Post # 1
Ok, so the ceremony is at 6 pm for about 35- 40 minutes. Everything else … follows right after about 3 blocks away in our venue.
So, if you haven’t read, I dislike cocktail hours that are in a hallway in front of the ballroom. The one I’ve experienced was painful to me b/c I hated it so much. There were no chairs, I didn’t know anyone, no music … it was awful and weird for me.
My wedding planner said, lets have the cocktail hour in another ballroom and lead guests into the next ballroom for the reception … I was so into that idea until recently. I realized how wasteful it would be for me to go through with decorations, furniture, flowers, etc. for a ballrom in which my guests would only see for 45 minutes tops. Plus, I don’t want them to have to wander around the hotel.
So, I am thinking, the ballroom has an extraordinary, all marble area outside of it. We have private full use of it, and I think I want to have that decorated lavishly and some type of comfortable setting for my guests to mingle – 45 minutes tops. Hors d’oevres, refreshments and cocktails will be served. Some kind of quartet or whatever music will be playing for the 45 mins too.
My mom said, why don’t you open up the doors to the ballroom so that guests can look around and see how pretty everything is.
I like that idea actually. She is coming though with so many cool thoughts!!!!!!!! I love her. Ok, so what does the hive think?????????
Post # 3
Will you mind if people start sitting down in the ballroom, because I think that’s what will happen. I know my parents and older relatives will make a beeline for any available seating, even if it’s marked "Reserved" and clearly off limits. Definitely think of a contingency plan should that happen.
Post # 4
I actually wouldn’t mind if the grandmas and older guests have a seat … it wouldn’t hurt. Although, most of the elderly in our family is very lively … as much as everyone else!
I haven’t worked out the logistics but I want some kind of table/chair situation to be in the room … not sure what … just now coming up with the ideas. Maybe high tables and chairs … maybe an ice bar …not sure. Loungy seating? Hmm… it’s pretty big and I have 150 guests invited, not sure how many will RSVP so I will not have a huge amt. of people.
Post # 5
Yep! I’ve been to a few weddings where you could see into the ballroom and it was perfectly fine. No point in being wasteful. You want assigned seating!!!!!!
Post # 6
Personally I like the "reveal" of when the ballroom doors are opened and you have your first look of the reception area. If the foyer to the reception ballroom is as nice you say, why not just have the cocktail hour there and let the anticipation of what’s to come, build.
Post # 7
If you don’t mind, then I think it sounds great! The loungy idea will be very cool!
Post # 8
Meowkers, you’re so right, I think. Maybe it’s just the "cannot handle surprises or keep secrets b/c I am horrible at it" part of me … that wants to be like "SEE HERE IT IS" lol.
Ok, so I guess it would be cool to keep everyone in the foyer … than "open up" for the reveal.
The thing is, fiance and I are taking pictures pre-ceremony and minimal formal shots at the church … maybe like a pose with the parents and that’s it – if that!
I’m having a portrait photographer for a couple hours just to take formal shots.
We want to leave the church asap once the ceremony is done … not take formal shots there. That’s just us, we aren’t doing it. We also want to go to the venue right away to start having fun. So really, a cocktail hour could be very short.
Now that I think about it….
MUST I have a cocktail hour … is it required? Lol. Will guests be upset if there isn’t that "cocktail hours" … I mean, what if they start arriving, waiters are there to offer refreshments, bride and groom arrive … and we go into the ballroom- that will be the big reveal? Do we have to make it an … hour … or in my case, 45 minutes?
Post # 9
I’m having my cocktail hour in the same ballroom as my reception (is that the idea you’re toying with?). I wasn’t okay with it at first because I wanted everyone to see how beautiful it looked when we go there, but I love the idea now. Mostly because everyone can get to know each other, walk around, find a seat and mingle.
Post # 10
Ok, kind of changed my thinking just now…
Since we will arrive to the venue our cocktail hour /reception will be held at right away, we will just go at the same time as the other guests. Probably they will be there for about 10 minutes and we will arrive.
I’m thinking I will just have some kind of quartet play, cocktails and hors d’oeuvres served, and have some type of seating <- haven’t figured out what seating I like.
Once we arrive, we’ll have a grand entrance and guests will be able to go into the ballroom.
Should the doors be closed, should they be open with a velvet rope blocking it, or should the doors be taken off and have some kind of drapes/curtains that block the view and can be opened to enter … hmmm
Post # 11
You definitely don’t have to have a cocktail hour if you don’t want to. I think it was started because couples wanted their guests to have time to mingle and get to know each other and relax before being seated for dinner, but also so that the bride and groom would have time to take pictures, touch up make-up, change into their "second dress" (or bustle their first!), etc. =) It just gives you more time between ceremony and reception, and allows them to "blend" into each other.
Post # 12
see I am the same as moewkers, I like the reveal. I am lucky enough to be renting out a venue with 3 floors, dinner is on the 2nd floor and cocktails will be on the 3rd floor. No one will see the 2nd floor until right before we get there and they can take their seats for our entrance! love it!
but yes, I agree You dont NEED to have a cocktail hour if you don’t want. I only chose mine because it broke up time a bit (yes I am one of thoe weddings where there is a few house in between) ceremony will end around 2:30is dinner doesnt start till 6-630 so had to have something in between so cocktails at 4