Post # 1
I just got an invitation for a wedding that I really don’t want to be a part of ( old college friend that I never really liked who is marrying a douche ). Have you ever been to a wedding that you really didn’t want to go but had to for some reason? Or a wedding ceremony that turned out to be something you still regret attending?
Post # 2
Jennybee224: If you’ve always disliked the bride, and you think even less of her groom, I’d suggest politely declining. Doesn’t sound like you’d regret not going.
Post # 3
Of course I am not crazy about it, it was just a chance to ask this question.. But I will go, old college group, we went through a lot together, I don’t want people to talk, you get it
Post # 4
Jennybee224: Yea, no. Im not a fan of pretending; I’m really bad at faking the funk and it would make me miserable. I’ve never been in this situation but if I was, I would politely say no. I dont see the point and honestly I could careless about an old group of friends that I dont talk to anymore talking about me… And if they choose to so be it (it would sound to me like they never left college).
Post # 5
Nah, I just wouldn’t go if I was in that position. Maybe you can “have a cousin’a wedding that day” or something.
Post # 6
Jennybee224: Decline, send a card and to hell with the people that will talk about you behind your back.
Post # 7
Jennybee224: This happened with a wedding that I was in! Not fun. Worst part was a good friend got married the same day and I couldn’t go!
Post # 8
Meh, ditch it. I felt this way about FI’s brother’s wedding. Obviously I had no choice without being THAT GUY. So, I went. This chick is just now posting her photos (wedding was in October) and will not stop riding the wedding train. You get ONE day, stahp!
Post # 9
Jennybee224: politely decline. No one wants someone at their wedding who:
A. Doesn’t like them
B. Doesn’t support the union
Will it call attention to you not liking them? Maybe, maybe not.
Post # 10
Only as a plus one for my fiance, a wedding that was for an old co-worker of his. It was kind of a boring wedding anyway, no one was dancing, just standing around outside talking. I knew exactly zero people there, and the people that my fiance knew were his old co-workers. They talked about work stuff the entire night. Not interesting work stories that others could appreciate, but really specific case histories of past patients or about other co-workers who weren’t present. Oh my god I almost died of boredom. And the shoes I wore absolutely killed my feet after standing for 3 hours. I actually gave up and went to sit by myself and stare at the lake until it was mercifully time to go because I was so over it. I was not happy with my fiance that night.
Post # 11
Jennybee224: Since other PPs told you what they would do in your situation, I don’t have anything to add there. However, I went to a wedding that I wished I hadn’t gone to last summer. I honestly only went b/c it was for DH’s college friend, and I couldn’t say no without hurting DH’s feelings. His college friends are alright, but their wives are extremely bitchy and mean and hate me for some reason. They spent the evening completely excluding me from conversations so it was like 1) the wives talking, 2) the husbands + my DH talking and 3) me awkwardly standing there. :/ It didn’t help that I had too many tequila sunrises to take the edge off and had a horrible hangover the next day. 🙁 So yeah, been there, done that. If you can get out of it with minimal implications, definitely do. I wish I could have!
Post # 12
Well, as I said I wish I could avoid it but I don’t want to be the bitch who didn’t show up and the only one from this group of friends who thought was above it so, I think I’ ll find a way to deal with it.
Post # 13
So you’re attending a wedding of two people you don’t like in order to appease people who will see you as a bitch and “talk” if you don’t attend. Hmmmm yeah no I don’t “get it.”
Sounds like alienating these people would be the best thing you could do in the grand scheme of life.
Post # 14
I have a friend in a relationship that we can all see is not making her happy… They got engaged recently and it’s been very dramatic. I do not look forward to receiving the invitation and sincerly hope, for both of their sakes, that the relationship ends before it gets to a wedding.
I get what you are saying about having to go… I wouldn’t not go to their wedding because of how I feel about him and them as a couple. I love her dearly, and would be there. She knows my concerns, as her good friend, and she has chosen to carry on with the relationship. All I can do is be there for her, come hell or high water.
Post # 15
Yes, a wedding where the bride is in complete control of her husband, and has turned him into someone he’s not. My husband and I are both very sad he chose to go through with the wedding. I hope that things work out for the best. We tried to make the best of it, but it definitely wasn’t one of the most enjoyable weddings we have attended.