Not me, but a close friend of mine said I could share her story.
She’s actually had two. One time she did the medicine, the other time the surgical. All of her sexual encounters had been protected both times. She’s just super fertile I guess?
Physical: She said the surgical was an overall better experience – shorter, she felt she recovered quicker, and she felt safer the whole time, creating less general anxiety and upset. Not as convenient, and more expensive, but less overall pain (more pain over a very short period, as opposed to still-siginificant pain over nearly a day.)
She had no complications either time, recovered to 100% quickly, and remains in perfect physical condition. She plans to have children in the future and her fertility is fine, nothing to stop her from doing that.
Emotional: This is why she wanted to put her story out there – to refute the idea that everyone gets miserable or depressed or feels loss.
When she got pregnant the first time, she was terrified, depressed, anxious, generally miserable. She reacted very, very badly, even drinking heavily because she didn’t want the baby. She went to a “crisis pregnancy center” near our university, not knowing what those actually were, and encountered awful people trying to sell her lies about fetuses and pregnancy to convince her to keep it. Fortunately she was too smart to believe that stuff.
Planned parenthood was much more helpful – reassuring and kind, understanding of her financial situation and able to render services for a reduced cost. She had a checkup to see how far along she was. She didn’t say exactly, but it couldn’t have been too far, because they gave her pills for her medicine abortion.
She said the experience of the medical miscarriage itself was stressful and hurt, but she didn’t feel guilt or depression, just nerves about the medical aspect and what could go wrong. She told me that if I talked about this I should mention, nothing recognizable came out. (Because sometimes you hear that it does from anti choicers.)
When it was over, she experienced nothing other than relief and gladness to get back to her normal life.
The second time was similar, but went better – the surgical procedure was unpleasant, but didn’t take as long, and she felt reassured by being in a safe medical setting the whole time and having it all over at once.
Again, after, she felt happiness and lightness and relief that her problem had been solved. She didn’t feel mired or sad afterward, she never thought about the fetus after, except when people ask her about it.
Years later, she does not regret either instance, would do it again if she had to (but notes that she hopes it never happens again because it’s expensive and painful and stressful) and is really glad that that resource was available and that her life didnt have to be ruined because of something outside her control. She’s said before that it would have destroyed her relationship and her life if she’d had to stay pregnant, but because she didn’t, she was able to move on and be happy. (They eventually broke up but it was unrelated.)
She has spoken publicly about her experience and given permission for others to repeat it, because she feels that many or most women are probably like her, not like the grim, depressed post-abortion woman that some people like to promote. (She is very political and was already passionate about choice, so it seems kind of natural.)
For more like her, check out imnotsorry.net