Post # 1
I have an appointment next Monday with a seamstress. I am nervous. I am not a super confident girl, nor am I a foofy girl.
I am quite modest. I don’t like to dress and undress in front of strangers. I hate my body. And when ever possible, I keep it covered. I am very conservative with my clothing choices.
I am already having dress regret, and now I am worried that I will have the wicked witch seamstress who will point out all my flaws. I hate that I consume over this, and it is forever on my mind. How do I MAKE IT STOP??
So Bee’s, tell me about your fears. Were you worried that everyone would notice all the imperfections? Did you have a great seamstress? Is there any obvious pitfalls I need to be aware of? Did you have a train wreck experience?? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
Honestly, my experience with seamstress was exactly the opposite. She was so reaffirming to me, and me feel great about myself. I think that experience is more typical from what I hear from other brides.
Post # 4
@thumpurr: I’ve had two fittings now, and I’ve experienced both good and the bad sides.
During my first fitting, my seamstress was super busy (multiple fittings, constant phone calls, etc) and I definitely felt rushed. She was speaking very loudly, and was quite forceful – and literally just took the dress out of my hands before I could even consider going to a different seamstress for second opinion. She also didn’t pin me all that nicely or was all that proper. AND it felt extremely awkward with her reaching under my dress to pull down my petticoat and all that (ewwww haha). Yes, I did feel a bit violated, but it had to be done. If you are really against that, just have someone come with you and let the seamstress teach that person how to do it – instead of the seamstress herself going under your dress.
I didn’t really voice my irritation or get into an argument with her because I’m usually shy and not outspoken – and I just decided to go with her (she has very good reputaiton and reviews). I was very nervous for the next month, obviously.
Come my second fitting, the shop was a lot more relaxed and not as busy, and the seamstress gave me full attention. I did not feel rushed, and she pinned me again (the dress needed to be tightened some more) very properly, answered all my questions and concerns, and I felt great. She also did not have to reach in under my dress (ha!) because my mom did it properly this time herself.
Now i’m waiting for my third fitting in the beginning of December – and I’m not dreading it.
Hope that helps 🙂
Post # 5
@thumpurr: Dont be nervous. My seamstress has been wonderful. I was kinda nervous when I first went bc i read a few things about people being offended by her, but my friend went there and loved her. She is definitely blunt…not in a bad way, but she doesn’t beat around the bush and is honest. Which I like. She offered a few suggestions…we ran into a problem trying to figure out my bustle so I ended up going for my second fitting last month just for the fitting. My next fitting will be next month to take in the corset. The way I look at it is they work on so many dresses and so many different shapes and sizes…that they will know what they’re doing and take good care of you. Have fun with it! I loved playing dressup in my dress! haha
Post # 6
I was actually surprised that the seamstress did not come into the dressing room when my daughter went in for her fittings. We had to put her in the dress and then come out to the fitting floor. The seamstress also made sure my daughter was wearing undergarments before she put her hands (and head, that skirt is gigantic) up under there. She even apologized in advance for “gettin fresh” by accident. I thought she was wonderful. My daughter is not super shy as far as changing in front of women. I mean she does what she has to do.
You should be fine. And they should never insult you. Good luck!
Post # 7
Well I went to the appointment. I had mixed results.
First of all, Aunt Flow is about to visit so I was bloated, and the dress while it can be fully zipped, it is really tight. The problem, it was so tight in my lower ribcage and tummy area that it was not comfortable to breathe……AT ALL.
The good news. The seamstess, was terrific. She made some small adjustments with the straps, and the dress looked really good, minus the length which is still just really too long. She pinned the bottom, so hopefully next time I will see the dress it may actually fit length wise. She was super nice, and the price was really much lower than I had anticipated. Total estimated price, with out any other alterations $187, for a 3 point french bustle, shortening the length (seven layers of fabric to hem), and shortening the straps. I have another appointment in January, to see if the torso fits better.
But the really good news. I no longer have dress regret. This was my first time seeing my dress in large mirrors. With the train fully opened. And now I know that this is my dress. The sunlight hits the skirt and the top layers of tulle looks so beautiful against the under layers which are more fitted. I would have taken some pictures, but my fiance went with ne…..and he doesn’t take pictures very well.
I also bought some spanx. And I only have one word for that experience. Seriously?? How does one use the bathroom with this stuff on?? This was definitely a waste of money. So I am continuing my search for some shapewear that is not quite so awful. I searched and searched for a good strapless bra, (size 38D) and had zero luck finding anything that I liked. So if you ladies have any SPECIFIC item suggestions I am all ears. I need tummy control and a bra that lifts the girls. So that experience was a little frustrating.
But overall, I am super excited about the alterations. And I love my dress, and I cannot wait to see her in all of her altered beauty. And I am really hoping that Aunt Flow is the reason for everything being so tight in the tummy area…..more importantly that Aunt Flow doesn’t visit on my wedding day.
Post # 8
@thumpurr: Glad to hear it went well!
As for shapewear, I personally recommend a longline bra and maybe just extra control panties or boy-leg shapewear shorts. A lot of the Spanx have long legs, practically to your knees, and they also go right up to the bustline. This makes them hard to get off, on two fronts.
Your dress is a-line so you may not need heaps of control around the belly anyway. And you wouldn’t need spank that go to the bustline if you’re wearing a longline bra.
I’m far bigger than you and that is the combination I wore.
Post # 9
A word of caution. If the dress was already tight, adding a bra to the mix will only make it worse. If you get a long line bra, you may have to have the dress let out. Maybe check if your seamstress has bra cups she can put in the dress.