- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Boy oh boy, my Fi has caused me problems planning this wedding! Haha I love the guy, but he just doesn’t have the first clue sometimes.
Okay, so his parents are divorced but are both remarried. Fi does not refer to his parents’ spouses as his step-parents — he just refers to them by their names, or perhaps as “my dad’s wife” or “my mom’s husband.” He has never called the steps mom or dad, and he doesn’t consider his stepmother’s kids his brother and sister. So, in planning various parts of the wedding stuff, I handled this a certain way. The invitations say “together with their parents” because I wasn’t about to list all the names; everyone gets corsages and bouts for the wedding; there will be three parent gifts delivered at the rehearsal dinner instead of two … whew, nailed it.
Then, when I was making my programs, on the Acknowledgements page I just thank everyone for being there, and thank my parents by name for being the hosts (since they are paying for most of the wedding, and I am picking up the rest — the in-laws are helping pay for other stuff but not the actual wedding itself). I then list below who the parents of the bride and groom: Mother of the Bride, Father of the Bride, Mother of the Groom and Father of the Groom.
I didn’t include the Steps.
Now I’m worried FSMIL is going to be upset.
I mean, really, why would she — she technically isn’t the Mother of the Groom and I didn’t feel the need to list out six names on the dang program. I don’t want to take away from the ACTUAL mother of the groom by acting like her ex-husband’s new wife is her equal … but I just don’t know. Did I screw up by not including her? Will she even notice or care? Should I take some sort of evasive action to prevent her from getting upset, perhaps including her in the processional?
Fi and I are definitely going to give Future Father-In-Law and FSMIL major props at the rehearsal dinner since they’re paying for it, so I can’t imagine her being mad that the program hasn’t given her credit for … what, being married to the Father of the Groom? So maybe I’m just freaking out over nothing. Either way, it’s too late to change the programs now, so I either need to be told that it’s okay, or given advice on how to defuse any potential hurt feelings that this could cause!!!