I let him go about his buisness. No biggie. The only time it was awkward was the time I walked in on an old boyfriend's roommate.
When I'm not in the mood. DH starts "taking care of himself" it super turns me on! JErk lol.
I'd hope he'd wiat for me to take care of his needs but I'd understand if maybe I'd gotten home 2 or 3 hours early or something.
You don't have an "other" or "I don't know" option. I know mine does it but he's super sneaky or super fast because I've never even come CLOSE to catching him. Lol
Shower, maybe?
I dont understand why some people get mad at their SO's for masturbating. Can someone who does get mad about it explain why to me? I'm not trying to be rude or anything, I'm just honestly curious.
It wouldn't bother me one bit. His hand was there before I was, so it has seniority. :D
ASSIST!! lol maybe cause we have a healthy sex life if he masturbates he does it when hes next to me and I will assist if im in the mood or i just let him rub me for inspiration lol sorry if its TMI :/ We never watch porn lol we just use eachother so its normal!
Do you freak out??
@alishaloo: Agreed,when im all like "IM not in the mood" the he does it I'm like shit ok fine! Now Im in the mood damn it
TO allyfally: ok... I'll try
As an oldtimer (I am over 50) I think that part of it is based in the taboo of masterbating to begin with... there are certainly some religious groups that see it as a sin (self indulgent - impure thoughts - "a waste"). And from that comes the idea that to enjoy sex without your partner is therefore not appropriate behaviour.
Of course modern times and thinking have evolved... so that most people now see it solely as a "physical act / need" that is only natural, and doesn't really mean any one thing or another.
That said, there is certainly some old-time thought still surrounding this "taboo". I know in my first marriage that I was hurt if I found out my Ex was getting his jollies without me (more so when our marriage was on the rocks, and there wasn't a lot of sex anyhow... never mind that he was into sexual manipulation / control). I didn't like the idea of him masterbating one little bit (call it a lack of self-confidence)
With Mr TTR I am in a much more secure place, and more self-confident. I've matured to realize that it is for men more of a releasing "act" than an meaningful exerciese. And that is totally natural and not a thing that they do to p!ss women off. (Lol, yes I have come a long way in 30+ years)
All that said, Mr TTR has told me that he doesn't indulge since I've come on the scene... he could... well if the "mood" struck him... or if we'd been apart a long while. BUT he doesn't. And he doesn't have any hang ups about this activity either... he knows full well that it normal male behavior.
We are together 24/7 and our sex life is good. And he tells me the main reason is because he just doesn't feel the need to self-gratify... he would soo much more like to be with me, and have "our sex" be what he relies on consistently... than pull a fast one (pun intended) now and then on his own.
As I said, I'm way more mature now... so I've given up the jealous / anger aspect. I don't for a minute think my man is with-holding anything from me, or our relationship so if he does it or not, I don't care (and frankly it is NOT MY BUSINESS)
@EffieTrinket: Bahahahahahaha!
Assist. DH rarely does it, though.
For the record: if I ever did manage to catch him, I would think it was super hot. I like to watch him (in bed) but not sure how it would go if he was caught off-guard.
I chose angry. That's just because the one time I did catch him masturbate, I wanted to have sex--albeit that was in the first few months of our relationship. Now I just tell him to hold it for me if I'm going to be home soon, or else go ahead lol
Assist! He's caught me before!
Why would anyone be mad at their SO for masturbating? Unless sex was an issue like with Trey and Charlotte in SATC. (Yes, I just used SATC as an example. For Shame!)
Masturbating is a very healthy and normal activity. I remember a college professor of mine (I had a major crush on him!) sighting studies that showed a correlation between higher education and masturbation. He then followed up with, "So hooray for getting your PhD!" I adored that man!
@allyfally: I'll happily be rude in your place and say that as long as you have a fulfilling sex life with your partner, there's no reason to get mad at your SO for masturbating.
Unless he/she is jerking off instead of f***ing you you're an asshole if you're offended by masturbation. Sometimes you're just horny and your partner isn't around/you're too lazy for sex/your partner isn't in the mood. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting yourself off.
@Peony526: you're an asshole if you're offended by masturbation.
That's hilarious! I actually laughed out loud when I read that!
@eimajleigh: glad you're amused! I was readying myself for angry comments. Also, are we even allowed to say asshole on this site? I've heard they don't like cursing.
@Peony526: Haha, thanks!! Thats exactly what I wanted to say. :D
@Peony526: I have no idea, but I certainly appreciated it!
I've never caught him, but if I did it would totally turn me on and I'd join in :)
Well I have caught him and I just slowly backed out of the room and laughed. I played it off like I never noticed but we both knew he got caught LOL. I don't care I was just caught off guard and trying to take a nice relaxing bath but the phone rang and it was for him LOLOL.
I got mad the first time but then the second and third it was like whatever. plus he does it in his sleep so I figure if he does it in his sleep he can do it while hes awake. and 50% of the time I do help him lol.
@MissLittleChicken: my wife does too. Its a turn on for me because she likes watching
This totally happened to me. And I know I'm in the minority, and I know it's natural...but there is NOTHING sexy about that to me. It actually turns me OFF.
So I just walked right past. He knew I had seen him when he saw that I was on the other side of the house and didn't say a word about it. We talked about it later and I just asked that he close the door next time. He was sooooo embarrassed but I wasn't mad at him or anything - that's just nothing I want to see.
If I was in the mood, I'd assist. Otherwise, I'd just leave him to his business. Masturbating is totally healthy and normal.
I "help" him quite often. It's a very sexy and intimate experience, and great for those of us with a lower sex drive than the man's. I recommend giving it a try, ladies! 
When I was with my ex husband I didn't want sex very often (it wasn't a good relationship). But if he were to lay in bed and start strokin' (lol) then it would turn me on and sex would happen.
@EffieTrinket: Oh that was real funny!
Yeah, I would gladly assist. I don't even mind him masturbating to porn.
I voted "assist". If he was just masturbating, I would be like.. why? Hello, real thing here. Why? lol. I wouldn't be angry, just a bit confused. I understand the times we are not together, but if we were and he was doing that instead I'd be a little concerned and like.. wtf.
leave him alone. thats his private time, i'd feel like I interupped.
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Hey ladies have you ever caught your husband masturbating? If you did how did you handle the situation? Was it awkward?