Post # 1
Just curious, Hive – have you and your FI or husband ever broken up or “taken a break” prior to getting married?
Some Bees have touched on it in the past, just wondering if anyone on the Boards could relate too.
*DISCLAIMER: I don’t want this to turn into a debate about whether or not people should get back together if they break up… its not the point.
Post # 3
Yes 🙂 We dated twice before getting together this third time and getting married. Both times were only for 1 month each and we were way too young at the time (22). It wasn’t actually a real ‘breakup’ since we were never boyfriend/girlfriend though.
We got back together at 26 because we couldn’t stop thinking about each other and we’ve been inseperable ever since 🙂
Post # 4
nope we haven’t. he was actually the first bf i’ve had that i didn’t have a “break or breakup” with in the history of our relationship. and i, his first gf, that he didn’t have a break/breakup with.
don’t get me wrong, we’ve had our share of bumps and low moments in our relationship (not the direly threatening kind), but def learning curves in our relationship that have had one or both of us contemplate where the relationship was going at that point… but we’ve never had a break.
there were times in our dating period that both of us needed our “alone time” but it was always knowing that we were together… and that we needed to clear our heads to figure out the next step.
i definitely wasn’t this mature in handling differences and growing together in my past relationships (which i think is the key as to why we’ve been able to hash it out together)
Post # 5
I think for a weekend in college LOL. I had gone through a very difficult time health wise, I got sick during the second week of our relationsip, and after I got a clean bill of health I had a mini freak out that I didn’t want to be in such a serious relationship. Then after a night of partying I realized that I had an amazing man who stood by my side through one of the worst times in my life and I needed to be with him.
Post # 6
We haven’t at all, despite four years of LDR. I think it made us stronger to stick it out. Of course, those were our circumstances. Every couple is different. 🙂
Post # 7
We took a small time-out about 8 months in. We didn’t see each other or talk for about a week and a half. I think it helped us both put things in perspective and recognize that our relationship was something worth working through the rough patches.
Post # 8
We broke up almost every other weekend the summer before our senior year of college but we always ended up “getting back together” like a day later. Not really sure why, lol.
EDIT: Maybe I should add that this was before we were engaged or really ever talked seriously about marriage…
Post # 9
Nope, we’ve never taken a break or broken up.
Post # 10
No, we’ve not been apart for more than two days since we started dating. However, we did know each other in high school and lost touch for 20 years…then got together. So I guess that’s kind of a break, though we were never dated until fairly recently.
Post # 12
We almost broke up once in college (were dating for maybe a year, tops), but I cried and begged him not to leave me (I know, I used to be such a wuss), so we didn’t break up, haha. Now I’m in charge! Muahahaha
Post # 13
We broke up twice in 3 years(LDR are hard!) and then broke up for an entire year before getting back together and getting engaged 4 months later. That year of being apart really made us realize we never wanted to be apart again 🙂
Post # 14
We never broke up. After about 3 weeks of dating, it was just understood that we spent each day on the weekend together and then would go out at least once after work during the week. We were pretty much inseparable from day 1 to be perfectly honest.
Post # 15
Once during a small fight he suggested we “take some time apart” (not a break, he insisted!) but I said that wasn’t what I wanted at all, and he changed his mind in the next second, and that was the end of that. That’s the closest we ever came! It’s funny how many emotions I managed to go through in about 3 seconds though. I came out of that spat much more sure of how much I wanted to be with him!
Post # 16
once… very on in our relationship. He was in the military and I was not sure that I wanted to have a LDR let alone the military lifestyle (we only had three months together before he had to move from Texas to NC). After a 2 month break we decided we couldn’t live without each other and 6 months later I was in North Carolina and we haven’t looked back sense.
I’m glad it happened though.. made us realize how much we cared about each other!