Have any other bees ever felt like saying screw the wedding and eloping? (LONG)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@icanhearyousmile:  Trust me you are not alone!  The question isn’t if you have, it’s more a matter of how many times have you.  Most of the elopement post catagory and a great deal of the emotional catagory deal with the same issue.  Everyone has their own reasons for thinking/doing it, but there are several common therads (and surprisingly cost is not usually one of them).  Weddings seem to bring out the worst in people sometimes so it is only natural to want to elope.  I’d suggest reading through several of the other elopement posts (you many be surprised at seeing aspects of your situation in other threads) to get ideas.

Post # 5
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4540 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

I got so annoyed with planning that I gave up and now we’re eloping(ish). I still have to plan it, but looking at white beaches all day is much better than tablecloths and centerpieces. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

@icanhearyousmile:  Yeah… at this point, you’re probably better off going through with it. You could always do a private vow renewal! 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

@icanhearyousmile:  Yuck. That’s how I felt too, but I was lucky enough to realize before much of anything was bought that I needed to change plans. Financially, how much would you lose if you cancelled at this point?

Post # 10
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I feel you. We have less deposits down so it’s easier to think about ditching it all. 

Two thoughts: I was a MOH to a friend who cancelled her wedding (not to elope, so slightly different) with less than a month to go. Most of the guests obv. had plane tix (she doesn’t live local to the families), and most stuff was paid for. Most of the tix were refunded or used for other trips, I sold my BM dress and shoes, etc. You can’t let the funds make the decision for you. Things can be worked out. 

You could do an Office style private wedding with just you two or you two and small group beforehand to take the pressure off. Then nothing they can complain about or do matters as much 🙂

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