Have any Bees gone 10 years between pregnancies with no (or minor) problems?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@brighteyedgirl:  My mom had my sister 17 years after she had me. There are no siblings or pregnancies in between. My mom was 40 when she had my sister and it was an uneventful pregnancy. My sister was born with a perfect Apgar score at 7 lb 13 ounces. She is now a very healthy and precocious 12 year old. I think a big gap is good because there is time to celebrate each child’s accomplishments without overshadowing the sibling.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I can set your mind at rest about one thing… a scrotal hernia will  not affect your TTC or your baby.

… HOWEVER, it is still very serious. To be honest, this is the thing which would concern me the most if I were in your shoes.

As far as TTC goes, you’re only 31. Still young. I wouldn’t be too concerned on that score.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

im in the same boat, although we arent actively TTC, my son is 11 now, and will be 12 before the wedding. the gap bothers me, even though he does have a half brother on his fathers side thats about to be 4. im also 31. and i feel like time is against me.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a sister who is about 12 1/2 years younger than I am.  Out of all my half & step siblings, she and I are the closest even though we are the farthest apart in age.

I just had my baby, and I was 31 when we conceived and when she was born.  She’s my first & only, so I don’t have any basis of comparison as far as how hard it was on my body at 31 versus what it would have been at 21.  I had a easy time TTC, an uncomplicated pregnancy, an intervention-free birth, and a healthy baby.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@brighteyedgirl:  I have actually been present in theatre during a scrotal hernia operation, many years ago. I know a bit about them from that experience. To be honest, the thing which will help most is weight loss more generally…. but you know that already!

In the op I witnessed, the hernia was about half the size of a football. Really impressive!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@brighteyedgirl:  it will! i mean if halle berry can do it at 48 we can too lol. i guess my main struggle is moreso the thought of starting over now that my son is so independent, and havnig a baby starts the process over. my clock is ticking but im still 50/50. and the FI doesnt help because he says it doesnt matter to him either way

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ll let you know when we get pregnant!  I had my DD12 when I was 20 and I’m now 32 and DH and I are TTC.  My DH’s older brother is 10 years older than him and they are super close.  Their relationship has changed over the years.  Now that he is 30 and his brother is 40, they are awesome friends and talk all the time.  His brother was more of a father figure while growing up and he was an amazing role model for my DH and younger brother.  All three boys are super close now.  

I’m no longer concerned about the age difference at all.  DD loves little kids and so desperately wants to have siblings.  I know how she feels as I was an only child and hated it.  We are trying to give her one though!

Post # 12
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Newbee

My fiance and his sister are 16 years apart.  No problems at all…everyone is healthy 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee

I would like to add that his little sister is EXTREMELY lonely like all the time!!  His mom constantly has another friend over because she is so bored and has no one to play with so keep that in mind too 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@flowermower:  Definitely!  We see that with DD12 and it’s the reason we would like to have 2 more close in age.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Great question. I’m in a similar boat, and my ability to conceive and successfully carry to term is a constant question mark in my mind. DS is 15 and we probably won’t TTC until the beginning of 2014, if ever. I will probably be pregnant with a 16 year old! It sounds almost absurd. But I’m “only” 33. I feel so young, and the idea of being an empty nester in 3 years just horrifies me. I know DS will be amazing with a little one in the house. He absolutely dotes on little kids, especially my nephew/his cousin. But, in the next breath I remind myself that our years of enjoying DS at home are limited, which makes me think a lot about having 2 more who will be maybe 2 years apart so that they can grow up with each other. I’ve done the only child thing, and I feel like I’ve cheated DS out of having a sibling. But then i remember that we have college tuition on the horizon. how in the world could we afford 2 in daycare AND college tuition? That thought alone makes me want to cry. :/

Anyway, sorry for the ramble. I wish I could tell you that it will all be okay. But all I can say is that you aren’t the only one with these kinds of worries. Hugs.

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