Post # 1
So last night FI and I had a great date and came home, where the evening took a turn for the frisky. For the past two months or so FI has had a lot of anxiety about the wedding and it’s kind of reflected in our sex life. I talked to him about it, so we both were feeling a lot of pressure to make it really good last night. After five minutes of it not working very well (awkward positions, no heat, etc) I started to cry, right there on the bed. I got up and got dressed, so upset. FI was absolutely so sweet, when a man might normally be turned off, he talked me through my emotions and told me not to worry so much. Things will get back to normal once wedding stress is over and since we had just talked about how it wasnt “the way it used to be when we first met” we were putting too much pressure on ourselves. Things heated up again and ended up being better than they have in months after we talked, which was nice! Afterwards he said, “So uhh…..is it safe to say you *may* be PMSing?” LOL! I knew I was, so I wasn’t offended by the question. I never used to understand why couples would fight or be hurt in their sex life but I totally get it now.
Have you ever cried during sex? I hope I’m not the only crazy one lol
Post # 3
Yes, after. Once, and it was because I finally had my first orgasm with a man, at age 26. All those years, I was convinced there was something wrong with me, I was worried I would never have this happen to me. So it made me really emotional when it happened and also, the fact that it was him, that I am madly in love with him, that I trusted him so much that I finally allowed myself to totally let go … it was a very emotional and meaningful moment in my sexlife.
Post # 4
Yes, quite recently. We only started having penetrative sex after we got married 4 weeks ago but before that we did do other things. Prior to us getting married I could get turned on super easily – even just sitting next to him would get me fired up! Anyway, we went on honeymoon and my sex drive was high but when we returned, due to me being on my period for longer than usual…it diminished. Finally, when it was finished we tried to have sex but I wasn’t feeling it….usually by this point I would have been “desperate” for something. I was really frustrated and thought my high sex drive was gone for good. It made me really upset that I had waited over 3 years to have sex with this man and now…the feelings weren’t there. So that made me cry. Anyway, it turned out that my inability to get “fired up” was due to needing the loo. So after that, it was all good…but not what it used to be. Still waiting for that part!
Post # 5
I said No, but after reading the PP’s note, it jogged my memory and my answer is Yes, after. I cried after my first time, as it was such a big overwhelming moment for me. It was half happy, half relief. Though we didn’t last, I did truly love my first, and that was special to me.
Post # 6
ETA: I am actually shocked by the number of yes responders.
I find crying before, during or after sex weird. I guess it’s more common than I thought. I’d be infinitely weirded out if my husband ever cried after sex, though.
Post # 7
Yes, but not in a good way.
Post # 8
One time, in the last few months, the experience was so intense, I cried, and felt silly, but they were happy tears, so it was ok. 🙂
Post # 9
I almost cried during sex not too long ago, but for a good reason! I had just been away visiting family across the country for about 10 days. It’s the longest we’ve ever spent apart, and I am pregnant and we missed each other SO much. When I came home, we had sex and I started feeling so incredibly happy and emotional. I was totally fighting back tears the whole time. I probably would never have come close to crying if I wasn’t an emotional pregnant lady haha.
Post # 10
No, I would find that weird.
Post # 11
I’ve cried happy tears before. I scared poor DH though because he thought he did something wrong. Turns out he did something very, very right.
Post # 14
I feel like I have, but I honestly can’t recall a specific instance. I just asked my FI and he said “Maybe not during, possibly after, and absolutely before.”
We’ve definitely had some passionate and emotional times before one of us has to fly back to our home country and leave the other behind.
Post # 16
nope, I always thought you would only cry during or after sex if something went horribly wrong.