Post # 1
The one who barely aknowledges you but stares into you’re DH/SO’s eyes when he speaks?
For me I’ve had two experiences with this. The first in a prior relationship. It was all bad, my intuition was right. There are ways of innocently flirting-this being one. Think gazing into his eyes when he’s speaking, but barely making eye contact with you when you speak.
The last time this happened, a few weeks ago, I wasn’t sure if what I was seeing was true. She may not of know that I am married to this man I’m sitting next next to, but whether she knew it or not is not the point. We are there as a couple. When I address couples that I don’t know either person, I make it a point to connect first with the woman.
Post # 3
Nope, never happend to me. Or at least I’ve never noticed. That would be annoying, though.
Post # 4
@punkin83: This happened to us in a restaurant once. The waitress came over several times to refill my SO’s drink, but completely ignored mine! She chatted him up and didn’t look my way at all. Now keep in mind, we didn’t know this girl! She just liked him and ignored me from the start!
Post # 5
Yup. A few of FI’s friends, well, former friends, are like that. Do not even acknowledge me. I let him know how I felt, and he barely speaks to them anymore. If we do happen to be in their presence, in a group setting, he makes it very obvious that we are together. I also like to engage them in conversation. FI knows what I am doing and we both laugh about it, because they have to be nice to me, for that second anyway LOL
Post # 6
Some women are just more comfortable with men than women. I am one of them. I find it easier to talk to men because I’ve had a lot of experiences with women being back-stabby, catty and judgmental (I do have female friends, it just takes me longer to open up to women.) And I do make it a point to look into people’s eyes when I talk to them. I’m shy, so my first inclination is always to look down or away.
So as long as the person isn’t overtly flirting, I wouldn’t take it personally.Especially if your husband isn’t concerned by it. I’m not saying she’s definitely not flirting with him (and if she’s giving him the bedroom eyes or continually using the flirty voice, then yes, don’t trust her), but just give her the benefit of the doubt for now until you have a real reason not to. Reach out to her–you might be surprised.
Post # 7
@punkin83: lol yea. The girl who wanted to date him before we met does this. Super annoying but i’m like whatever. look all you want thats mine!
Post # 8
Yep, this happens a lot, especially at restaurants. He’s hot, what can I say? To be fair, it happens to be with male servers, too.
Post # 9
Women are naturally intimidating to other women. Its just in our nature to avoid eachother in this way. Its a definate dominance thing. I feel weird making the comparison but its a dog behavior as well (I won’t break down the pack actions:).
Consider it a compliment – you have a nice looking guy!
Post # 10
Can’t say I have. Although I will agree with other posters — Some people just communicate/function better with someone of a particular sex. I tend to “get along better” with men. I do not go out of my way to ignore a woman, but I don’t go out of my way to “connect” with her, either. I find men more relatable and easier to talk to, so I’m more likely to respond/interact with a man first.
Post # 11
Once, a long time ago. It involved a guy I was dating at the time and his ex-girlfriend. Lets just say, that encounter was very awkward. I could tell there were still feelings there. Our relationship did not last, not because of her…other reasons.
Since then, no.
Post # 12
My ex’s SIL’s friend came over to my ex’s and my’s house a few years ago and stared at him the ENTIRE time. Like just stared. It was bizarre and weird. He isn’t particularly attractive, but women are attracted to him hardcore. It was annoying lol.
Post # 13
Ok. I also tend to feel more comfortable in new converations with men-less catty, more laid back etc. HOWEVER, I know women- I am one, and I don’t show more attention to a womans spouse than her out of courtesy.
Post # 14
@charmedbee: I think I did what you are saying. I engaged this woman in conversation on purpose. She had a stupid question which no one seemed to know the answer (odd in a room full of teachers) so I chimed in with the answer finishing with “and that’s why my husband and I teach our daughter to know xyz”.
Post # 15
Hahaha, when FI and I first started dating, one of his casual female friends (who was OBSESSED with him) smacked me upside the head with a whitewater rafting paddle!
She was definitely not his type, but WAY TO BE CRAZY, LADY!
Post # 16
I don’t tend to mind this too much, but I’ll laugh at SO because he doesn’t realise it. He does it to me too. However, with ex-BF, very early in our relationship, there was an incident I wouldn’t have believed if it hadn’t happened to me.
So there was this girl – who, by the way, had contributed to the breakup of ex-BF’s previous engagement – who we met, in a group, at a bar right after we started seeing each other. I was introduced to everyone and this girl was really frosty, but the evening went on fine, and I really liked all of them. As we were leaving, I said goodbye to them all, and this one looked me up and down and kind of – I don’t know how to descirbe it… flounced? I guess? Like a five-year-old! ANYWAY, I smiled and left and thought well that was weird. Later that evening, ex-BF’s phone buzzed (I was significantly younger than he was) with a message from this girl saying “So I guess now you’re shagging your secretary.. that’s really classy”. I. Was. Gobsmacked. SO rude. Poor girl, she was all kinds of heartbroken over him, and he really was a waste of a good obsession.
ETA: BrandNewBride, I just snort-laughed at work reading yours, that’s like something out of a Sandra Bullock movie!