(Closed) have you been getting hit on more now that you are engaged?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

This has not happened to me. I have heard though that many women go through this because some guys find the ring more attractive. Crazy but I have heard the same thing for pregnant women too. Ah guys… gotta love ’em!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

lol No I have not! Actually the opposite. I personally find a man much more attractive with a ring (not that I take it to hitting on him, hello he is taken) and I think its because he clearly can commit and is dependable. You’d think that’d scare guys lol I have heard of the pregnant thing which grosses me out!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That hasn’t happened to me but I did get hit on a lot more while I was in a relationship than I did when I was single.  I think it has something to do with the inner confidence that can come from being “attached”

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

It happened to me a ton during my engagement!  But now, three months into married life, I haven’t been hit on once.  Very strange…  my wedding ring is not much bigger than my engagement ring…  My husband said it’s because I give off the “newlywed glow,” lol! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

When I walk around smiling because I’m happy to be engaged, I do find more people flirting with me. It’s so funny though that he started talking to you while you were reading wedding books!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think my ring does scare guys off, which i love Laughing. Sometimes i catch them looking and thinking, then walk off. And i’m almost 6 feet tall, so I don’t get the “average” men hitting on me. Most guys know better if they aren’t my height to ask me out. I have had 2 creepers go, “so what? i have a wife” and i give them a disgusted look. But since my guy’s not here, I do a lot of my errands by myself, so I’m alone a lot more than most women, which I think is why I notice this more. I go shopping alone, movies, etc. If he’s around, it’s a HUGE detterant!

The day I got my name changed at the DMV, I did have some older guy (40’s, short, balding, wtf?) in a business suit hand me a note saying he wanted to take me to lunch, spoil me rotten, and that i was gorgeous, would i give him a chance?

It felt AWESOME to hand it back to him with my left hand (rings side up) and say, “I’m married, but thanks!” then walk off. I was on the phone with my guy the whole time and he was incredulous…”a guy asked you out with a note?!?!?!” Tongue out

Maybe they are noticing your engagement glow!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Nah.  My FI calls my engagement ring my “stop sign”!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m an encore FI. The first engagement I did get hit on alot.  But I was also still going out with the girls because I was the first to get engaged.  Now that it is the second go around I haven’t noticed it.  Probably because when I’m out now, I’m with my guy most likely.

I do have my friend’s bachelorette party coming up.  This will be a test! LOL

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Definately get hit on more. I advise all of my single friends to wear a bit of bling on their finger before going out…they’ll find a guy for sure.

In fact, I went to the store and bought wine and a wedding magazine, and the cashier guy hit on me immediately after commenting on the ‘zine.

“Wow, how YOU doin’? Getting married soon?”

Um, no I just wear a diamond and purchase wedding magazines to avoid guys like you…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I love it when I just lift up my hand and point at the ring – no words exchanged just a simple “screw off – Im taken” hand gesture works! love it!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

It IS nice to have the e-ring as an easy way out!  Sometimes I feel sorry for men (as long as they’re not creepy).  Some of them try so hard, and are willing to do things to pick up a woman that are just plain humiliating.

@ejs – a note?  That is hilarious.  One time a guy in a bar gave me his resume, and said, “Take a look at it.  If you think I’m someone you’d like to go out with, give me a call.”  It’s weird what some of them think is going to work.

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