Have you ever "played hard to get"?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever "played hard to get"?
    Yes, and I would again. : (28 votes)
    36 %
    Yes, but it's not something I make a habit out of. : (15 votes)
    19 %
    No, I've never played hard to get. : (30 votes)
    38 %
    Are you talking about fishing? It sounds like you're talking about fishing. : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    567 posts
    Busy bee

    @MrsRevolutionize:  Yes, a lot of smart girls I know play hard to get.  I didn’t growing up and when I started playing hard to get I noticed the guys I dated seemed to be more smitten towards me.  I only do it in the beginning of when I am dating a guy, after 6months to a year I stop.  It depends on the guy though, some guys it works on, some guys it doesn’t.

    Post # 4
    Member
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    women get SO mad when men play games during dating/relationships…but its ok for women to play games back? I dont play games, and I never did. If a guy pulled any crap like that with me I would be gone so quick and I dont think women should do it either. Its not mature behavior, do you really want to start a relationship on lies and games, doesnt end well.

    Post # 5
    Member
    284 posts
    Helper bee

    @Footballwife:  +100

    I don’t play games. We as women deserve to be treated well and like princesses and all that jazz, but our men deserve to be treated well, too. Two-way street, absolutely.

    Post # 6
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Hahaha, no. I’m definitely NOT the “hard to get” type!

    Post # 7
    Member
    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

    No. If you want somebody, go for it. Why mess around?

    Post # 8
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Eh, what she did was just plain rude. I consider “playing hard to get” being a coy tease, not standing people up or being tardy just to seem cool.

    Post # 9
    Member
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    I voted no, but then I read the post… and yeah I wouldn’t necessarily drop everything and go just because someone showed up early. That’s not exclusive to a guy I’m dating though, it goes for everybody. I don’t think that’s really playing hard to get.

    I’m generally an enthusiastic person though. If a guy is more attracted to coyness and hard to get, then it’s not going to work out between us because I’m just not like that.

    Post # 11
    Member
    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    This goes back some time, but yes.  It was not intentional, because  because I was honestly not ready to get involved seriously with anyone at the time.  Let me just say there is good reason people use this as a strategy.  

    Post # 12
    Member
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I did it unintentionally when I met SO. I had a lot going on at that time, and I was frequently unavailable. He had to chase after me. It wasn’t done on purpose, but I do believe it added to the mystery/excitement/whatever for him.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I did it when I met my FI and it’s something we laugh about now… my “rules” were that I would never intiate contact more than him and that I needed a few days notice for plans. If he called me on a Friday and asked me to hang out? Nope, even if I was free. Was it a bit silly? Sure. But I’m glad I did it because it kept me focused on not jumping the gun on the relationship… we ended up going super slow because of my silly little rules. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @MrsRevolutionize:  No I dont really play games. I’ve got more of a open, honest, cards out on the table approach. It worked for me though, DH and I both stayed open and honest about how we felt about eachother from the getgo and we got engaged 6 months after meeting

    I think if you’re in a relationship with someone you should give them the same respect you want for yourslf.

    Post # 15
    Member
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    If I played hard to get with my DH, I’d get nothing!  Haha.

    Post # 16
    Member
    901 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    There were several times that I did. When I met my FI though, he told me from the beginning “If we are going to have a relationship, I dont put up with games.” I didn’t really have to with him since it was long distance for the first six months, so it was already.. hard to get. hahah. But yeah, some guys REALLY dont like it. I know my man wouldnt have dated me if I didnt respect that.

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