Post # 1
I know a couple who recently got married. They had broken up a couple times during their 8 year relationship. Her husband popped the question RIGHT after they got back together. They had broken up because she found out he slept with strippers. It was like the diamond ring and promise of a wedding was an apology for all the cheating. It seems crazy to me to marry after having broken up the year before.
My good friend and her husband got married in 2006 and separated for an entire year in 2011 before getting back together. I honestly think that break helped their relationship, unlike my first example. I think the first couple are doomed.
Have you and your current boyfriend/fiance/husband ever broken up? Did it help in the long run?
Post # 3
We broke up due to his drinking, then got back together when he got sober.
Post # 4
FH and I did. We dated in 2008, 2010, and from 2011 until now. We were both in high school and needed to grow up before we could commit to the serious relationship we both wanted to have (we’ve talked about marriage in “someday” terms since 2008, in “soon” terms since 2011).
It definitely helped in the long run. Had we tried to stick it out, I don’t think we would’ve made it. Since we got back together at a time when we were both 100% ready for what we knew was going to happen, we’re rock solid now.
Post # 5
We’ll be celebrating our 12-year dating anniversary in July (High school sweethearts. Getting married in Oct). Never broken up 🙂
Post # 6
My FI and I dated very briefly (like a whole month and half) my freshman year in college and broke up. I was all of 18 and was away from home and everyone I’d ever known and probably wasn’t in a place to be commited, and he wasn’t either. We actually didn’t even speak to each other for a little over a year after the break up.
Then we started talking again and seeing each other through mutual friends, and eventually got back together. We’ve been together almost 7 and a half years this time around, with 5 of those years being in a long distance relationship (thank goodness the end is in sight!). Needless to say, had we not gone our separate ways at the beginning, we never would be where we are now. I think somtimes a break up can really show you how special someone is and make your realize what you want.
Post # 7
@bunnyharriet: My fiance and I have been together for quite a long time (it will be 6 years this June), and we’ve never broken up.
In one of my previous serious, long term relationships (I was with him for a little over 4 years), my ex and I “took a break” for about a month or so. We thought it helped the relationship … And it did, for a while. There were certain issues that were never going to go away, though, and the relationship ended for good about 6 months or so later.
Post # 8
We broke up a few years ago for a few months. We broke up bc he had some serious anger issues & I felt he didn’t want to help in the the house and with our daughter. After a few months apart & anger management we got back together. It was the best thing that ever happened to us. Our relationship is amazing now.
Post # 9
My FI and I have been together for 8 years now, never broken up. We were best friends before we got together for about a year and half, and our relationship got very serious very fast (we have a 7 year old child).
I’ve never thought about breaking up, never had a reason too, and I hope he would say the same.
Post # 11
Dh and I broke up in year 5 of our relationship (when we were dating) for about 6 months, and I felt it made our relationship stronger. Our issue was the fact he didn’t want to move away from his family in Phoenix to be with me in Houston where I had gotten a job offer after grad school. Realistically one of us had to move, and I couldn’t give up a steady job in this crazy economy. I didn’t want to force his hand of making him leave his family but I was hating the long distance aspect of the relationship so I ended things. We didn’t speak to each other for months, and I even started seeing someone else. Next thing I know, DH rings my doorbell. He missed me so much he ended packing up all his things and driving 24 hours to get to my place. It made us stronger bc we realized how much we mean to each other. Plus it kind of help sever the umbilical cord between him and his mother.
Post # 12
We never broke up but do I know some couples who had been on and off a few times.
Post # 13
My fiancé and I dated briefly in 2008 then broke up. We just weren’t ready for a serious relationship. Two years later we started dating again, and we’ve been inseparable ever since. If we had tried to force it when we first got together I doubt we woulld be together now, I’m so glad we broke up when we did.
Post # 14
We almost broke up once over a fight over a broken toilet seat. But yeah…we figured that one out. =)
Post # 15
Never! FH had a toxic relationship in college where they would be together for a month, break up for one or two weeks, and then get back together. That lasted three years. She sloppy drunk tried to hook up with him again after he was finally done with her but luckily he didn’t fall for that trap again. After that, he swore he was never going to be in that type of relationship again.
Post # 16
No, we’ve never broken up. We’ve been together for 6 years and were friends for 2.5 years before that. He’s my best friend and I feel relaxed and happy when I’m around him. It’s just easy to be with him, unlike my previous relationships, so I don’t see any reason why we’d need to break up.