(Closed) Have you ever given a wedding party member the boot?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Ever had to kick out a wedding party member?
    Yes : (4 votes)
    14 %
    No : (21 votes)
    75 %
    Yes, I shall explain... : (3 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Well my best friend since middle school bitched me out for not being able to afford her and her husbands plane ticket to my wedding (they live in utah, we line in nc). I tokd her I could fly her here but she refused to go anywhere without her husband and called me selfish when I told her she wasn’t my maid of honor anymore. Made sense to me since she said she could come without her husband so how could she be here to be my MOH, but she just got really mad. I haven’t spoken to her since, but honestly she has changed so much anyway and I’m not really digging the person she has become. She used to be so strong and independent, but now she is totally dependent. Anyway, people change and so do friendships….just happens…you have to save the ones you can and let go of the ones that aren’t worth it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It sounds like your friendship is already the walking dead. Her behaviour sounds like she’s doing the “slow fade.”  I say do her a favour and cut her loose very nicely – don’t complain about her behaviour, just tell her you think you can both agree you’ve grown apart, and that you’re releasing her from her obligation as a bridesmaid. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @geekspice: you are so right. I’m in the same position as the OP. Thanks for the advice.

    Post # 6
    Member
    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @geekspice: you are so right. I’m in the same position as the OP. Thanks for the advice.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1448 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @KT_Hime:  This.  The bridesmaid that I ended up dropping was just like this.  She said that she could be a bridesmaid, but then had X, Y, Z excuses of why it would be difficult for her.  Then she didn’t provide any feedback into the dresses (which I’m letting each girl pick for herself) and said none of the dresses would work for her and she wouldn’t be offended if I let her go.  Later she pretty much demanded that I invite her and her husband (even though they’re completely incabable of going) so that she could send me a gift because “that’s what friends do”.  Actually, last I checked, real friends don’t commit to something they can’t do while making a martyr of themselves over it, and if they do commit, they show up.  Ick.

    Post # 9
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    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    AniseOMG, don’t even get me started on dresses! So she is Mormon and I totally respect that, but since she got married she has to wear these undergarments at all times…so I pretty much had to choose a dress with sleeves…not capped sleeves…SLEEVES. It also had to be passed the knee (which is much easier to find than sleeves) and if it didn’t fit these criteria you could see the under garments. So I was doing the best I could to find a good dress when she tells me that I will probably have to buy it for her because she isn’t making a lot right now….go figure! I told her I could help out some but FI and I had our own things to save up for….ya know like our honeymoon! It was just getting ridculous…

    Post # 10
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    1448 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @KT_Hime:  Must be a Utah Mormon thing! Her undergarments were one of the reasons why I wanted each bridesmaid pick their own dress, and we all agreed on the dress line together (I’m paying for the dresses to help offset their cost).  She never provided any feedback on anything, then complained that none of the dresses in the chosen line would work.  I was so upset; she totally did not understand how rude and frustrating she was being.

    I really think she must be unhappy; she used to be really independent like your ex-bridesmaid. I get the feeling she was taking some of her life choices out on me; she married her dream returned missionary, but she’s forced to support him and their kid while she puts him through college.

    It really sounds like your ex-bridesmaid and mine should meet! LOL!

    Post # 11
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    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    LMaO, YES, they could be twins!!

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