Post # 1
I was informed by facebook earlier today that a friend of mine has called off his wedding. The reason? He had been seeing another girl in secret for the past few months (he had been with his fiancee for almost two years). He has chosen to be with this other girl instead.
It got me thinking… have you ever been the “other woman”? How did it turn out? Are you still with the guy, or did he go on to cheat again?
(No judgement on my part, I’m just curious.)
Post # 3
No, but a friend of mine has and she didnt know that she was! As soon as she found out she dumped his ass!
Post # 4
I would NEVER knowingly be the other woman, but I know people who have been and it makes me think differently of them unfortunately.
Post # 5
I was the other woman emotionally. His ex was a horrible person who cheated on him constantly and stole prescription drugs. He let it go on WAY too long because he felt he didn’t deserve better. How did it turn out? We’ll be married this year.
Post # 6
i should 1st say, i was NOT ‘the other girl’ in the sense that FI was cheating on a SO with me. i was certainly treated like the ‘home wrecker’ she thought i was! FI & i were friends, even before they met. his ex was convinced we were more than friends and made things pretty miserable for me & for the two of them in their relationship. she made him an ultimatum stating he was to have nothing to do with me anymore or they were over (she was a VERY jealous & controlling person). he didn’t tolerate that well, so they broke up. in hindsight, we’ve always had a close bond & i can understand her jealously over it- but not to the point she took it to. luckily for me, FI & i still have a solid bond & a wonderful relationship based in our original friendship. i’ve never felt jealous or worried about his bonds with anyone else. maybe not what you were looking for- i just wanted to put it out there that sometimes people view someone as ‘the other woman’, thinking they know about things and behaving accordingly, when in reality people often know less than they think.
Post # 7
I was the other woman with my SO. We had known each other and gone on a few dates junior year of college before he got together with his ex. While they were dating, we occasionally talked, but not often. Right at the end of the year, we ran into each other again and hung out a few times before we left for home. We were both coming back to campus for the summer, and once we got back we were spending a lot of time together. Within a week, we ended up making out, and I told him he needed to make a decision about who he wanted to be with. He chose me, and we’ve been together over 3 and a half years. They had been together for about four months and weren’t very serious. I don’t mean that as an excuse, but just background on how it happened for us.
Post # 8
ive been on the receiving end of what its like to have another woman in the relationship and it was demoralising to my soul – i would never put another person through that
Post # 9
@eloping: same here. I wouldnt/couldnt ever do that because I know how much it hurt me
Post # 10
I was the other woman (girl) with DH.. I was 15 at the time and he had been dating his GF since they were 13. Obviously at that age it was nothing serious as I was so young but I still look back on it with regret.
DH and I are blissfully happy and he is 100% loyal, however neither of us are proud of how we started.
Post # 11
DH emotionally cheated on me with another woman from his job last year. Since nothing physical happened we stayed together. She got fired from her job for other reasons and him and I still have issues when it comes to him going in super early or staying super late. We’re working through it and I’d never do that to anyone else.
Post # 12
As a note, I’ve been on the other end of it too, and understand how devastating it can be to find out someone you love has been lying and breaking your trust by seeing someone behind your back. In the situation I was in with SO, I wouldn’t have kissed him while he was still dating her if I could go back and change it, but I wouldn’t do anything else differently. I really do believe that sometimes you meet the right person when you’re still with the wrong person – it may be a little messy, but you have to do what’s right for you.
Post # 13
Totally agree! We knew immediately that we had found eachother. Although he never once touched me while they were together, it was really just a waiting game until he could work himself up to do what he should have long ago. His family and friends still bring up how they can’t believe he stayed with her for so long after everything she did. He is 100% loyal, we just happened to meet at a funny time in our lives.
Post # 14
In high school, yeah. It was silly, the guy was just a big flirt.
Post # 15
My husband was “the other man” though.
Post # 16
Flirting, yes. But anything more than that? Definitely not.