I know everything is great now, engaged, planning a wedding .... but have you and SO ever broken up?
Nope. There were a few fights that made me wonder if we were still going to be together the next day after talking about why were had fought, but we always managed to work through them and have never broken up since getting together over 3 years ago.
Funny thing, but it is a huge peeve of mine when people tell me something like "we've been together for 3 (or however long) years so I feel like we should be engaged (or married) already" when really they dated for a few, broke up for many months (and saw other people) and then got back together. It's like, no. You have been together since you got back together. It probably just bugs me so much cause I've never broken up with my SO and their comments are usually preceeded or followed by a judgement about how "soon" my DH and I got married.
We have never broken up. Weve been steady together for the past 5 years. There have been moments where I was really scared that it was going to be it, but we always were able to resolve any problems.
Ya lol a few months after we started dating we broke up for some stupid reason. We were 22 then so I blame it on that haha Everythings great now, 5 years later! Only one break up for a couple of days
Nope never. Have had a few major fights over stupid things but we have always been able to put them behind us and we're about 7 days shy of 4 years together.
Almost he freaked out 6 months into our relationship worried about getting married and that his feelings werent enough. I simply told him that though I want to get married that doesnt mean it has to be right now it has to be on our time line and if he spent too much time trying to read his feelings he'd miss them. I backed off from our relationship forcing him to set up dates etc and he came around 8 months later he brought up the M word :).
Nope. Came close on my end before but never went through with it.
No. I've never gotten back together with a boyfriend after we broke up. I'm very much "you're in or you're out" kind of person. Once we break up, it's done.
once for about 4 hours. I dont think it counts though
No. Definately had tough times, but we've always worked through them.
Never, and never even felt close to it. We have had times (like chances to move across country) where we had to decide how to adjust things or little disagreements but it has always still felt like we were in it together. Our relationship as always felt very secure that way.
I have never been a "on and off" person though either. When there was a breakup in past relationships, even in a LTR, that was it. If we broke up there was good reason, even if that reaon was we weren't very good at working through things without breaking up!
Neverrrr. We have never gotten in a fight where it was questioned.
I voted "other"....a couple times that we fought we came close enough for me to wonder if we'd be together the next morning - but we never actually really broke up. Sadly it was mostly about if we were ever going to get freaking married and guess who initiated those conversations most of the time.
I came reeeally close to breaking up with him one time, but we worked everything out in the end.
Yes! I break up with him during that time of the month almost every month!! I'm kidding, I don't really break up with him but I am an emotional mess during that time and have said crazy things. He always calms be down though.
Nope, never, and we've been together for 6 years. We've had little arguments (mostly about stupid things) but nothing big enough to even consider breaking up.
Briefly, for a month. I had a big crisis going on in my life and called things off. A month later I realized how stellar of a man my SO had been in the whole process and knew I couldn't let him go. We've been great ever since.
We had a rough 4 months about a year into our relationship. We broke up and then spent the entire time 'apart'... together. I still say we've been together for 5 years and maintain that at the end of the day, he's always the one I've chosen, choose now, and will choose. I'm so glad our early twenties are behind us!!! :)
ETA: Not hating on anyone in their early twenties! We just had a lot of rough spots when we were 22.
Yes, we broke up after college when we were 22. It wasn't because we were fighting; actually things were really great, but neither of us were ready to get married or make sacrifices for the other person yet. We had started dating in college within a week or so of meeting each other our freshman year, and when we started dating neither of us were thinking about our relationship in a long-term (ie marriage) kind of way. He moved to the other side of the country while we were apart, and we still talked... but when we broke up we promised not to talk to each other about our romantic lives with others, since we thought that would feel weird. So we just stayed in touch. A year later he moved back to Oregon, we met up again and (just like the first time) realized almost immediately that we wanted to date, knowing that this time it could lead to marriage.
Yes, and we spent 3 years apart with not even a single word of contact. Granted, I was 19 and had NO idea what I wanted in life, but... we found each other later in life (well, my mom found him!) and we admitted it was always the others we wanted and thought about and compared to everyone else. So, we picked up where my left off, older, more mature, and I moved a 26 hour drive to be with him again.
Hmmm glad to say no!
Never ever :) we butt heads though sometime (I am stubborn) haha :)
Yep when we were 18 (so about 5 years ago) for 3 months just being out of high school with a very small child and LOTS off stress we did even dated other people but we have been back together and havent even thought about breaking up sense then...
Nope, never. And we've never gotten anywhere close to breaking up. We've been extremely solid for the past 4 years.
I'm that type of person who doesn't believe in breaking up and getting back together. I also don't break up without a really big reason. I've never gotten back with an ex-boyfriend, though my ex-boyfriend did get back together with his ex-girlfriend.
My fiancee and I got together when I lived in Hong Kong six years ago. He is from Hong Kong, and I lived there for a year when I had to leave (I was only 20, I was an exchange student). We did 2 years of long distance (I lived in Pennsylvania, then I moved to Shanghai), and just couldn't handle the distance, I wasn't convinced that he wanted to move to the states to be with me, we had communication problems because of cultural misunderstandings...
I then moved back to the states for a year, and we didn't really talk, much. Then I went to Taipei for a summer, and he went to Boston. We started chatting online, when he mentioned how he loved America. It eventually came out that he never stopped wanting to try and come to America because he always had hope for us. He flew me out to Boston for a whirlwind weekend, and we ended up getting back together. That was over two years ago, and I have never looked back! We have been long distance again (I lived in California for a year, and then Taipei for a year), and FINALLY we have applied for a fiancee visa, we will get it in April, and be married in June!
Sorry, that was a long answer to this question, just hoping to let people know, I firmly believe even if you break up once, it can still be a very happy ending!
We joke around and I say, "let's break up" and he says "okay," then a few minutes later I say, "wanna go out?" haha
We broke up after 8 months in 2009 because I was feeling smothered and I wanted to go to bars and flirt with guys. I got over that very quickly :) we were broken up for four weeks before we gt back together.
We've had some rough moments, but no, we have never broken up.
Yes, very early on in our relationship. Never again :)
After our freshmen year of college about 2 years into our relationship he tried to get me to break up with him because he didn't feel like he deserved to be with me and the LDR was hard on us both. I was having some unrelated depression problems (couldn't get a job) and he felt like since he couldn't fix that for me we shouldn't be together. I told him that was ridiculous and refused to give up on us. That was our rockiest point, and we've never broken up in 6 years.
Kinda, but it wasn't a fight, we didn't want to. Four months after we met, it was the end of the study abroad semester where we met (from different schools in different states) and we suspected we'd probably never see each other again.
Fortunately we did. :D
We met when I was 15 and he was 19, and started dating when I was 16 and he was about to be 20. About a month and a half into it, he got offered a job in New York, and was gone for 6 months. The short version of that story is that we were broken up for those 6 months, didnt talk very much, and reconnected when he came home. We consider our dating anniversary to be when we had the giant "let's talk about our feelings" talk about a week after he came home. We've been together ever since! There's a longer version of that story that includes lots of misunderstandings and miscommunications and plenty of hurt feelings, but we were so young that all that matters is where we are today, 2 weeks from our wedding!
Met him when I was 15, we've been together for 7 1/2 years and never broken up :) There have been some knock 'em down drag 'em out fights, but we've never called it quits, and agreed that we would never throw it around as a possibility unless we were serious.
We have been together for over 7 years and have never broken up, not once. Sure we have fought, but even then we have never raised our voices at each other. It's really kind of freaky. I know I don't yell or throw things because I saw how ridiculous and damaging my parents were when they were like that, and I think FI is the same about his. It keeps me hopeful that we are not all destined to be like our parents :)
We broke up for my parents and church becuase they were worried about my age and his recent divorce. But got back together after 6 months becuase we couldn't really stand it. Also church and parents are happy and excited now.
No way. Stability is key for me, once a relationship gets to break/ break up point it's goodbye forever for me.
You know how a lot of people say you should never marry your first love or high school sweet heart? Well we always thought we'd get married, always were SO in love. But a lot of people told us we were stupid, naive, etc. Enough people said it that we started to think we might actually be crazy.. but we were so happy together! So we decided to break up and "date other people" and if we were meant to be together we'd get back together. We were both so miserable. Everyone else sucked. We were broken up for about a year.. totally the worst year of both our lives. Then we realized that we shouldn't have listened to those other people (most of which who were alone!) and all along we knew we were right for each other. We dated for 4 more years after that, got engaged, & now we're married :)
I will admit that I broke up with him not once, but twice, due to extreme anxiety. Once was for an entire day, you guys. And the second time was for 4 days before I called him (crying) about how big of a mistake I had made- we talked on the phone until 2 AM and I bared my soul to him. I told him everything- including how badly I wanted to marry him. However, we have never fought; even through this, we didn't fight or say angry things to one another.
I don't really consider them "break-ups" because we talked to each other throughout. That was very early in our relationship though, both around 1 month, and I was terrified of how much I felt for him (due to past abusive & manipulative relationships), and I didn't want to fall in love for real and end up under his control. Well, he has proved to me every single day that he is polar opposite of everything I had feared a man could be, and has never stopped loving me. Thank god for him!
Nope. It's called a break up for a reason (i.e. something's seriously wrong with the relationship).
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