- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
We live far from where our wedding will be held, and most of our bridal party lives out of town, although all of us belong to the same home town, which is where the wedding is. It is not too much trouble of the Bridal Party to travel back for the wedding as they will be going home for christmas anyways(the wedding is right after christmas).
Now FI’s bestman is his brother who is much elder to him, and his groommen are his close friend, another good friend, and one of my family members. Now my girls have been planning my bachelorette from the day i got hitched(only of of these friends are in the bridal party), but noone has come forward regarding FI’s night. He has many good friends, but ofcourse they are split into groups of high school buddies, college buddies etc, and the members of each group do not know those outside the group.
His close friend who is a groomsman(lets call him Tim) is from high school and the other groomsman is a college buddy. So I was hanging out with Tim some time back, and we were joking about the things the girls are planning for me, and so i cracked a joke about what Tim would plan for Fiance. Now this was before Tim was asked to be groomsman. His response was, ‘Shouldn’t the bestman plan it?’ at which point I changed the subject as I knew Tim was expecting to be asked to be a member of the bridal party and Fiance wanted to be the one to ask him. FYI, When Fiance did ask Tim, he graciously accepted the offer and was completely understanding that FI’s brother would be Bestman and he would be a groomsman.
Fast forward to today,as there has still been no mention of FI’s big night although plenty of talk about mine, i go “so are you guys planning on having something for Fiance coz I dont want it to be on the same day as mine…”
Tim responds that since he has been away for so long he would have no idea about the best venues and (jokingly) the going rate for a stripper or FI’s taste (in a stripper) for that matter (implying he hadnt planned on being the one to take on the task). I just jokingly replied, ‘well, he has very classy taste :P’
Now my goal was just to put it out there that the friend might want to consider planning a little something as i know Fiance might feel a bit bad abt all the hype surrounding my bachelorette and him not getting anything at all. He wouldnt have to spend much at all, everyone who comes would pay for themselves, as is the norm in my town.
Has anyone ever done this? I just want Fiance to have a great send off like i know i’ll be getting 🙁
Do you think it was wrong of me to drop the hint?
PS: wedding party members have no expenses, we are paying for all attire etc, plus, none of them have money issues and all hold steady,atleast medium income jobs.