- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 1999
Going anon for this, it might get heated.
A couple of posts, not necessarily a single one, reminds me of something I’ve never understood: why do women confront an Other Woman and demand her intentions or information from her?
There have been 3 separate incidents in my youth where the girlfriend contacted me due to her her perception that I was, what, interested? Chasing her boyfriend? I don’t know exactly.
I’m no Jezebel, and that’s why I am bemused by these encounters. In 2 of them anyway I was totally, completely innocent. (In the 3rd one–not so much 🙂 but let’s just say that she was the interloper, not me. I had a History with him. )
The first time the woman came to my house dragging her bf with her and demanded to know the why and how of our accidental encounter at an art fair. He was a family friend and we’d had some flirtations and maybe even one date but that’s as far as it went before she entered the picture. Boy, was that awkward. I had no interest in him, he was pretty much a horndog.
The second time was via phone several states away. I was surprised to get a call from the current gf of my ex. He called me for years. Hell, he still calls me or emails me and you don’t want to know how many decades that has been going on, and she’s long out of his life. But anyway, she found his phone bill and saw many calls to my number and dialed it to see who he was calling so often. Then she got weird and whiney about it, and then she decided to grill me.
The third time I won’t reveal much except to say in retrospect: jesus, bitch. calm down. I made my choice and it wasn’t him, so relax.
So–have you ever confronted someone you think your bf is playing around with? What is the point of that, that’s what I want to know.
Isn’t HE the one who is cheating (if he really is, and these guys were not.) Isn’t HE the one you have to worry about? Isn’t HE the one in a relationship with you, and don’t you want him to want to be there?