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@MeganTacky2247: ummm I'm 25 and my FI is 28 and we are the worst homebodies I have ever come across. We like to stay home, and it is like pulling teeth to get me to go anywhere anymore unless I have to. I just want to be HOME. It's ok, really. And if we lived closer, we could sit around in our hoodies together, HAHA.
I think it's just part of getting older/nesting. Working all week and then trying to stay rested/take care of a house or apartment = when do we ever get to just sit down? Don't feel bad. It's normal. There isn't anything wrong with you!
Lol, I thought I was alone! I like seeing my friends and enjoy it when I do.....but I just hate doing it!
I'm currently trying to figure out how to put off seeing a friend this Sunday because I want to go straight home after being with family all weekend. Sigh. I'm such a bad friend.
@hisgoosiegirl: nope, I'd be the same way. I am spending Thurs - Sat with my family and Sunday I want to be home. I would secretly be dissapointed if a friend wanted to see me, LOL.
@soyjoy222 haha Thanks girl!! Yes, thats the other thing. ALL of my girlfriends are SINGLE!! They live in pig sties (love them, but they do) and I just have millions of things constantly going on.
I feel like I have been gaining weight recently and I think that might contribute to it. and Ya know, I am saving for a wedding and this and that and dont have the money or time to go shopping for new clothes every weekend and THEY do!! I think thats the other thing that brings me down.
My friends are always lookin so cute in their new clothes and crap! and There is just no way that I can afford it.
Yes, we live 1 state away, we could totally just lounge together!! hahaha
I do however have 1 friend who always goes home early!! lol. If I am out with them, we will kinda give each other "the look" and say ok BYEE!!!!! lol
@hisgoosiegirl HAHAHA I feel like that all the time!!! I feel like I am this terrible person and horrid friend. But, I just dont want to be in a loud club like scene anymore. You cant hear, you cant move, and the drinks are TOO expensive!!!lol
@soyjoy222: I feel soooooooooo guilty though, I need to see her, she's going to be a momma soon and then I'll wish I'd spent more time with her when she had more time! I was hoping she could meet for lunch on Friday, but Sunday is the only day that works. Bleh. I'd have to drive 30-40 minutes to see her, hang out with her, drive back to get DH, and then drive 2 hours home. I just hate that. When all I'll really want to do is sleep, since we'll just have to go to 8am church with DH's family that day. Argh. Nothing I hate more than having to get up early when it's my day off.
I'd really like to see if I could put it off till next weekend, but then I have to drive even further, bleh!
@hisgoosiegirl: ugh I understand that guilt. You know you will dread it as you drive there and you will have fun when you are there, and then Monday you'll be irritated that you didnt have ANY time to yourself that weekend! (or at least this is how I am!)
@MeganTacky2247: I know what you mean! My single friends are like, oooo I got this bag and this phone and I'm like...we are saving for kitchen counters! YAY! It's just, not the same.
I get like this sometimes where I feel overwhelmed with things and just want to chill - I know I can always decline an invite out once or twice, but to me the possibility of my friends stopping asking me to go anywhere cause I'm a bump on a log is way more aversive than not going out for at least a couple of hours! I don't rage til 2 am or anything but I've been known to get my grumpy butt in gear, then when I get out there I'm having a great time and don't sacrifice any friendship contentment :)
I'm 26 and feel the same way you do. I would rather just be home most times. FI is the opposite, so we end up going out for a bit and then coming home somewhat early. If FI had it is way, we would be out past midnight bar hopping. Ick.
@soyjoy222: that is exactly how I feel, lol!
The really bad thing is DH is the same way. We'll probably die old and alone in our apartment someday and it'll take 3 weeks for anyone to notice!
Ok, that's sad, hopefully not! Damn future kids better be calling their parents more often than that!
Yea, I just cant do the bar hopping anymore. And I almost cant blame it on me being "old" bc my friends are the same age!!
I dunno. I mean, Im gonna go tonight, but Im just SOOO not in the mood!!!! Plus, I have to get up and COOK tomorrow, why do people not understand this!! hahahaha
I've always been a homebody.
Except for FI, I would be perfectly happy seeing my friends only once a week. FI likes to go out more often.
I want to stay in tomorrow night for Thanksgiving but FI wants to drive 2 hours away to our boss's party for his new opening business just so we don't have to cook lol. I told him I'll go if he wants to but I'd probably feel out of place. None of the American people I work with will be there, only my Chinese Boss, and his new Chinese employees and friends - FI speaks Chinese, I don't. So in addition to having to go out of town to a party, I'd be going to a party where I don't know or can't talk to anyone.
And they like to get drunk and I don't so there's that, too
@Mrs.Argentina HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Fantastic comment!!!
I think I lost mine at the crossroad of "shit i have to wake up at WHAT time" and "my sanity is more important than that creepy old guy trying to dance with me"
@harleyq Maybe you can talk FI into going alone?? lol Good luck with that!~~
FI and I are both homebodies. I always have been but FI is turning into one more and more. I am totally cool with hangin out with someone for an hour or two but I can't handle entire evenings or whatever. And I only want to hang out once and awhile, not every friday night or whatever. We have lost most of our friends because we don't want to go party with them and blow money out the window. Or we don't talk to them enough to stay friends, I hate people that you have to keep in contact with contanstly to remain friends. Or we have lost the other half of our friends becuase they now have babies and we have nothing in common with them. So its just FI and I left to entertain ourselves, its a good thing we get along so well. It has been probably 3 months since I have hung out with my one friend that still talks to me, and probably 2 months since we have hung out with FI's Friends.
@MeganTacky2247: I told him I'd feel out of place. He said he'd be with me and one of our American friends, too, and then said we can just eat and leave. I said "ok, but you better stay by me the whole time"
Last time I went to an opening party for my boss it was incredibly awkward. The other Americans were late and then during photos, boss's wife only wanted the Chinese employees and my FI so the rest of us were in the background watching them have their "pre-opening photos" done. I told FI, I am not going through that again.
@MeganTacky2247: haha I enjoy your rational...a mix between WTF time is it and creepers are incredibly motivational!
My sister and I are trying to plan a night out for NYE - neither of us ever get out anymore and we used to go out ALL the time together. I loooove a great night out but as i've gotten older i've become such a homebody, as is my husband but we try and do something on the weekends... i would much rather do a game night or dinner/drinks at someones house - we've been trying hard to find other couples we both like - we have one good couple friend that we do a lot of things with and that really helps get us out of the house haha.
@harleyq oh my gosh!! That would have driven me crazy (inside of course. haha.) Aww, I hope that doesnt happen to you again, and I hope you actually have some fun!!
I can definitely relate to being a complete homebody.. And I am only 22.. When FI & I first started dating we used to go out every weekend, but neither one of us feels like it anymore. After working the entire week, weekends we just want to have dinner and stay home watching a movie or once in a while go see a movie in theatres. I also definitely agree with having fun once I am actually out, it's just I never have the urge to actually go out. FI's family members (brothers and cousins) go out every weekend and always make fun of us for staying in, but as long as both of us are happy at home it doesn't really matter. :-)
I completely get where you're coming from. I'm 25 as well and used to love going out when I turned 19 (that's the legal age here) and even into my early twenties..but in the last year or two it's just not my thing. I usually have a lot more fun at house parties than I do out at bars, and even then I feel like I'm ready to turn it in for the night around 12 30 or 1 haha. I get tired and cranky really early. It makes me feel old too..
@doxielover I think the last part of that is the most important! As long as your both happy, thats all the matters.
My case is - if i gripe too much then FI says "ok, we will stay in" and then he acts like a puppy trapped in a cage. lol. just like jumping at the bit to get out.
Then i feel bad and I go out and feel worse (sometimes).
My birthday was a few weeks ago and all i wanted to do was GO OUT!!! bc i never do. and low and behold, there came the day, and I said.. eehhhhh i dotn wanna!! haha. I did and I got drunk and it was fun, and then when I get a hangover.. I AM DEATH!! Dont talk to me, dont look at me, just go get me greasy food and a sprite!! BUT - FI was "bored" and i got up and went about the day. after a big fight. lol.
I love to go out drinking still (I'm 26) but lately I've been too tired or lazy... tonights the biggest drinking night of the year so I forced myself to be excited then we realized we can't afford it... Then I found out they are having penny drinks tonight in our downtown area and now I'm trying to get back in the mood to go out again lol.
I'm 25, FI is 27 and we are the same way :) We love to be home. I've felt that way for awhile now, though. I'm just over the whole drinking/party stage.
I am younger than you are. I am 23, FI is 28. We NEVER go out unless it's a "date" night for us. I jokingly told him earleir to get ready for some drinking and fist pumping tonight (we live 10 minutes from Seaside - JERSEY SHORE FTW!) Anyways, he was like "uh no..." Granted I don't want to go out either, but it's just ridiculous how homebodied we are.
ETA: This has been going on since we started dating in 2009.
Im the same exact way.. before we were together we both used to go out alot.. him more than me.. but then after awhile we just started spending most our time in together.. I also gained weight so I dont feel like getting dolled up.. but part of it is just being lazy and comfortable..Ill make plans and be like alright Im going out..then I get home from work and sit down and Im like ughhh why did I say I would go ?? I dont want to go.. lol its horrible but it happens to us all. I think after the wedding maybe and not being so concerned with saving money Ill start having more often girls night out or something.. but who knows probably wont feel like it than either.. and the same thing..I have fun when I actually go.. but its actually getting ready and puttin in the effort and going that Im like nahh Im happy hear cuddeled on the couch in my jeans and hoodie!
I'm the same way! I started getting that way when I was 21. No lie, I didn't get hammered at the bar, in fact, I didn't even have a drink the night I went 21. We went bowling and out to eat haha. Most of my friends live far away or are married or in seriously relationships and are the exact same way
Lol this sounds like me. I just bailed on going out tonight. I am a teacher, it has been a long day and all I want is some Modern Family and wine with my FH and kitten :) Nothing wrong with being a young-old lady! (I'm 26)
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So, im pretty sure im turning into a boring old woman.
im 25 to start this out.
I just feel like im so busy with everything in life, and going out is fun once i do it. But, i never have the drive anymore. I dont know if its bc my friends are getting crazier and I am getting duller or what. Whenever they go out I always get a sense of "ughhhhh". I would rather just stay in my jeans and hoodie and go hang out somewhere.
I used to LOVE getting dressed up and going out on the town.
Recently i have just been in such a slump. How do you all get out of yours???
For the past like 8 years the close friends have always gone to this little hole in the wall bar the day before thanksgiving. Tonight. and this year, a friend is coming from out of town and she wants to bar hop. I am DREADING this. And i dont even know why.
I have had a headache all day and Im just in a shitty mood.
My mr likes to go out as well. AND when i do get the itch to go out I end up having a great time.
I dunno whats wrong with me!!! Get me out of my slump!!! I just feel tired and like i previously said "ughhhhh" by all the things that i constantly have to do.
blah!! haha