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Lmao that's awesome! I think you've done both couples a favor, sometimes it takes someone being blunt like that to realize your in a dead relationship. I've actually had the opposite effect, I told my BFF at the time that her BF was cheating on her and she decided to believe him over me. We don't talk anymore, and they live right behind us. She puts on a front that things are so great between them, but we're friends with her dad and he tells us how miserable their relationship is (they live with him). She's so oblivious to things, I can't believe their still together.
To each their own, at least I can say I'm in a genuine relationship 
Usually, it is because I am good friends with the bf. Then gfs get jealous. And then they break up. Usually, I back off too. Girls sometimes are crazy.
A bit foot in mouth to be sure, but ultimately you did both of those girls a favor. Why can't men break up with women they have no intention of marrying? It's maddening.
lol eloping what a unique talent you have... :P
Yeah 7 years is too long & if you don't know after 3, you'll probably never know... but omg! lol
Wow, eloping! Although, it sounds like neither relationship was going to "make it" anyway. I do not think I have ever broken anyone up. I'm actually a little impressed you are so persuasive.
I kissed a guy that had a girlfriend once - I did NOT know he had a girlfriend - apparently they had "become bf/gf" the night before. He then dumped her for me. It lasted a few weeks until he showed his true jerky colors and I told him to beat it. Ahh, to be 18 again.
eloping, you remind me of my mom, she is always telling guys to get it together and make their long term girlfriend their wife!
Haha, um no offense but that's pretty awful! I would probably not comment on other people's relationships if I were you, eek. Its probably more their business anyway.
If only you could turn that power to good instead of evil! Get people engaged- that's much more pleasant!
:) well in hindsight.... case #1, he did meet and marry a different woman within a year and had a baby about 2yrs later
but i SUCK as someone that tries to get couples together.... i once introduced a young woman from my office to a i guy i knew (fellow season ticket basketball fan) and i was totally clueless that he was gay.. see, i suck at fixing people up
That's a pretty funny gift you've got, eloping! Probably not the super power you were hoping for, but it sounds like you're using it for the common good so I wouldn't sweat it. You could advertise your talents:
Are you unsure if your boyfriend loves you? Is he ever going to make a long-term commitment? For $99.95 I will personally spend 5 minutes with your signigicant other, and within 24 hours I GUARANTEE that you will know the answer to your burning questions!
LoL...that is great. Seriously though, you didn't really break them up, you just made them see the light before they did. :o)
million, that's great! eloping should totally advertise her talents! haha
Oh my coworker has been dating (and living with) his girlfriend for the past 3 years and none of us suspect a ring in the near future. His parents aren't in the happiest of marriages (more of a social arrangement) and hes living a great life (hey, why buy the cow when the milk is pouring out)... I've been so close to telling his girlfriend these thoughts but I've been lucky enough to keep my mouth closed!
I love your stories though, you saved these ladies a lifetime of just "okay."
Oh my goodness, haha! I think if somebody's comments can *cause* somebody to break up, they were probably already there anyways. Not sure I've exhibited such foot-in-mouth candor, but I know I have in relatin to other things. I'm sure I've just blocked it.
pretty funny stories...(although sad in their own right) but my first though - as a couple of people already posted...if they broke up over ONE comment from someone they barely know - then the relationship was bad / not healthy to begin with.
especially after 7 years?! i mean that's pretty sad if a guy just ups and decides in one night - after ONE comment to dump his girl after that long - there HAD to be other things going on and this HAD to be something he'd already been contemplating.
can't say I've ever messed with someone else's relationship like that..but again - some things are meant to be.
eh, don't stress about it. If a comment in passing can break someone up then it was time! But like the other posters - I think you probably could sell this talent of yours! I know someone that'd hire you :-P
I went on a double date with a male friend and his newish girlfriend and my FI. Afterwards, my friend asked me what I thought so I told him I didn't really get an impression off her since she was so quiet. Aparently he didn't know if this was going anywhere and when I said that he decided she was not the one for him. He told me several weeks later that my opinion helped him decide to move on. It was not very serious at the point but I was not aiming to break them up so I still felt bad.
I wouldn't stress about, it sounds like the outcomes would have been the same regardless of your involvement.
I did break up a couple once...I hung out wit this really cute Sigma Pi in college for a few weeks, just to find out he had a Tri Delta girlfriend who knew about me and hated my guts...she and the Sigma Pi ended breaking up because he was hanging out with me behind her back.
I think they would've broken up without me anyway, they had a really tumultuous relationship!
You totally did them a favor. Those girls probably just would have waited and waited for their guys to get their acts together, when they really didn't intend to get their acts together at all!
hahaha ...You have to realize in the end it would of ended for both couples ..so you saved them some time :)
I have a cousin that dated this great girl ( the only girl out of all my cousins wives/gf's , that i have ever liked ..figures ) Anyways , he dated her for 7 or 8 yrs , bought the ring , bought a hope chest , told my aunt and uncle , ..and she found out ..HE NEVER PROPOSED ....My mother and me are convinced he's gay ..lol...( theres more to that reason, but thats for another time.,) ..Anyways ..8 yrs later..The girl is happily married ,with i think 2 kids ...Things happen for a reason ....
If I've ever broken up a couple, I'm unaware of it. But I do often give the "fish or cut bait" analogy (although usually it's "sh*t or get off the pot").
Sometimes guys need to hear that or they'll just keep dragging things out. And if a guy is that ambivalent about a women he's spent years with, then she's better off out of the relationship.
Haha, that's funny. I don't think I've broken up a couple. But you shouldn't feel bad, if all you need is a conversation from a stranger (I'm sure you know them, but I mean someoe who is an outsider to their long-term relationship) to break up, then they were going down that road anyway.
Maybe I can give you my SO's email address! 
jk
I am usually the friend of the guy that the girlfriend doesnt like. Its not my fault they are sticks in the mud and have no fun! no, but really I have a very close friend who kept dating all of these girls that hated me, they didn't last long (I do not take credit for this!) He is currently dating a wonderful girl who gets along with the whole crew -- hopefully a keeper!
Those are crazy situation,s but you have to know that if the couple wasn't alreayd having problems, they wouldn't have broken up just from your comments!
It's kind of a strange (maybe even funny?) cooincidence, but I wouldn't feel guilty about it if I were you. If neither of the guys were ready to take the plunge after so long--they obviously weren't meant to be together anymore!
wow, weddingbee has trolls now? (MrSmooches)
I've done it a couple of times and while I feel bad about it... they always end up happier! So i'm just happy for them that their lives are going the right direction
hahaha this is hilarious. i've never done it but sometimes i want to...esp if they're overly obnoxious about the perfection of their love 
those couples are so annoying! it's like, yeah yeah give it few more months and we'll see how it goes.
No, but would you all judge me if I said I did on purpose once? A good friend of mine was dating a girl I really didn't approve of, and ... well, suffice it to say I came between them, they broke up, and I moved on. We're still friends, but ... they're no longer together.
I have a bit of a shameful past though. (I still can't believe a guy as wholesome and amazing as J actually loves me; it's taken me forEVER to stop seeing myself as 'used goods'!)
Can't say I've ever broken anyone up, but I agreee with some PP's and say they were not in a good relationship if one comment broke them up. You really did do them a favor!
Did them a favor yes. But in the case of the wedding day breakup, you may want to tone it down for the next time you debase a relationship. IMHO, you should take the person aside at a non-celebratory moment if you need to get your feelings off your chest.
LOL you didnt' cause them- obviously they didn't want to be in those relationships. But just in case I'm keeping you away from FI and myself! :) LOL JK JK
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i have broken up 2 couples in the past without even realizing it.....
1.
i work with alot of good people and one of them is the boss's son... a really nice & great guy. anyways he has his GF has been dating for about 7yrs (way too long in my book) and he has been a best man about 6 times in a year and had another wedding coming up on the weekend.
anyways.... he was telling me this..... and i said poor Kate (his GFs name), all these weddings, she must be thinking when is my turn while watching you dancing with all those bridesmaids
and then i looked at him and said "Steve, its time to make a decision, its time to fish or cut bait - marry the girl or cut her loose"
then we changed subjects, talked about other things, sorted out a few work issues he came into the office to talk about and thats it....
so.........
the very next day he walks into my office, leans over me a bit and says "kate and i broke up last night"
OMG
i said you didnt listen to me did you, no one listens to me!!!!!
but yep - they broke up
case 2,
was at a wedding and at the table were 5 couples, 4 of us engaged and one couple dating for over 3 years.
i said to the boyfriend "so youre at a wedding, all these engaged couples - do you think you'll get married?"
he says "i dont know how i feel about her yet"
hmmmm - my response was how could you not know how you feel about her after 3 years?? really, if you dont know by now cut her loose because youre wasting her time.
so fast foward a hour or so and i come back from socialising and dessert is being served and i look at an empty spot and say to the guy "so where is your girlfriend"
my then FI starts kicking me under the table and i look at him and say "what?"
he then whispers to me that the girlfriend heard me and her boyfriend talking and while i was away from the table they had a argument over the "i dont know how i feel about her" and they broke up and she walked out
so... 2 couples down.... maybe i should go into couple counselling???
anyone else suffers foot in mouth like i do???