Post # 1
I’ve not been a member of the bee hive for a very long time, but it has been long enough to form an opinion that if too many of these Bees sting your azz, they can send a bee back to ground zero. I’ve solicited the bees input on several things that were on the table for consideration, but never on anything that I’d already formed my opinion and admiration for, because a bee’s opinion wouldn’t stand a chance. So bees, my question to you is, can the sting of the bee hive make you change your mind about something that you already have and/or once admired? Let’s not just ascribe this to e-rings because these bees will sting more than metal!
Post # 3
I really only ask for opinions when I’m seriously lost on the subject, or I feel that I might be going overboard!
Like for my girls I was going to have them wear necklaces, earrings, bracelets, and headband.. and asked the bee if a ring would be too much – it was!
Or, I asked how folks would feel if I didn’t serve wine [because my family doesn’t drink it, and I don’t want to be stuck with the crap] – it seems most like wine.
Honestly though, whether you’ve made up your mind or not, nobody will be 100% on board with whatever you are doing.. there are SO many bees from SO many cultures & places, that there will always be disagreements on things.
Post # 4
I had a hard time understanding your post, but you’re basically asking if the Hive has ever made us change our minds on something?
Generally no, for me. I’ve asked for advice a few times, but it was for things I was genuinely wanted input on. My mind wasn’t already made up, so I listed to the Bees and they helped me make a decision. If my mind was already made up, why would I be inquiring about it?
Post # 5
@SoNLoveWithHim: I find that conversations about bridal party responsibilities, plus ones and photography seem to bring on the heat on this website. Some bees have very strong opinions about bridesmaids and plus ones while professional photographer bees seem to have very strong beliefs about price, packages, and what constitutes being a professional. I have started several threads and have also responded to tons of threads. I do not feel that my wedding was dramatically changed by anything posted on this website. Most of my wedding details were planned and vendors had already been selected by the time I became a bee. Overall, I do find the website useful but I do not consider it the be all and end all of wedding planning.
Post # 6
No way. The only things I would ask for opinions about… Are things I want opinions about. Im a self assured decisive person with strong design opinions, so no one could shake me from my choices. If I didn’t know what to decide and had no opinions (which rarely/never happens) then I might make a thread and welcome all opinions. But usually Im too confident with my choices to put it up for opinion. The “I want this but should I want this” threads are for less decisive, confused, or insecure people!
Post # 7
I never changed my mind on ANYTHING based off of the bee or any other forum. It may have helped me to look into an option i wasnt thinking of but that’s about it.
Post # 8
It’s made me change direction on a few things, but even when I do change I still end up with something that is not necessarily the most popular thing the hive has seen. If you want examples check out my headpiece and wedding band posts. I’m still working on the wedding hat idea. I changed to a hat after my attempts at a veil did not go well because until I posted my veil attempt and a bee suggested a hat instead I didn’t even know wedding hats were a thing. I like the input and discussion the Bee offers because sometimes the bees can find just what I’m really looking for even though I don’t know it.
Post # 9
haha I was definitely talked out of a bad idea or two during my planning process. That’s what the Bee is for — to keep us from doing anything too stupid on our wedding day 😀
Post # 10
I attribute reconsidering a major life decision to the Bee, actually! Not the decision itself maybe (it took much more careful consideration than a stranger on the internet, and the world’s most intense pro/con list) but I pinpoint my reconsideration to reading a response to one of my posts.
I was so confident about my decision in taking a new job with a crazy commute despite discovering I was pregnant the same week. Someone on here was like, “What! You crazy! I’d be doing the opposite! Your baby’s only a baby once!” and I was like ……… oh crap. It made me think more realistically about my decision, consult with my family and friends some more (who originally supported my decision to take the job, and then supported my decision to not accept it) and ultimately, I turned down the job and stayed at my current position.
Baby’s not here yet but I still feel pretty good about it… so… thanks, whatever Bee that was!
Post # 11
I’ve only asked about things I wasn’t really sure of and really wanted advice. If there is something I like and am sure of I don’t need the opinions or validation from a bunch of internet strangers.
I have gotten a lot of advice from reading other people’s post. For example how to word RSVPs, mine would have looked much different but been less clear if not for what I’d seen here.
Post # 12
Post # 13
Let me be clearer! !!! I’m not implying that the bee hive doesn’t provide threads that enable one to make a more informed or better decision. I’ve been enlightened from many of the different boards/threads. I’m referring to situations where someone’s mind was set on something they wanted or had already purchased, but when the bees were done stinging them they had a.complete change of heart and mind. I’ve solicited the bees input on a couple of wedding bands FI and I initially fell in love with, but the majority of the bees weren’t fond of them. I changed my mind because when he and I went back to see them they had an afther thought look that I wasn’t fond of. It was my own volition, not the bee hive’s influence!
Post # 14
I have been introduced to a lot of new concepts that I was obivious to before reading threads here.
I don’t think any of my actual opinions on things have changed.