Post # 1
Long story short, an acquaintance made lunch plans with her boyfriend of a few months. She told him that she’d be ready at 2:30pm but he arrived earlier at 2:00pm, and texted her to let her know. We’re at work, and even though there was absolutely no reason she couldn’t have left at 2:00pm (she wasn’t working on anything specifically) but she hung around chatting for about fifteen minutes, saying that she should “make him wait.”
I assume this is some sort of “playing hard to get” thing, but it just absolutely boggled my mind. Do girls actually play hard to get? I never did this in my relationship, but I’ve always been miserable at flirting, so I don’t actually know if this works!
So, what do you think? Is playing hard to get something you do or have done?
Post # 3
@MrsRevolutionize: Yes, a lot of smart girls I know play hard to get. I didn’t growing up and when I started playing hard to get I noticed the guys I dated seemed to be more smitten towards me. I only do it in the beginning of when I am dating a guy, after 6months to a year I stop. It depends on the guy though, some guys it works on, some guys it doesn’t.
Post # 4
women get SO mad when men play games during dating/relationships…but its ok for women to play games back? I dont play games, and I never did. If a guy pulled any crap like that with me I would be gone so quick and I dont think women should do it either. Its not mature behavior, do you really want to start a relationship on lies and games, doesnt end well.
Post # 5
I don’t play games. We as women deserve to be treated well and like princesses and all that jazz, but our men deserve to be treated well, too. Two-way street, absolutely.
Post # 6
Hahaha, no. I’m definitely NOT the “hard to get” type!
Post # 7
- Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.
No. If you want somebody, go for it. Why mess around?
Post # 8
Eh, what she did was just plain rude. I consider “playing hard to get” being a coy tease, not standing people up or being tardy just to seem cool.
Post # 9
I voted no, but then I read the post… and yeah I wouldn’t necessarily drop everything and go just because someone showed up early. That’s not exclusive to a guy I’m dating though, it goes for everybody. I don’t think that’s really playing hard to get.
I’m generally an enthusiastic person though. If a guy is more attracted to coyness and hard to get, then it’s not going to work out between us because I’m just not like that.
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Post # 11
This goes back some time, but yes. It was not intentional, because because I was honestly not ready to get involved seriously with anyone at the time. Let me just say there is good reason people use this as a strategy.
Post # 12
I did it unintentionally when I met SO. I had a lot going on at that time, and I was frequently unavailable. He had to chase after me. It wasn’t done on purpose, but I do believe it added to the mystery/excitement/whatever for him.
Post # 13
I did it when I met my FI and it’s something we laugh about now… my “rules” were that I would never intiate contact more than him and that I needed a few days notice for plans. If he called me on a Friday and asked me to hang out? Nope, even if I was free. Was it a bit silly? Sure. But I’m glad I did it because it kept me focused on not jumping the gun on the relationship… we ended up going super slow because of my silly little rules.
Post # 14
@MrsRevolutionize: No I dont really play games. I’ve got more of a open, honest, cards out on the table approach. It worked for me though, DH and I both stayed open and honest about how we felt about eachother from the getgo and we got engaged 6 months after meeting
I think if you’re in a relationship with someone you should give them the same respect you want for yourslf.
Post # 15
If I played hard to get with my DH, I’d get nothing! Haha.
Post # 16
There were several times that I did. When I met my FI though, he told me from the beginning “If we are going to have a relationship, I dont put up with games.” I didn’t really have to with him since it was long distance for the first six months, so it was already.. hard to get. hahah. But yeah, some guys REALLY dont like it. I know my man wouldnt have dated me if I didnt respect that.