Have you ever rejected a proposal?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No but a good friend did. It was like the 2nd or 3rd date. She called me later, totally freaked out. If I recall correctly, the date ended fairly quickly and awkwardly, and needless to say she didn’t date him again.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had a dude ask during our first date if I would consider saying yes to a marriage proposal from him. I actually clarified to make sure he was seriously asking me that question, and he stuck with it. Obviously not the type of scenario you were looking for, but that was just a little craaaaaaazy….

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To me it doesnt count but :

I had two guys ask me in the same year….yeah…over the phone i think. I was 20.  One I was with for 3 weeks…yeah…basically according to him I marry him or he kills himself.  BYE.  Second…was a few month later about a month into the relationship and he asked if we could elope.  NOPE!   Luckily FI waited almost 3 1/2 years lol

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have.  I’d just gotten divorced and started dating a guy casually.  I was honest with him that I wasn’t ready for anything serious and wouldn’t be any time soon.  He was a nice guy and I enjoyed his company but I certainly wasn’t ready to settle down.  After a few months he asked me to marry him, so I broke off the dating relationship and kept it at a friendship level. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

1. I’m a Christian and I take my faith really seriously. I was casually [stupidly] dating a guy who wasn’t a Christian, but who I had made friends with through work. We spent a lot of time together and he was really, really fun. I blame myself 100% for basically leading him on…because he did propose to me and I had to say no. It was really hard for me because I did pretty much love him. He was hurt, but he rallied and we are really good friends to this day.

2. This is kind of ironic – I dated a PASTOR of a small church plant who asked me to marry him. Soon after, he did something really weird/innapropriate that made me realize I wasn’t actually interested in being with him for even a day longer. I also blame myself for this one because I think I knew deep down that I couldn’t really love/respect him completely. I was just lonely and wanted to be in a relationship.

 

It’s really important to be up-front with yourself AND the person you’re dating about who you are and what you value!!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My brother proposed to his now-wife when they had only been together a few weeks! She, sensibly, turned him down, and they kept seeing each other and they’re now married. So that was a pretty happy ending!

To be honest, I was contemplating turning down my partner before he proposed (he was dropping some hints about possibly proposing soon) – I love him, but I wasn’t happy with some of his behaviours. I said yes to the proposal, then (a few weeks later) had a serious talk with him about how close he came to not getting a ‘yes’. He’s pulled his socks up a bit and we’re doing great now!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Well, my old hs bf proposed at prom lol. We were close friends for over a year before we dated all 3 years. I considered it but we had to many problems (both stubborn, he put me down a lot, etc) and he only proposed because I didn’t want to be with him. I have no idea why it took me so long to dump him, but am glad I did!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I did!!  I was in high school (ew! too young!) and we got in a giant fight (ex boyfriend, obv) and I broke up with him.  It was my senior year and we had been dating the entire time I was in HS.. the day after I broke up with him he showed up on my front porch with a ring and asked me to marry him, but I had to keep it a secret because our parents wouldn’t approve at such a young age.  I said no and told him to leave… he sat in his car crying for awhile.  I’d like to say I never saw him again but I was young and naive so I took him back and we dated for a few more months before I finally broke it off and I haven’t seen him since – it’s been over 8 years.  😀

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

No, but I was always worried that a passionate, emotional ex was going to propose. That was kind of the problem there… 

Post # 12
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9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

i had a guy propose to me in 8th grade 2 weeks after we met.  We dated off and on for about 8 years (more off than on) right up until the summer before FH and I started dating.  I think he asked me to marry him 3 or 4 more times in those 8 years, generally more of a joke than anything but for a long time I thought we would end up together (as did everyone else) we were just far too alike – we were like twins separated at birth in a lot of ways (and even almost shared a birthday).  We’re great friends now, and that’s the way it should be.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sort of!

 

When I broke up with my ex he didn’t take it very well. He kept asking me to change my mind and I was firm with him. He then said he’d bought a ring and was going to propose on an upcoming holiday. I had to tell him that a ring wouldn’t make any difference to how I felt about the relationship. I have no idea if he was telling the truth – I think it was more of a ploy to get me to not break up with him.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

31 and never been asked…. A proposal virgin! 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

No, but my best friend has. Although she was born and raised in the U.S., she’s from a culture where arranged marriages are common. A guy who is a friend of the family sent her a friend request on Facebook. She had never met him, but she saw that they had a bunch of her family members as friends in common, so she accepted his request. Soon he was sending her Facebook messages telling her that from what he saw of her Facebook profile and her pictures, she would be a good wife. She turned him down, he kept persisting. He got more and more desparate with each message—literally begging at one point—and I think she finally ended up blocking him.

I get that to this guy it’s no big deal get married without knowing the other person first, but my friend was seriously creeped out.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I got proposed to over the phone. After three years together. He had moved quite a ways away but we still saw each other often enough it shouldn’t have been over the phone. At first I said yes, then a month later I told him I wanted it to be done in person and I was postponing my answer. But that infuriated him and the next few months were bumpy and he ended up cheating on me! So GLAD I took my yes back! Haha. Years ago though and I am very happy now so it’s just kind of an awkward/funny story about how my first proposal was done over a casual phone conversation.

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