Have u ever experienced a "con" in a 3sum

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Not me personally, but my fiance did. He had a threesome with his ex once and during it she ended up sitting on the edge of the bed crying because she felt left out. She then got up and got dress while still crying and then her emotions must have spread because the other girl started crying too! It was his ex’s idea to have the threesome, not his. He has told me he will NEVER do it again. 

He said she was upset because he had been paying a little more attention to the other girl…she was a new experience! He had been with his ex a lot….I totally understand. The other thing was that the two girls refused to do anything with each other so it was kind of awkward he said. He said he felt like one of them was always just sitting back watching and not participating.

Post # 4
6948 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@2beemrs:  you don’t know any cons to a threesome?? I’ve never had one but off the top of my head:

  • Jealousy
  • STDs
  • One person liking it & wanting it more but the other not
  • Attraction to third party
  • Just plain awkwardness
  • Your relationship with your SO changing as a resut
  • Your relationship with the third party changing
  • One person not being able to keep up
  • Feeling shy in front if a third person
  • Someone finding out and embarrassing you
  • The third person becoming attached 

Not knocking threesomes if that’s your thing, but those are some cons to consider before doing it. 

Post # 5
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What would you do with an accidental pregnancy and the “other woman” kept the baby? Now that would be all sorts of con…. Explain how that happened to your parents?!

Post # 6
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@2beemrs:  The 5 times I have been involved in a threesome I have realized one con, but it’s a big con *for me*. The fact that I could watch my SO have sex with another woman, not be jealous, actually enjoy it (it was so freaking hot!) just proved how little I felt for him. I didn’t realize how big of a deal that was at the time. I didn’t realize it until after we broke up (for reasons completely unrelated to the threesomes) and I was with FI.

Fi and I went to a strip club and I thought a lap dance would be great fun. Considering how hot it was to see my ex and this other girl, I thought this lap dance would be awesome and sexy. So we got one. I froze, didn’t want the girl to dance for me and watching her grind all over FI made me physically ill. I wanted to scream, throw up, rip her off of him, I felt actual pain in my heart. It was traumatic. I love him SO much. Why I let some other girl rub herself all over him, I have no idea what I was thinking. We will NEVER, EVER do that again and even now, a year later, we still haven’t been back to that club. I doubt we ever will.

I managed to keep quiet, I didn’t want the girl feeling like she had done something wrong, I had agreed to this. I also couldn’t be mad at FI, we had talked at length about it long before we actually did it. It was actually my idea. But I hated every second of it and it really hurt.

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