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A friend of mine posted pictures on Facebook from a wedding she attended last week... and I must say the bridesmaids outshone the bride!
The bridesmaids dresses were these custom made blush coloured mermaid gowns that looked similiar to this, but with a shorter train:
Have you ever been to a wedding like this? What are your thoughts?
Dang that's crazy. Were they white too? I'd never do that and I've never seen it
Honestly I have. The BM dresses were really lovely. But I think I just prefered their hair and accessories. The bride looked like more of a BM than her MOH.
That dress is insane tho! Looks like a modern wedding dress!
Wouldn't the bride have chosen those dresses? But wow! Those definity look like a wedding dress.
I've never been to a wedding where the bridesmaids out shown the bride in a good way, but I was at a wedding when a girl from the wedding party stuck out in a bad way.
She was an acolyte (which I personally think is a role for a child – she looked to be in college) and she had a really short metallic dress, a really low-cut strapless top, and really tall heels. The rest of the bridal party was much more modest in cotton tea-length dresses with cap sleeves. It was really strange (to me.)
Yes, they are weddings where the bridesmaids are really beautiful..and the bride is beautiful on the inside. They would outshine in looks..but overall.. the day belongs to the bride.
hey ladies....
I have also been to a wedding where the bridesmaids outshown the bride, onlt hing is.... i was the bridesmaid!! I felt so bad on the day, as i went to alot of effort to look good (ie spray tan, fake nail) and the bride had her hair n make up done and thats it.... I cant help but think to myself, that can never happen to me lol
@Leash182: You have a biased view of whether or not you outshone the bride.
Yes, the MOH in a wedding I was in over the summer outshone her cousin the bride. By herself, the bride is nice-looking, blonde-ish, not very fit but not overweight. The cousin/MOH was tall, thin/toned, very tan, had dark hair, more prominant facial features, and wore her makeup beautifully. The bride is a much nicer person, TBH, so it didn't help for all of us to see the "hot, b!tchy cousin" outshine the sweet bride, but she did. The photogs were all over her too, telling her she was "model gorgeous" and should pose for shots.
The bride did have The Glow, as they say, and her gown was flattering, but looking at those pictures makes me a little sad for her.
Sometimes the bridesmaids are just prettier than the bride, it's part of life.
OMG dont we always say on the Bee that no one ever outshines the bride?! what happened to that?! lol!
Nope. I'm sorry but in my opinion there is nothing that outshines a bride on her wedding day. I've attended lots of weddings and been in numerous ones as well. The bridesmaids might be "prettier" but they certainly never outshin the bride. This of course if just MY personal opinion.
@Leash182: you have a pretty high opinion of your spray tan and fake nails.
I have been to a lot of weddings and no, I can't say that the bridesmaids ever outshone the bride.
I think it depends on the bride's attitude. I've been to a wedding where the bride was in such a tizzy about what was/wasn't going as planned that she looked miserable at her own wedding. She was so wrapped up in the details that failed to come through that she had a poopoo face the entire day. Shame, since the day is supposed to be about you and your husband, not the centerpieces wilting early in the reception. Her bridesmaids, however, looked radiant because they weren't letting these little insignificant things get to them. I felt bad for the MOH, tending to the bride being all upset.
Again, it's all about the attitude.
I agree. I hardly notice the bridesmaids beyond what the dresses look like. Nothing beats a happy bride on her wedding day.
I notice the bridesmaids on the day of the wedding, but I never forget the way the bride looks.
Not really. In my experience, no one really cares about the bridesmaids (sorry). I can see how that dress would change things though! There is no way those things are going unnoticed.
My eyes are always drawn to the grouping of brightly-colored BM dresses instead of the sole white dress when I'm at a brightly colored wedding. Apple red, bright blue, mango... no thank you.
Yeuch... my best friend/future potential maid of honour could be a model, as could two of my future/potential bridesmaids. When BF got married, the pictures could have come from a designer wedding catalogue, I swear. I, on the other hand, am short and tubby. Still getting them dresses that will make them look good though...
I have never even begun to notice the BMs more than the Bride. It could be because I'm sort of, well, bride obsessed? Lol. But of all the weddings I've been to I only vaguely remember the color of the BM dresses (and TBH I don't remember some from LAST YEAR) but I remember distinct details about the bride.
I guess sure, the BMs could be prettier in general, but I have never even noticed other than in passing or in some pictures? I mean if we really want to get into it, my FLOWER GIRL will be the most gorgeous girl there on my wedding day. ;) (And maybe a bit biased, but my little sister is seriously the most beautiful child ever. Lol.) It's all good. I'll be the exquisitely happy lady in white. ;)
As far as the OP pics, I think that was perhaps a poor choice on the bride's part! I don't know why you would choose that type of dress for you wedding party. But to each her own, I just wouldn't.
I've never been to a wedding where the bridesmaids outshone the bride, but I've seen photos from one that a friend of a friend was a bridesmaid in.
The bride had over the top, bleached-to-the-point-of-fried hair, obvious heavy makeup, and her boobs were almost falling out of her dress. The bridesmaids wore lovely lilac satin dresses that were extremely figure flattering, their makeup was tastefully yet strikingly done, and their hairstyles were elegant but still natural. Although the bride obviously went to great lengths to make herself stand out, she went too far. So you sure as heck noticed her, but for all the wrong reasons.
I'm sure if I knew her better and had attended the wedding, I would have focused more on her. But as it was, all I could think looking at her photos was how beautiful her bridesmaids were, in comparison to her almost cartoonish getup.
@2ndtime: it was a ballgown made from tulle with gold/yellowish flowers embroided on the bodice. I didn't like it to be honest. Plus, it wasn't flattering on her... it almost looked like an elongated tutu.
My BMs will be in black.. :)
Haha! Not for this reason at all, but still.. after some of these replies it calms my sudden nerves a bit.
I am one of those people who could have easily had my BMs outshine me. I like to think I am at least averagly good looking, but my sister is model thin, perfect body, incredible skin, perfect hair, gorgeous and striking features. My cousin, while a little shorter and more built is also one of the most stunning women I know and they were both in my wedding. But I like to think the big white dress and pro make up and hair helped me. :)
OP I cant see how ANY bride could think a dress like that on a BM would be anything but distracting.
@cardus: lol
unless like linguo said- the bride dresses trashily, the BMs will never outshine the bride. no matter how perfect their nails or orange their skin is.
No i don't think anyone could outshine the bride. People might think a bm is pretty but that is as far as it goes. The bride and groom are who everyone pays attention to. The only time they pay attention to a bm is when they are walking down isle and giving a speech and dont really notice them the rest of the night. Everyones eyes are on the bride!
Not really, because I never really look at the bridesmaids. Usually I make a comment about how lame their dresses are, but other than that.. focus is on the bride.
I wouldn't say "outshone," but I went to one where the MOH (without telling anyone) had her dress altered from the tea length full skirt that all the other girls were wearing to a straight silhouette micro-mini. Everyone was still whispering and nudging about the MOH as the bride came down the aisle. I didn't know any of these people well, but that's still one of the most unbelievable things that I've ever seen anyone do, ever. I would have been sorely tempted to dismiss her from the MOH position as soon as she revealed her alterations.
Bridesmaids are like lawn ornaments, they are pretty and can be really flattering but I only really care about the house, which would be the bride. Most of my memories and focus is on how happy and beautifully in love she is!
@.twist. said "I notice the bridesmaids on the day of the wedding, but I never forget the way the bride looks."
EXACTLY THIS. I remember the color of the bridesmaids' dresses at the weddings I've been to recently, but even at the ones where I was a guest on the groom's side and didn't even know the bride, I ALWAYS remember the way the bride looks.
No. I don't believe that anyone can outshine a glowing bride. For my wedding, I made sure that everyone looked good. I think we all looked amazing! No one out shinned me. lol
Ive seen it. When a BM has jewelry that sparkles more because it is extravagant, tans like crazy, and has bright blonde hair, she pretty much outshines the bride. Not in a good way though...
Sadly it can happen. There are simply some bridesmaids who are 'better looking' then the bride. But overall, it's the brides day....she is wearing the big noticable white dress. People that notice that the bridesmaid is more attractive, would normally just keep this observation to themselves. But yes, ofcourse is possible to look better then the bride.
@leah18# sorry for the catty responses! If we are being honest we all know that a knockout bm in a gorgeous flattering gown will outshine the bride in pics and irl. That sucks sure but it's like when people say every newborn is beautiful lol. We have all seen the baby that looks like a wdinkly old man lol. People just like to pretend that no bride would ever look less than perfect. I am a realist tbogh.
Obviously a BM can look more attractive than the bride in every day life, but the thought of any girl outshining the bride on her wedding day makes me feel really sad for some reason. Of course it could happen, and I've seen it happen, whether it was snarky and intended or not.
I went to a wedding recently where the bride is a really pretty girl, but her hair and make up were absolutely awful! Her hair was severely pulled back, and her make up was powdery and bland... It was such a pity. The bridesmaids had soft curls through their hair and just nice natural glowing make up... I don't know why there was such a massive contrast in the styles!
The bride then spent most of the ceremony scowling... I was taking photos and only got about 5 photos from over 100 in which she is genuinely smiling. Such a contrast from her in real life!
I was at two weddings last year. I could tell you the brides dress, shoes, etc. I could *maybe* tell you the color of the bridesmaids dresses. Forget remembering how they wore their hair. Forget their shoes.
The bridesmaids NEVER outshine the bride. They might be prettier on the outside sometimes, that's life, but they'll never outSHINE her.
And this, just because it's funny:
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