Post # 1
So, after five years (by choice mostly, don’t want to sound like an impatient bee!) we got the engagement ring. I was sad that it couldn’t just be more traditional with him picking it out and I being completely surprised and loving it but he had terrible reservations about getting the ring alone. I would give him antique/vintage styles I liked but then he would show me something I didn’t like and was confused why I didn’t etc. We visited several jewelers together, even got a ring sample we ordered, but returned because wasn’t the one. Last weekend out of blue, went antiquing NOT looking for rings and stumbled upon the perfect art deco ring. It didn’t look like my style in the case, but took it and it was! Gorgeous detailing and lovely side sapphires.
He is going to place my mother’s diamond in it when they are in town and he receives it (they live in FLA, us OHIO) and then ask my dad’s blessing.
I wanted to wear it the other day when I was over but it’s in his locked briefcase and he says that It’s not mine yet. UGH.I’m sure there are others out there like me. I hate this inbetween engaged stage. It’s not that I want the attention or anything, it just feels so empty right now currently. I want to be able to be planning and such (mostly because I’m a teacher and I’m off right now so I want to get the ball rolling!)
I’m worried it will take a good few months and the anticipation will kill me. Any one else with this sort of problem? What do you do to just be content in “dating” again? 🙂
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2016 - Whitetail Ridge
Going through the same thing as you! Been together a year and a half, and talking about marriage for a few months. I’m 25, he’s 29, it’s time to think about it. 🙂
I have a friend that works for a jewelry store and found my ring on their website, but because it is such a new design, it has to be ordered in. So… We ordered my ring on Tuesday, and it’s being freshly made, brand new, for me. 🙂 But the earliest it’s going to be here is mid-July, and my birthday is in September, so I have no idea when he’s going to ask!
I don’t really want to talk about it to any of my friends because I don’t have the ring and don’t know when it’s happening, but at the same time it is really exciting and I’m so bad at being patient! It’ll be worth it to be able to marry my best friend in the end though!
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
McSacrament: Don’t worry to much how it came to be. My now FI and i went through the ring process together and now I am happy we did. You will get lots of satisfaction from the proposal. Congrats and cant wait to see your engaged post!!
Post # 4
Thanks for support guys!
Yeah, I was just on a thread about being unhappy with engagement ring…and a LOT, more than I would imagine were unhappy with carat size or setting or some other detail when husbands chose ring without their input. So, even if it was a bit non-traditional, it was perfect.
And I can’t wait either lol 😉
Post # 5
If it makes you feel any better, I helped my boyfriend pick out my ring, the only thing he got to pick out was the diamond. Which thank goodness Bluenile helped him with.
The ring just came in yesterday, so my heart wants to burst out of my chest because I want that ring so bad! I want to say screw the proposal, but sometimes it’s better to let the guys do things their way.
Plus who says you can’t plan anything yet? I have my location picked out with budget and everything. haha…the only sucky part is I can’t really talk to my friends about it yet, because I’m not even suppose to know about my ring…
Post # 6
SO and I picked the ring together, it doesn’t bother me at all though. We knew very early on we would marry…never any doubt about it. Unfortunately, when we began to talk about/look at rings, we realized we were not only not on the same page..we were reading different books. So we went to pick the setting, purchased a diamond and now I am just waiting. It really is a beautiful ring with a perfect blend of what we both wanted.
This was in February, the 16th to be exact … not that I’m counting the months, weeks, days, or anything . I hardly notice that June 1st is days away.
Most days I am fine because we have such an amazing relationship that I just feel blessed to have him in my life. But I have to be honest, at first it was cute that he wanted to make the proposal special, now its just kind of annoying. Two weeks ago he wanted to go to the restaurant we had our first kiss at and I was SURE he would do it then..LOL nope turned out he just wanted their steak. I was somewhat moody that day and the rest of that week but I never told him why. I’m completely over it now of course.. but yes this “in between” stage sucks.
Post # 7
McSacrament: We ordered my ring on Black Friday….and I paid for our venue deposit the first week of December. My proposal happened on Christmas Eve by our Christmas Tree. That was over a week after he brought it home and waved the box at me saying…it’s awesome looking…and now you have to wait…don’t peek! Thank goodness I didn’t have to wait longer too much longer or I would of had to go search.
I’m perfectly fine that I helped pick my setting. We used a diamond that belonged to my grandpa, so I wanted to make sure we got a setting where the side stones would be of the same quality.
Go ahead and start planning though! We already had our time off from work booked, the venue, and I had already reserved cabins for our wedding…..all before the proposal! And you can always start working on your budget so you know what you have to spend before you start booking everything.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - Siesta Key Beach
I dont have my ring yet and we have the date set and booked. The planning is well under way. We consider ourselves engaged just wont have the ring for a few more weeks or so. Also havent told any friends or family yet. Just cant bring myself to announce it without the ring. Ughhh I want to burst!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - Siesta Key Beach
P.S. I hope nobody I know sees me on here. Hehe, shhhhhh.
Post # 10
I know how you feel OP, my fiance and I picked out my ring together and he let me try it on briefly after it came in the mail. Then I had to wait about 2 months for him to actually propose! Just enjoy the time you have, try to keep your mind occupied with other things, it will come before you know it!
Post # 11
My FI and I did something similar. We had actually found “the one” a little over a year before he proposed. He had actually pointed it out and asked what I felt about the ring and it was absolutely perfect. We waited a few months to purchase, which was good because I found an ad in the local bridal book for 40% a single piece of diamond jewelry for the store with no expiration date! (Local jeweler). Finding that ad made it so we could afford a much larger diamond than we anticipated, so in August of ’13 he went by himself and picked out the center stone and had the setting ordered then as well. It took a while for the ring to come in, but it actually came in on New Years Eve. He wasn’t planning to propose for a while since he still had over 2k to pay off on the ring, but he got too excited when he saw it, paid it off and invited me out for some New Years Eve ice fishing. He got ancy then and instread of proposing at midnight he proposed at 8pm. Lol.
It is seriously a killer knowing that you’ve picked out your ring but have to wait for it! I used to stop by the jewelry store a few times a month for nearly a year trying it on “just because.”
Post # 12
Aww I’m going through this exact thing. I helped choose the ring and I have even seen it! My friends know when he is going to propose but I have been waiting weeks and not one step towards it. I’m starting to feel a little anti climactic as if it’s never going to happen now…
I feel a bit deflated with the waiting does that make sense? We have even started discussing plans but I can’t officially do anything till the ring is on my finger. Ladies I’m here because I need support and patience lol.
Good luck x
Post # 13
We ordered my ring last night together, and I’m already going crazy! I think he’s planning to propose before my birthday (10/16) and the ring should be here by 9/24, so I’m guessing he will ask sometime between!
Re: being non-traditional….I never thought I’d be in the know on all of this, but I’m okay with it. I don’t know exactly when he will propose, or how, so there is still a big surprise waiting! My BF knows nothing about jewelry (I barely do either) so I wouldn’t expect him to know what kind of ring I would want. I’d rather know for sure I will love it! Now my goal is to try not to obsess around him so as not to ruin the proposal or add unnecessary pressure…ahh! Glad I have you all to freak out with 🙂