Post # 1
OK so about 6 months ago I was moved into a new position within my company, and I didn’t have any say in it. At that point I was already engaged, and planning on inviting my old boss and several coworkers to my wedding.
Now that I’ve moved, I’m in a very small department with only about five people. I don’t particularly care for anyone I work with now a whole lot, and especially not my boss. I’ve heard that it is correct etiquette to invite your boss, or even your entire department.
My question is, do I have to? I really dont want to have to see her face on my wedding day. I also like to keep my personal life personal, and don’t talk alot about my wedding plans at work. My new boss is, however, likely to hold a personal grudge if she is expecting an invite and doesn’t get one.
Also, if I don’t invite my new boss or anyone from my new department, does that mean that I absolutely can’t invite people from my old department either??
Post # 3
I invited the people that I work closely with and have hung out with outside of work. That did not include my boss (who has been by boss for six months of the two years I’ve been with the company).
Post # 4
IMO I think you should only invite those you’re closest to (old group). As you stated, you were already in your planning & already had a guestlist planned out; a guestlist that didn’t include your new dept.
Post # 5
I think you should invite your old group but don’t spread it around the office that you’re inviting work people.
I am not inviting anyone from my work and I work with a very small group. But space, money and my nerves are limited and I don’t particularly like anyone I work with, so I decided not to invite any of them. Including the boss.
Post # 6
Hell no, you don’t have to.
Post # 7
You don’t have to invite your boss or anyone from work, but try not to talk about wedding business at work…
Post # 8
I would just skip inviting everyone from your new work group. If you haven’t been working with them that long, they really shouldn’t expect an invitation. And I think coworkers tend to be more understanding about this sort of thing…you can’t invite the whole office!
Post # 9
Uhhh I’m not inviting anyone that I work with – no boss, no co-workers… but I’m not really close with them and don’t talk about my wedding around them. Is it really considered bad etiquette to not invite them??
Post # 10
I wouldn’t invite a co-worker who is not a true friend outside of work! Don’t worry about needing to invite a boss or about the fact that your friends who happen to work at the same place are getting an invitation.
Post # 11
I didn’t invite anyone in my office of 8 people. I did invite a client that I was friends with though.
Post # 12
I would just invite your old co-workers that you had already planned on inviting. You have done everything right by not talking about your wedding plans to your current co-workers, so they should not expect an invite. I have changed companies since I got engaged and work for a very small company now where I have not invited anyone, but I still invited my some of my co-workers from my old job, but only the ones I am closest to.
Post # 13
I invited two people from work. There’s no way I was going to invite everyone or my boss. I like most of the people I work with, but I didn’t think I needed to share my vows in front of them.
Post # 14
Invite none of them. Just tell them you’re having a family wedding. i don’t think anyone will really think much of it and just don’t talk about your wedding at work.
Post # 15
It’s not proper etiquette to invite your boss. However, I would follow the all or nothing rule. If you invite co-workers, invite your boss, if you don’t invite coworkers don’t worry about inviting your boss. There’s no rule out there that says your required to invite your boss.
Post # 16
I work in a 5 person office and I’m not inviting any of them. I like my co-workers, but I don’t see them outside of work and I don’t feel the need for them to come!