla or chapel veils were required in church up until Vatican II. It's definitely acceptable for your FMIL to wear a hat in a Catholic church during your wedding ceremony.

    As a side note-- can we please bring back hats in the US? I know it's a bit more common in the south, but I rarely see women (especially not younger women) wearing hats around here. And they seem so fun and chic!

     

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