Post # 1
I was in the bookstore reading wedding books of all things, this guy approaches me and chats me up and wants to grab coffee; he sees what I am reading, i am flattered but hello, engaged woman! you are wasting your time
Post # 3
This has not happened to me. I have heard though that many women go through this because some guys find the ring more attractive. Crazy but I have heard the same thing for pregnant women too. Ah guys… gotta love ’em!
Post # 4
lol No I have not! Actually the opposite. I personally find a man much more attractive with a ring (not that I take it to hitting on him, hello he is taken) and I think its because he clearly can commit and is dependable. You’d think that’d scare guys lol I have heard of the pregnant thing which grosses me out!
Post # 5
That hasn’t happened to me but I did get hit on a lot more while I was in a relationship than I did when I was single. I think it has something to do with the inner confidence that can come from being “attached”
Post # 6
It happened to me a ton during my engagement! But now, three months into married life, I haven’t been hit on once. Very strange… my wedding ring is not much bigger than my engagement ring… My husband said it’s because I give off the “newlywed glow,” lol!
Post # 7
When I walk around smiling because I’m happy to be engaged, I do find more people flirting with me. It’s so funny though that he started talking to you while you were reading wedding books!
Post # 8
I think my ring does scare guys off, which i love . Sometimes i catch them looking and thinking, then walk off. And i’m almost 6 feet tall, so I don’t get the “average” men hitting on me. Most guys know better if they aren’t my height to ask me out. I have had 2 creepers go, “so what? i have a wife” and i give them a disgusted look. But since my guy’s not here, I do a lot of my errands by myself, so I’m alone a lot more than most women, which I think is why I notice this more. I go shopping alone, movies, etc. If he’s around, it’s a HUGE detterant!
The day I got my name changed at the DMV, I did have some older guy (40’s, short, balding, wtf?) in a business suit hand me a note saying he wanted to take me to lunch, spoil me rotten, and that i was gorgeous, would i give him a chance?
It felt AWESOME to hand it back to him with my left hand (rings side up) and say, “I’m married, but thanks!” then walk off. I was on the phone with my guy the whole time and he was incredulous…”a guy asked you out with a note?!?!?!”
Maybe they are noticing your engagement glow!
Post # 9
yeah I was in the hardware store the other day this guy was helping me and saw oh youre engaged and still kept chatting with me I’m like hey buddy engaged woman! turn your attention to someone else but I think I smile even more when I say I’m engaged i am so happy
Post # 10
Nah. My FI calls my engagement ring my “stop sign”!!
Post # 11
yeah as soon as a guy starts hitting on me I say I’m engaged, they run the opposite direction like whoa!
Post # 12
I’m an encore FI. The first engagement I did get hit on alot. But I was also still going out with the girls because I was the first to get engaged. Now that it is the second go around I haven’t noticed it. Probably because when I’m out now, I’m with my guy most likely.
I do have my friend’s bachelorette party coming up. This will be a test! LOL
Post # 13
The other thing is the minute they find youre engaged its like you are diseased
one time I was at a bar watching opera singers at this fancy bar looking for a singer another guy chats me up, asking do you like opera, I said yeah I’m looking for a singer for my wedding, he says something then abruptly leaves my side, like whoa..I felt diseased but it was hilarious..I didnt have my ring yet, my friend said that’s false advertising
another time, I was at my friend’s birthday party, sitting at a table, this guy approaches me and makes small talk, I said well I cant really talk to you I’m engaged, the minute I said that he murmurs something and backs off very quickly, like whoa
another time I was getting off the plane, the customs guy kept asking all these questions I dont usually get asked then finally he asked do you have a boyfriend, I said no I’m engaged, he stopped asking questions, like whoa…okay I didnt have my ring yet either
kind of funny
Post # 14
Definately get hit on more. I advise all of my single friends to wear a bit of bling on their finger before going out…they’ll find a guy for sure.
In fact, I went to the store and bought wine and a wedding magazine, and the cashier guy hit on me immediately after commenting on the ‘zine.
“Wow, how YOU doin’? Getting married soon?”
Um, no I just wear a diamond and purchase wedding magazines to avoid guys like you…
Post # 15
I love it when I just lift up my hand and point at the ring – no words exchanged just a simple “screw off – Im taken” hand gesture works! love it!
Post # 16
It IS nice to have the e-ring as an easy way out! Sometimes I feel sorry for men (as long as they’re not creepy). Some of them try so hard, and are willing to do things to pick up a woman that are just plain humiliating.
@ejs – a note? That is hilarious. One time a guy in a bar gave me his resume, and said, “Take a look at it. If you think I’m someone you’d like to go out with, give me a call.” It’s weird what some of them think is going to work.