Have you ever had to be around an ex-friend? How did you deal?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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527 posts
Busy bee

It sounds like to me that SHE is the immature one! sure, say hi, but if it’s against your morals to “give in” to this girl, don’t do it! She will just walk away smug. Look over at DH and remember you’re above all this high school drama, now!

Post # 4
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527 posts
Busy bee

FutureDrAtkins:  Wine! Lol…I have had to deal with a sticky situation like this before and honestly, knowing DH was there to support me and loving my life as it is, made it all seem trivial in the end. You’re psyching yourself up too much. And sorry but she sounds like a bitc!! Also, who says you can’t have pre wedding parties if your wedding is small??

Post # 6
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4797 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

FutureDrAtkins:  Ooo, that’s tough. I remember your story, too. Jerks. It’d be so much easier if it was just the one girl, though. I would DEFINITELY not apologize, I just feel you’ve done nothing wrong. I would also DEFINITELY not cause drama, be the bigger person, and just say hi. Hold your head HIGH!

Post # 7
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61 posts
Worker bee

I’ve been in a similar situation that has gone on for years. I have a very dear friend that has someone in her core group of friends that verbally attacked me and said  awful things about me. This carried on for years- but I didn’t say anything because I had thought the issue was between me and her. Obviously it wasn’t- she talked to mutual friends who I didn’t feel the need to get involved.

When my lovely friend hosts events and I know this person will be there. I ignore her. I mean- I’m going to the event to see *my* friend. I don’t let her dictate which events I do and do not go to. I’m civil and say ‘hi’ when required but that is it.

Don’t let this person have any say in how you live your life by her presence! You only live once and should have no regrets!

Put a fake smile on your face for the benefit of the mutal friend (I do it all the time!) and have fun!

Post # 10
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2873 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

FutureDrAtkins:  I can kind of relate.  Nothing nearly that bad, but in our group there are several people who I would rather just not talk with.  When in those situations I usually make sure I’m with DH most of the time, as he is great at keeping me calm, or at least recognizing when I’m getting anxious about being around people.  

Post # 11
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1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would hold your head high as you didn’t do anything wrong. Its these girls who are acting like immature teenagers. Say hello to them and don’t stoop to their level. I wouldn’t chat with them or anything beyond hello and pleasantries.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t want to be friends with aomeone(no matter how long I’ve known them) if they were guving me an ultimatum. She seriously “unfriended” you bc of not being in the BP… That’s pathetic. Walk into the party standing tall, shoulders back… And let her see how HAPPY you are. Don’t let that fool or her posse intimidate you. Only bitches would act like her and turn people on someone else… PLUS you’re married(I have a feelings she isn’t) 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Was she invited to the wedding at least? And just didn’t come? Bc if that’s the case I would do the “hellos, how are yous… And say… “oh the wedding was fabulous.. Too bad you missed it”

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