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We have, actually just a month ago. Wasn't too bad, we just got a drink, sat at a table, others joined us and actually had a really nice time and met some really nice people.
I have several times, and really its not that bad. I've been to a lot of weddings. The only time it was bad was when I didn't get a plus one and only knew the bride and really I wasn't even that close (but close enough to feel obligated to go). I did feel really silly at times but its pretty easy to talk to people, more than likely you get the older folk who want to know who you belong to (thinking you are a relative or something). Honestly its not that bad.
i think it depends on the person. if i want to a wedding all by myself where i didn't know anyone, i would hate it b/c i'm extremely shy. but i know my hubby would have no problem at all.
We did. It ended up being just fine- we found a nice group of people to sit with and enjoyed cocktail hour, dinner, and cake cutting. We didn't stay much longer after that as there weren't any other people we knew to catch up with. I feel like most normal people would be just fine in a similar situation. Being a single guest with no date could be rough though.
Yes and I had a couple at my wedding in this situation. I don't mind as a guest, the trick is to make conversation and get to know the people at your table. I did my best to seat our friends who didn't know anyone at a table of very friendly people with common interests and they all got along really well.
I think it really depends on the person. If you are an introverted person who doesn't really initiate conversation, then it might be awkward. This is why I allowed people who would be coming and not know anyone a plus one.
I went to a wedding recently where I only knew three people. I didn't know any of them well because they were my husband's friends from growing up. My husband was actually in the wedding too which meant that I was alone quite a bit. But I was fine, I made friends and had plenty of people to talk to. I will point out though that I'm a really outgoing person and will pretty much talk to anyone. So, if you have guests that don't know a lot of people and may be shy just try to seat them with people that they have a lot in common with. Most people have the social skills to strike up a conversation for a few hours : )
@artbee: that sounds like me and my BF. we actually went to a wedding last year where neither of us knew any of the guests and i just sat around and ate and people watched while the bf socialized like he was best buddies with everyone in the room, it wouldn't have mattered if i went with him or not! lol! it really does depend on the person.
Will your guests be allowed a +1? If so, I don't think there's anything to worry about. They'll have somebody they know and they'll have the opportunity to meet other people there as well.
Oh I should have specified that, yep everyone is allowed a +1 and the guests that are coming whom I suspect don't know anyone else are coming with someone, so that should help. The comments so far have been very relieving! Good to hear, thanks bees.
At my MOH's wedding, aside from the bride and groom, I only knew the bride's mother and two brothers. It wasn't too bad, because I was her MOH and was sitting with the bride and groom at the reception, but if I was just a guest, it might have been awkward. My husband was there as well, but he's more extroverted. I'm introverted and not the best at making casual conversation, so I wouldn't have done well at a table of strangers.
I went to a wedding where I only knew the groom. It was fine - I just sat at a table with an empty chair and made friends during the reception, but I'm also more of a social person and don't mind flying solo.
I have, and it was fun! Ended up making friends with the people at our table and had a great time! I'm kinda outgoing though; I could see how it might be a little harder if I was shy.
My husband and I are going to a wedding where we only really know the bride and we are actually looking forward to it! We go to a good amount of weddings so we think it'll be fun to go to a wedding where we have very few social obligations and we can just enjoy - eat, drink, chat and spend the night in a nice hotel. If you give your guests a plus one it shouldn't be a problem.
We had a two sets of people in this situaiton. I just did my best to seat them with friendly people that they'd have something in common with. One had the same profession as our coworkers, but just in a different office so I sat him there. The other was the mother and father of one of my husband's college lacrosse teammates. I sat them with a friend of my parents whose son played college baseball, and they got along fine.
We're going to one in a few months where we only know the bride and groom! We're super excited, and I think we'll have a great time - we're making a vacation out of it!
Yep, I've been in this spot before. Mostly it isn't too bad, but I would suggest maybe seating these couples together as opposed to with a group of people who already know each other well. I once went to a wedding where the opposite side of the table was very cliquey and didn't talk to us the whole time. We had fun on our own, but it was a little strange.
My bf and I went to a wedding about a year ago. It was our close 'couple friend'. We didn't know anyone else, but we had each other. It was a small wedding, most of the guest were family. They didn't do assigned seating, which was nice b/c we ended up sitting with another couple who didn't know anyone else vs. sitting with some of there family.
Yes, FI and I went to one of his co-workers' daughter's wedding... so we knew the co-worker, her husband, and the bride and groom (well, FI knew them better than me, as I only met them once). We were seated at a table with a bunch of random guests - obviously the parents' guests lol - and we had a great time.
I've had that happen to me twice, and one time it was awesome, one time it was horrible. The balance all hangs in who you're seated with. I purposefully sat people in that position at my wedding with people I knew were outgoing/they had a lot in common with so they would have the best shot at having a good time :-)
I went to one and it was NOT fun for us. The reception was in the lobby of the church right after the ceremony (it was a cake and punch reception) and there was about an hour gap before they came out from taking pictures. There was not really a buffet or anything (just some snacks... pretzels and chips and veggies) so there were no assigned seats. No one talked to us and there was so much seating that when we picked a table no one sat with us. Also, there was no music. So we munched a few pretzels and carrots and talked to each other for the hour til they came out, gave them a hug, watched the cake cutting, and then split. :)
I'm going to a wedding in a couple weeks and I only know the bride. I'm excited to go though because they are a young couple so I expect a lot of people my age to chat with. I make a point to force myself not to be shy so I'm hoping to make some new friends around town.
I am bringing my FI too. I think I would feel less comfortable if it were just myself.
I have not yet - but come Saturday, yes. It will be wierd though, but I'm sure with N it won't be sooo bad.
actually 2 years back when my friend got married, she was the only person i knew at the entire wedding. what can be considered even more weird is that i have known her for over 2 years before her wedding and have never met her till the friday before her wedding. i end up getting to know her sisters and some other friends and that is who i sat with at the reception.
I knew everyone (except for the groom's side) but I noticed a couple who were seated together at an empty table and they didn't seem to know anyone so I invited them to squeeze in at our table. I hope they enjoyed themselves! The wedding was wonderful (planned in 40 days) and the person in charge of seating arrangement had a good excuse for not showing up, the father of the bride lost his battle with cancer just before the reception so we all winged it. the bride found out about her father after the cake and dancing..
Recently FI and I went to a wedding where we only knew the bride and groom. It was a super small ceremony. Had it just been one of us, it would have been really akward. Having a guest made it a good time.
I have. Its tough, but I was with the Mr. so it worked out ok. Just try to sit people together who either know each other, or have something in common. At the wedding where I only knew the bride & groom. We were seated with the brides great-aunt & uncle and some other random old person. It was totally weird.
Yes, I have. Many times, in fact. For the most part, it was never so bad since I was at least with my husband and the brides have always seemed to make an effort to seat similar couples together. I feel like most people are at their friendliest and most social at weddings...Lots of booze and wine help!
Yep, I went to one a few weeks ago ... I knew only the bride and groom AND my fiance had to work that night so I was totally alone. It wasn't awful, but it wasn't the most fun I've ever had. My advice? If they're shy, sit them next to friendly family (aunts and such) or people close to their age.
I had a few times. The times that I've gone with my husband have been great experiences. The wedding I went to when I was single and was not given a +1 was not so enjoyable. Since you are giving everyone a plus 1, it should be fine. I like the suggestion by a previous poster of putting those couples together. It may be awkward if they were at a table where eveyrone knew each other except for them.
I have and it wasn't a big deal. Make sure they get a +1 and maybe seat them all together.
I have once. I didn't have any issues with not being able to enjoy myself. I also know other people who have been in the same situation and they didn't have issues either. Then again, they are the type who can easily strike up a conversation with anyone. I guess I don't get why alot of people feel they are unable to enjoy themselves if they only know the couple. The only thing stopping someone from having a good time is themselves, especially if everyone around them is having fun.
I have a few times and it's akward but not awful. I went to one wedding knowing that would happen and I had my date with me so I wasn't alone. Finding a place to sit was probably the most uncomforatble time beacause every table was full of people who knew each other and we felt like we were crashing the party. We felt a little like loners but it was so good to see our friends marry that it didn't matter at the end of the day. Another wedding I went to had a seating chart and all the "loners" with their +1 were at that table and it was a blast!! None of us knew anyone other then the bride and groom and our +1's so we all talked and danced together the whole night. It was really fun!! I don't know if you're doing the whole seating chart thing, but if you are I agree with the other bee who suggested seating them all together.
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I haven't (but I haven't been to tons of weddings, either), but I am starting to realize a couple of my guests might be in that position. Have you ever done this? Was it awful? Any tips for helping them enjoy their time more?