Post # 1
Bees, I am seeking some advice please!
I have just enrolled in a 4 year Degree and as much as im excited, I feel I may have shot myself in the foot with getting married.
SO and I have agreed to wait to try for children till after I graduate (which is fine, ill be 28) but he feels that we should get married after as well – I am okay at the moment as im just excited to study and want to focus on that but Im not sure if that will change over time. He has bought the ring and Im just waiting for him to propose (which I know is coming).
Has anyone got advice on how you went during study and planning a wedding or storey of going through the same thing?
Post # 3
@Shonzilla: I know lots of people who have studied while married. In many cases I suspect studying would actually be easier, being in the stability of your marriage and with the person who most supports you.
Post # 4
I am 2/3 of a way through my degree and planning a wedding/will be married before i graduate. TBH i havent found it any more stressful and we are planning a huge wedding (200 people) on top of studying, working, paying off a house and running a small business on the side. I feel if anything, knowing i have the support of my husband and that we are together in it makes it easier, and it didnt even cross our minds to wait until i graduated.
Post # 5
@Shonzilla: One of my colleagues is currently married, 6 months pregnant and studying part time.
I worked a fulltime job, a part time job whilst studying fulltime.
I think if it is what you really want to do then you can make it happen.
Post # 6
@Shonzilla: I’m 2/3 way through my PhD fulltime and getting married in a month, it’s do-able as long as you get things planned in advance and also build up savings in advance.
Post # 7
DH and I just got married and he went back to school this fall. No big deal.
Post # 8
My SO just started his first year of law school; I will be going back to school either in January or next summer – and we’re getting engaged in the next month or two. So we’ll BOTH be in school when we plan and get married.
Post # 9
@Shonzilla: I’ve heard one benefit of getting married while in school is that you can plan your honeymoon for the summertime where you can likely take more time off of work. Since working DURING school most likely isn’t your career of choice you won’t feel so bad taking time off 🙂
Post # 10
My boyfriend and I plan on getting engaged in the next few months. I just started my first year in grad school, and he will be starting a PhD program next year. By the time we get married, I will be starting my final year in my degree program, and he will just be starting his 2nd year of his PhD. I have thought of this, but I don’t think it should be that much harder, especially if you plan well and have a little help. I will be planning while in school in another state, but I am starting early (before the ring). I think there are many benefits to getting married while in school, rather than waiting until after. Good luck!
Post # 11
@Shonzilla: I am starting my third year of a doctoral program and I had my wedding this summer. I planned the majority of the wedding last summer and during winter break. It was not a problem, in fact, as a student, my schedule was more flexible than my husband’s (works full-time) for meetings in the weeks right before the wedding.
Post # 12
If you’d like to be married sooner let him know. I doubt that wedding planning would interfere with your studies. As long as you have enough time to plan and have a little free time a few days before the wedding.
I wish you the best!
Post # 13
I’d be much less stressed if I got married first.
Post # 14
@Shonzilla: I actually think organizing a wedding while studying may be easier if you pick the right time of year.
about being married and studying I don’t think it should be a problem. I know plenty of people that did it.
Post # 15
Thanks for the advice everyone. Much appreciated! I think my concern is the waiting to get married after graduating, I know that ill be fine planning it while studying but I don’t think we can afford to have it till I’m back at full time wages and I don’t know how ill go with everyone else getting married before me and it honing in to our 10 year anni by that time. I was dead set getting married in the next two years so I suppose another 2 ontop of that isnt too bad…. Just hard with all the social pressures, let alone the financial, study and judging As well. Least I know were getting engaged soon 🙂
Post # 16
@Shonzilla: I’m in grad school and I will be getting married 🙂 I wish to have kids while doing this (time flexibilty) but we have to think if I will be able to manage that… But i think it is better to have kids whle still in school, so after graduation yiu can focus on job and tell employer they can hire you and not worry you will get pregnat and want to go on a maternity leave!
why wait to get married? you have benefits as a married couple: tax break, insurances together… 🙂