Have you ever cried during sex?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Have you ever cried during sex?
    Yes, during : (139 votes)
    32 %
    Yes, after : (121 votes)
    27 %
    Nope : (181 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yes, after. Once, and it was because I finally had my first orgasm with a man, at age 26. All those years, I was convinced there was something wrong with me, I was worried I would never have this happen to me. So it made me really emotional when it happened and also, the fact that it was him, that I am madly in love with him, that I trusted him so much that I finally allowed myself to totally let go … it was a very emotional and meaningful moment in my sexlife.  

    Post # 4
    2313 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yes, quite recently. We only started having penetrative sex after we got married 4 weeks ago but before that we did do other things. Prior to us getting married I could get turned on super easily – even just sitting next to him would get me fired up! Anyway, we went on honeymoon and my sex drive was high but when we returned, due to me being on my period for longer than usual…it diminished. Finally, when it was finished we tried to have sex but I wasn’t feeling it….usually by this point I would have been “desperate” for something. I was really frustrated and thought my high sex drive was gone for good. It made me really upset that I had waited over 3 years to have sex with this man and now…the feelings weren’t there. So that made me cry. Anyway, it turned out that my inability to get “fired up” was due to needing the loo. So after that, it was all good…but not what it used to be. Still waiting for that part!

    Post # 5
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I said No, but after reading the PP’s note, it jogged my memory and my answer is Yes, after.  I cried after my first time, as it was such a big overwhelming moment for me.  It was half happy, half relief.  Though we didn’t last, I did truly love my first, and that was special to me. 

    Post # 6
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012


    ETA: I am actually shocked by the number of yes responders.

    I find crying before, during or after sex weird. I guess it’s more common than I thought. I’d be infinitely weirded out if my husband ever cried after sex, though.

    Post # 7
    4998 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yes, but not in a good way.

    Post # 8
    1584 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    One time, in the last few months, the experience was so intense, I cried, and felt silly, but they were happy tears, so it was ok. 🙂

    Post # 9
    7188 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I almost cried during sex not too long ago, but for a good reason! I had just been away visiting family across the country for about 10 days. It’s the longest we’ve ever spent apart, and I am pregnant and we missed each other SO much. When I came home, we had sex and I started feeling so incredibly happy and emotional. I was totally fighting back tears the whole time. I probably would never have come close to crying if I wasn’t an emotional pregnant lady haha.


    Post # 10
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    No, I would find that weird.

    Post # 11
    1608 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve cried happy tears before. I scared poor DH though because he thought he did something wrong.  Turns out he did something very, very right.

    Post # 12
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nope, never. 

    Post # 14
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I feel like I have, but I honestly can’t recall a specific instance. I just asked my FI and he said “Maybe not during, possibly after, and absolutely before.”

    We’ve definitely had some passionate and emotional times before one of us has to fly back to our home country and leave the other behind.

    Post # 15
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Uh no. 

    Post # 16
    939 posts
    Busy bee

    nope, I always thought you would only cry during or after sex if something went horribly wrong. 

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