Post # 1
if you’re married, engaged, or in a serious relationship that will most likely lead to marriage, i want to know: have you ever cheated on your partner?
i’m including affairs, one night stands, making out at a club with someone, kissing a co-worker, anything; and it doesn’t matter whether you told him or not
I included a poll because i imagine most of you would rather remain anonymous
Post # 3
@bebero: nope and i never will i love my best friend/fiance too much to hurt him i do not even want to be with anyone else but him. hes all i need ; ) and i thank God i found the perfect man to put up with me lol im kinda crazy wacky girl and he loves all of me just the way iam faults and all. i would never disrespect/violate him in any way.
Post # 5
I had a 6 month affair in 2011.
After DH found out he kicked me out and slept with my (ex) best friend.
I won’t go into the nitty gritty but we overcame it and now have the most amazing marriage. I won’t say it is perfect, but it is pretty damn close!
Post # 6
Not proud of it by any stretch, but I don’t mind telling my story. I had an emotional affair at the end of my first marriage. Emotional affairs aren’t part of your list, but I still answered yes on your poll.
Post # 7
@HisMoon: i actually thought about it, I didn’t specifically write it because I know that people have different definitions of “cheating”, but yes, I include it.
Post # 8
No, never. I’m not going to be all holier than thou about it… I’ve just never been tempted. I also have no desire to complicate my life. Affairs = complications. Who has the time or the energy for complications?
I’m also quite ruthless with relationships. If they don’t work, I walk. I don’t look elsewhere to have my needs met instead, etc.
Post # 9
Nope, never have. I’m not judgy about it, but personally I’ve never put myself in a situation to even be tempted.
Post # 10
@RipleyC: +1 I try to keep myself out of any situation that would get me close enough to a guy to start developing feelings. Even if I don’t think I will develop feelings, you just don’t want to take the chance.
Post # 11
nope. never would. It took me this long to find him (I’m 38) I’m not going to do anything to jeapordize it!
Post # 12
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
Nope never cheated nor had the desire to cheat on him. I know if I did he would end our relationship (he’s been cheated on in the past)…and I can’t bare the thought of being without him b/c of something I did wrong.
@RipleyC: I don’t put myself in situations to be tempted either. And situations could be as simple as driving/traveling alone with a male co-worker, etc.
Post # 13
No I wouldn’t, I’ve been cheated on before, I would never want to hurt my FH that way.
Post # 14
I have in past relationships (bfs), but not my husband
Post # 15
@slc201329: Exactly 🙂 I’d rather be overly vigilant about protecting my relationship than be too flimsy with boundaries and land myself in an inappropriate and totally preventable situation.
Post # 16
Nope. Never would. Even if our relationship deteriorated I would still respect him enough to end it before moving on to someone else.