Post # 1
So I am just writing this to vent and see if there is anyone else out there that has experienced or is experiencing something like this besides myself. I have had terrible baby fever lately, I have honestly shed some tears about this. I want to start trying soon but can’t because I still have 18 hours left to get on my Master’s degree. I can’t wait for this or postpone it bc I am a teacher and am required to have it completed in a certain time frame. 🙁 SO I feel like I am in chains to this dumb degree I don’t even want. I ache to take care of and be busy with a baby. I can’t believe I’m saying it because for so long I was all about being free from having any extra responsibilities. I think it has just hit me all of a sudden. I am 26 and my husband and I have been married almost 3 years. He is starting to want a child, but not quite yet which is probably a good thing since we can’t right now anyway. I just hate feeling stuck, like I can’t do something I really want to do.
Just had to get that off my chest….
Post # 3
Yuck, that is no fun. I’m sorry! I was in a similar situation in that I desperately wanted to TTC but had to wait because DH was not at all ready. Things that helped me were for us to make a specific time-line. If I were in your shoes I would figure out exactly how long those 18 hours are going to take you. If you stick to your plan, you can always start TTC about 6 months out from graduation 😉
Another thing we did– and other have talked about on these boards– is making a TTC bucket list. Come up with a list of everything you want to do pre-kids, and everything you CAN’T when you have a baby… and then start doing them! It can be a lot of fun and take the sting out of waiting.
Post # 4
@tessa9876: I’m so sorry you are dealing with this! I haven’t been in your situation, but it sounds like it is truly difficult. Would it help for you to spend some time with some other babies? Good luck!
Post # 5
I like the idea of doing the list. I think that will help with the waiting. I appreciate your suggestions and comments. Thanks!
Post # 6
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I totally understand. I’m a big younger than you (23) but one thing I’ve always been sure of is that I wanted to be a mom, even when I was a little girl. Sometimes I find it really frustrating that I have to wait for financial and educational reasons to start a family even after the wedding. It might be close to 10 years before we’re stable enough to do so, so I know the feeling very well. It’s hard to see other people do it, especially when it was completely by accident. Just remember that your coursework will be done soon and you can actually start trying before you graduate. Good luck!
Post # 7
yeah i know what you’re talking about. i’m 26 too (as is my husband) and both of us REALLY want kids soon (i’d be happy to have them now) but we have to wait at least two more years because of logical factors. we currently live in CA and are planning on moving back to MA in 2 years and we dont want to have kids until after we move back home so we can buy a house and have the support system of our friends and families. It kills me to wait that long because we want to have 3 or 4 kids and i dont want to START having kids when i’m already 30ish. uugh
Post # 8
Your post is very similar to a post by another bee from a few days ago!
BABY FEVER!!!! All I want is a baby…
I have definitely experienced this too and sometimes it drives you crazy!
As I commented in the other post, I live vicariously through friends who have children and sometimes write baby name lists and pin nursery ideas to pinterest just tp calm my crazy cluckiness haha I guess you just have to focus on the idea that everything happens for a reason and at the right time..
And when it happens for you it will be all the more wonderful because you have had to wait so patiently for it! 🙂