(Closed) Have you ever cheated?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you cheated?
    Emotionally : (38 votes)
    10 %
    Physically : (43 votes)
    12 %
    Both : (85 votes)
    23 %
    Never : (200 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Never had the desire to, but I can say in a couple past relationships (the bad ones) I wish I had….

    Post # 4
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Cady:  you wish you had cheated? or wish you had the desire to cheat?

    Post # 5
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    1473 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nope. I have been cheated on too much in past relationships. I would never do that to my FI.It is emotionally scarring for sure.

    Although, I do flirt. But I don’t consider that cheating because I honestly think that that is the way men and women communicate with eachother. My FI is a big flirt but I never worry.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I kissed my now FI before I officially ended my relationship with prior bf, does that count as cheating?? I never really thought so since in my mind, BF and I were already over.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Wish I had cheated, one relationship in particular was particulary bad and he does need a good shot at his ego. But its in the past. I can just hope some other girl was wiser.

    Post # 8
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    1994 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I have never cheated on my SO, but I thought your post was asking about cheating in any relationship period, so I answered yes. At one point I was in a really bad relationship & instead of ending it I just started new ones.  This went on for a while, but I was young and dumb.  Before the SO & I decided to be exclusive, I was a bit a of a wild thing. But he was no angel back then either.

    Post # 9
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    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @AirForceWife78:  Same here! I didn’t really consider it cheating as I had tried to break up with bf but he flipped shit so I decided to wait until we were around other people break up.

    Post # 11
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    @mrsbruff2b:  I agree.  It’s not black and white.  Do I think it’s wrong?  Absolutely.  Do I understand how it can be complicated?  Yes.  I never have, and never ever will, being with FI.  But, in a prior relationship, I found out my BF was cheating on me while he was overseas (and had been prior to going overseas as well).  I read emails he’d written that confirmed it.  In my downward spiral upon finding this out, I technically cheated, emotionally and physically with a close friend who was supportive at the time.  This happened before I got ahold of my BF overseas to dump his ass.  So, technically yes, but I don’t beat myself up over it.  I know 2 wrongs don’t make a right, but I have never cheated otherwise. And I’m okay with that. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No its not. You really need to know both sides of the story. In my case, like I said I never had the desire to cheat in any relationship. Especially now with my SO, it never crosses my mind and I don’t have the same feeling towards anyone else. I could never do that to him either, even if he was to do that to me.

    However, like I said I wish I had in a past relationship.

    I was in one where the guy made me feel unworthy, but I let him do it anyway thinking that I could be better for him. I think that instead of refusing the advances of a guy that did want me at the time, I should have let him and then moved on.

    Post # 14
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    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i cheated on my ex when i was on vacation. i told him about it and broke up with him as soon as i came back. i don’t feel that bad about it though because for all i know he cheated on me before that. our relationship had no trust and i was always catching him in lies about girls he talked to or saw. looking back i cannot believed i even wasted 3 years with him.  so i think i did it because i was no longer in love with him and looking for a way out (and the opportunity presented itself before i broke up him). i guess i would have enjoyed that vacation experience a little more had i broken up with him before i went because i did feel guilty and i knew it was wrong, but i didn’t care enough not to do it.    i also don’t think once a cheater, always a cheater because i would NEVER cheat on DH. i have no desire to and i just would never do that to him. we actually have a relationship built on trust and he knows what i did in the past and still trusts me.

    Post # 15
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    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @MalbecMe:  just read your story now and it sounds like we can relate!

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I cheated on my high school boyfriend at the very end of our relationship when I knew it was pretty much over.  I broke up with him the next time I saw him after cheating on him, (although we were technically together at the time I hooked up with the other guy).

    I also sort of cheated on a guy I was seeing in law school.  He wasn’t my boyfriend but we were sort of monogomous and seeing each other for a while.  But both of us knew our relationship wasn’t anything serious.  So I don’t feel too bad about that one, (we broke up shortly after).

    I have never cheated on anyone I was in a happy and healthy relationship with , (and NEVER WOULD!).  The cheating wasn’t really about the physcial.  It was basically an indication that it was the end of the relationship and my way of nailing the last nail in the coffin.

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