Not paying vendors or anythging, but looking up wedding dresses, local venues (or venues where you'd like to get married at), wedding bands, catering, etc. Please say I'm not the only one! Also, if you are planning/fantasizing, do you have a timeline on when you'll be engaged, or no?
I do all the time. We have at timeline though and have bought the center stone. The balls in his court at this point, but I know its coming, so I plan away!
And by planning... I have the venues scaled down to the top 3 I would want to see, I know which style of dress I'm interested in, and may have a bajillion pins saved for possibilities.
Not really planning but scoping things out! I love looking at dresses and we have both discussed a few things like favors and wedding theme/styles. He knows my rule is simply give me at least 9 months to plan! lolol
@ccantics: We also have a timeline and the center stone (although that was an inheritance, basically).
@Onyx: I love looking at dresses! And my SO could care less about pretty much anything but the food. As I'm very much a "This is our wedding, not just mine," person, I may have to drag him to look at venues with me XD
Guilty! Haha
Nothing too serious but definitely looking. Know the style of dress I want, decorations, flowers, picked my bridesmaids, know my venue.
We went an saw our venue. Not wedding related we were there for something else but I was prancing around all excited and squeely going "that's where the ceremony will be! That's where we can do pictures!" SO just smiled and rolled his eyes.
No harm in looking! :)
I used to be big on the scoping and planning but SO really wants to plan too, so i wait for him. He doesnt want to plan without us being engaged.
I did, but I'm no longer waiting! :) I hated it though, because I could never really share my ideas without getting those weird "you're not even engaged" looks.
Although, to be honest, with a 2 year engagement, I've gotten nearly the same looks every time I try to do/plan/settle on anything. I think the one comment I hate most is "You have plenty of time for that." Let me be excited! :(
Guilty! I'm pretty sure I've found the venue and if SO doesn't propose by our anniversary, I might just book a night or two there just so we can see it and I can bring it up in future conversations 
I've also researched dresses and dress styles and am forming a semi-custom gown in my mind. I've thought of favors, themes, color pallettes, bridesmaid/groomsmen styles, budget, pretty much anything I've thought of or seen on here. Nothing has been booked or bought, except my ring (that I don't have yet! 
) so I consider this "waiting" time, time for me to preplan and narrow down the options for when it comes time to actually say this is it.
Everyone does it! I have looked at venue pricing (or at least what I could find without an inquiry), dress ideas, thought about color schemes... you name it.
I feel like pinterest was designed for waiting girls!
I have a date in mind and I've decided on DJ and photographer (based on working with them at other events). SO stated the proposal is coming before Thanksgiving (eeeek!), so I plan to start looking at venues after the holidays.
Heck yeah! I was planning about 3 months before the proposal, but I knew it was coming. We had already bought the ring and everything. The cool part was he has been just as interested in planning as I am! We sent our save-the-dates about 5 days after the proposal (the venue is on family owned property, so it's guaranteed), but then ended up changing the date to accomodate my family. Oops.
Either way, we're ecstatic and have had so much fun starting to plan. For the most part he has given me full reign, but I have been trying to input his ideas and give him control of things that would interest him like signature drinks, reception music, etc. It has made him happy to see me so happy and he loved torturing me by making me wait for the proposal! LOL
I have had a bunch of crap from my family about planning so early (he proposed on Halloween night), but I'm trying to just ignore their negative attitudes and focus on the family and friends that are truly excited for us and are letting me babble on about my plans. They are the ones who know I'm happy and want me to be excited about my engagement!
Yep we've been planning for ages. I change my mind daily though. I'm a gemini who can never make up her mind.
@Omgbunnies: Ha! I think I'd fall over in shock if my SO wanted in on anything besides the food!
@frommisstomrs. : I'm picky about who I tell my wedding fantasies to, for just that reason. I've told, maybe, 3 people outside of family- one of them is just like, "Ok. Little early isn't it?", another was in the same waiting boat before things ended up not working out, and the third (my best friend) doesn't even have a boyfriend, but ever since she was a little girl she's dreamed of a beach wedding with everyone in white and khaki, so she totally gets where I'm coming from on the fantasizing. We spend hours just talking about it!
@FutureMrsJohnson_:My mom wants my aunt to make my dress, so I'm coming up with ideas. If she can't, though, I'll probably check out Jasmine's Bridal and have it made by them. I'm like you in that I've THOUGHT of everything, but booked nothing. I'm still in the process of designing my ring so I can pass the details on to SO for him to go to a jeweler and have it made.
@jenart: Three months? Eek! SO and I have decided on getting engaged by 2015, but possibly much sooner. Maybe I am jumping the gun a bit? XD
@Soon2BD-CBee : I'm a Virgo. It's not that I can't make up my mind, but I'm detail oriented and I want my fingers stuck in everything. I'm having issues deciding because I don't want to let anyone else handle details- even though I know I can't do everything on my wedding day! But I know if I don't hand some things over, I'll be an anxiety attack waiting to happen.
@ForeverBirds: I know that we'll be eloping when it happens, and I know he doesn't want a long engagement, so I'm trying to be prepared. I want my pretty dress and I have the basic idea of what I want my ring to be, and I try not to go too far beyond that. I have trying to find a venue, just so that if/when it happens, it's not just a run-down-to-the-courthouse-and-sign-the-papers type thing.
I'm a big planner, I live out of a planner every day, lol.
But I've actually really resisted on planning anything. I'll think about it and do my research, but I don't want to plan for something that I don't have anything concrete for. I've brought up one or two things to my SO but it seems to freak him out a little to talk about it so soon.
He gave me a timeline of being engaged within the next year, so I guess we'll see?
@barefoot: Idk if you've thought of this, but check out a few local bed and breakfasts. There are several in my area that offer "elopement packages" where they handle almost everything, and you can have up to around 30 guests. It's like $800 or less (depending on the number of guests, and what all is covered). The best part- a free stay in their honeymoon suite is almost always included!
(Honestly, if I didn't want my hands in everything, I would probably go this route!)
Oh, kinda random, but if I did go with a medieval theme, if I couldn't have a local garden, I'd totally do a semi-destination wedding at this venue:
http://thesterlingcastle.com/
Love this castle!
@misskittenn: That's kinda where I am- I have a few venues definitely crossed off, and a few I'd like to check out when the time comes. I have ideas for favors, decorations, the dress, and food, but no idea on bridesmaid dresses (since I'm planning to let my bridesmaids have a big hand in picking them), hair or make up artists (or if I'll even have one!), or music.
@ForeverBirds: As you can tell from all PP's responses - definitely not just you. I've got 3 wedding boards on Pinterest with over 1,000 pins, have got more than one planning spreadsheet and another spreadsheet with a very detailed cost / value comparison of all the venues I like.
But before you call me crazy, SO has seen all of it and knows exactly what he is getting himself into :) I also plan friend's weddings, so I am just certifiably a big wedding lover - with SO I try not to rush it, I love him regardless of "the shiny" and he knows that :)
So I totally posted the castle on the wrong one of my board posts. But ya'll bees can enjoy anyway!!!
@foreverbirds I have kinda been looking at those...and then I get distracted and start thinking about how nice Hawaii is. Because it's cold here. And the snow needs to go away. 
I haven't planned anything, but maybe that's because I don't know if it'll happen. But I guess that's okay, since I've never really been an omg I love weddings person.
@ForeverBirds: Every girl fantasizes about her wedding super-early. I was thinking of a ring less than a year after we got together! Have fun and be happy. We're having a themed wedding (Neo-Victorian/Steampunk) and I know a couple of ladies who have had Renaissance themes as well. If that is what you and your SO want, GO FOR IT! Don't let anyone tell you it's tacky or stupid. I think a wedding should be a representation of the couple getting married, and as long as it's special for the two of you, that's all that matters.
Good luck and early congrats! :)
@ForeverBirds: I've started looking but the ring has been bought. We are just waiting for it to arive! I haven't set anything in stone though. Pretty much just getting an idea on what I want and how much it is so that we can come up with a reasonable yet realistic budget. We will probably start looking for a venue soon though even if the ring is not here because we want to get married next fall and don't want to not get a venue because it's already been booked!
We've been stuck in ring design hell so have just decided to plow ahead with wedding planning. We just put the deposit on the venue and a dress last week.
I have a list of venues saved in my phone and was just looking at options for bridesmaids dresses the other day ....
I also have a millions things pinned on pinterest (thank God for the new 'secret' boards feature! I'll be utilizing that!) and have already thought about colors, a menu, and possible ways to ask my bridesmaids.
So don't feel bad!
@barefoot: We never get snow, lol. One flurry shows up and its like "Close the schools! Buy extra toilet paper! We're gonna get snowed in!" I guess it all depends on what season you want your wedding in- I want something in late October-ish, when it's not quite cold yet, but it's not blistering either.
@ParisM: My SO has seen most of my suggestions, or heard about them, even if I haven't decied anything concrete. And I'm definitely in the same boat of trying to plan everyone else's weddings. I have several aquaintances who are getting married, and when they post on Facebook about having issues finding a venue or a dress, it takes all my willpower not to bomboard them with a hundred suggestions and links.
@jenart:Actually, he brought up weddings way earlier than I did- we'd only been dating for three months (but we've known each other since we were in diapers, so I guess it's not that bad, lol). I actually posted the castle thing by accident- I meant to put it on my dress post, as we were discussing medieval dresses. The medieval theme is just a passing fancy (not because I don't like it, but more because when I mentioned it to SO he's way too enthusiastic- he wants to save me from a dragon during the ceremony! This is what I get for dating a nerd! Plus Idk what I'd want him to wear, cause I'm not as big a fan of medieval men's wear as I am of the idea of him in a tux.). I'll change my mind a dozen times before we ever get engaged. But I do agree that it will be a representation of us, and if other people don't like it, they can get over it!
Haha! Totally, but secretly. At first SO seemed really open to talking about it, but I think I'm really kind of ruining it/pushing my luck now, so going to shut it up for a while. :). Ring is ready though! I cannot even begin to say how excited I am :)
I just kinda looked at stuff for fun at first. Now that my SO has purchased the ring, I've actually started some real planning. All I've done though is just looking at venues more seriously. And I also have a date of when I would like to get married.
It's nearly impossible to not look at wedding things. It's all so exciting:)
@ForeverBirds: Bless ya, I'll be any anxiety ridden mess on my wedding day too I expect. I love your theme. My friend is having her wedding like that. She's searching for goblets and swords at the moment. whereas I'm going for 50's polkadot! But whatever floats ya boat. Happy planning!
We have a timeline and we would like to get married in maybe September 2014. A littke planning? Definitely- I am a planner! SO and I visited a few venues (btw, some of them are already almost full so I am glad we checked it out!) nothing is booked though. Venues here go fast so that is what I am most worried about. I figure if SO is down its all good/ not too crazy.
SO got me lovely flowers from the farmers market 2 weeks ago and he said - what of this arrangement was all our centerpieces at our wedding? It was so sweet! I said I liked it but it wasnt what I had in mind. He asked what I had on mind and I opened the pictures of wedding things I like folder on my computer (I don't have a pinterest, just maybe 30 pictures). We talked about it- he liked my pictures better, :-). I was a little embarrassed and I asked him if he thought it was weird that I already had pictures saved. He said "not at all, you SHOULD be doing that!" there is nothing wrong with being prepared!
Scratch that. Just got myself a photographer lined up- for the cost of lunch and gas! My mom has a friend who is a professional photographer, and we were all chatting and the subject came up and poof- she said she'd love to do engagement pix and wedding photography for nothing but food and gas if it's out of her way. SCCCCCOOOOOORRRRRRE!!!!!!!!!!
Does having spreadsheets with dress options, guests, and pricing/info for all major vendors count? If so, then I'm really, really guilty of preplanning.
Honestly, I just love having the extra time to figure out my vision for my big day. I still have about a year or two to go (he's been saving little by little for the past two years), so I'm sure I'll have everything figured out by the time he pops the question!
ETA: I'm glad I'm not the only one! I sometimes get weird comments about my Pinterest wedding board, to which I respond with two middle fingers. ;)
My SO have already went to look at a venue and we decided it was the one for us. It fits both of our visions to a tee, but we haven't put a deposit or anything down on it yet. We're waiting to actually be engaged before we do that.
The only wedding-related planning I've done is in my head, despite being 99.9% certain the proposal will happen this weekend.
We have a venue and date (everything for our desired venue was filled up for next year so we jumped on an open date) but I refuse to book anything else until he officially asks.
Story of my life! I look at dresses, rings... Lol. We both know without saying that the wedding will be on 4-24, but the year all depends on when he pops the Q! (personally I'm hoping for '14)!!
I have a few dress ideas. I know the basic style I want, but I'm not sure if it will look right on me lol. I guess I just have to wait and see when I get to officially shop!
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