Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a DW and only inviting immediate family. Unfortunately, this is going to leave many people (fiance’s extended family) upset because they won’t be able to attend. I’m trying to decide if we should have an event before or after the wedding. I just don’t know what that event would be called. It’s not a shower. Basically the purpose of the “event” would be to have everyone there to celebrate with us. I need a lot of help Bee’s I don’t know where to start. What would this event be called? What would the event consist of? Party? Dinner? I’m basically cluelesss.
Post # 2
ny88: I would have the party after the wedding and call it what it is – a celebration of your marriage. Depending how formal you want it and how many people you invite it could be a BBQ, a party, a dinner….
We were planning to do this for all DH’s family who couldn’t come to our UK wedding but after the stress of the actual wedding and the time it took us to get here (near his family) we just couldn’t be bothered! We decided we were over the wedding thing and wanted to focus on the married part.
Post # 3
Are your parents willing to host an engagement party for you? I have family that lives on a different continent entirely and I knew they would likely not be attending my wedding. There was talking of them visiting for a series of family events this year, so my parents took that opportunity to host an engagement party for us so my extended family could be included in our celebration!
I don’t know if engagement parties are a tradition where you live, but where I am, they are a popular non-gift giving event. The fact that no one is obliged to bring a gift made it palatable for us, since we didn’t want to seem gift grabby. My engagement party happened 1.5 years before my wedding, but most people have it ~5-6 months before the wedding.
Post # 4
flowercrowns: That’s something for though. For some reason an engagement party totally slipped my mind.lol I kept thinking of the bridal shower. My fiance is the one that’s super concerned. I’ll have to pose that idea to him tonight. We’re planning on having a 11/2- 2 year engagment. What do you think would be a good time to have it?
Post # 5
LaPetiote: A BBQ sounds like a great idea! It’s very laid-back and low-key. This is definitely food for thought. I’m feeling foolish now because I didn’t think of this.lol Thanks!
Post # 6
ny88: You’re welcome. That’s what the Bee is for – sharing ideas and experience.
Just noticed, we are almost profile photo twins! 🙂
Post # 7
ny88: Hi! We are doing something very similar to this. We live in VA, our families live in OH and PA, and we’re getting married in FL.
His parents hosted an “engagement party” for all of his family and our family friends in the OH area in December. Mine are hosting a similar “engagement party” for my family in PA in June. They’re really just ways to get all of our extended family together without anyone feeling left out, while keeping our small and intimate DW the way we want it.
Our party in Dec was at his parents’ house, just light snacks and drinks and socializing. The one in June will be a cookout at my uncle’s house. Nothing formal!
Post # 8
have it after and call it a celebration of marriage.
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
ny88: We are having a reception after our DW.
Post # 10
We are doing the same thing as you but will be having a reception dinner a couple months after our DW. We wanted it to be simple but we are the first of our close family members to get married so we had to add extra things..it has pretty much become a full out wedding reception dinner minus the ceremony beforehand!
We will be showing our quick highlight video during the dinner though so guests who were not able to attend can see a “summary” of our wedding day!! 🙂
Post # 11
ny88: We did the exact same thing- a DW with just 4 guests because we legally needed 4 witnesses. Then we did a back home celebration. We just called it a Fiesta since we got married in Mexico and I got mexican decor… That made it easy at least, otherwise we were going to call it a post-wedding celebration/BBQ. We did super low-key, just rented out a pavilion at a state park, our families wanted to bring food, so we provided the main dishes, drinks, and decor. We didn’t do dancing or bouquet tosses or anything you would have at a reception really except toasts. It was nice getting to catch up with everyone and tell them about the wedding for a while.
We even had our photographer agree to edit at least 20 pics before the fiesta (about a week in between wedding & fiesta) so we would have those for the family & they loved it if you can swing that. We didn’t get a pro photographer for the fiesta, however a friend that used to shoot weddings professionally showed up with his camera in tow & snapped away as his gift to us.
Heres a few pics to give you an idea of how laid-back the whole thing was. I was planning on wearing my dress again (my dad had purchased it and wasn’t there to see it and I really wanted him to) but it rained the night before really hard and it was a muddy mess, and there were alot of kids & dogs I knew would be running around….
I only purchased a little of the decor, I just wanted to keep it simple & hassle free, but my grandma wanted it to be much more and I wanted her to be happy so I let her go at it and she did an amazing job!!! Seriously, like over half the stuff in the pics is all her =)