Post # 1
And let’s say you did. Let’s say (for the sake of argument) that you went to a wedding that did a full wine ceremony, in all seriousness, but used a different liquor (i.e. vodka, bourbon, beer, scotch whatever) — would you think that was a really terrible idea?
The basic back story is that one of those drinks has meaning in my FI and my life at various stages. And to us it means more than a wine ceremony would. And yes, we thought it would bring a little bit of humor into the ceremony. But do you think it’s possible to do this seriously? Or is it an absolutely terrible idea?
Post # 3
People can be such wine snobs but you can get stupid drunk with wine just like with other alcohol. If other drinks have more meaning to you, then I say go for it. Yea, you’ll have to word it carefully so people understand what you’re doing. Or just embrace the less serious side of it and make it a fun part of the committment.
I don’t think funny vows make them any less meaningful, and I don’t think a other than wine ceremony would be less meaningful, especially if it’s honest to who you are as a couple.
Post # 4
I say do whatever you want becuase its your wedding. However, as a guest i would think that it is kinda weird/funny.
Post # 5
@amyisnice: hmm, me too. But FI is so set on this idea and for US it’s a fabulous one. I’m just worried about Grandma (who doesn’t approve of drinkin’ — in full southern accent) and my parents random friends.
Or maybe it really is time for me (38 days out) to just say – screw you guys. It’s my wedding and I’m going to wed however I want!
Post # 6
Im a little confused about what this is replacing? The unity candle/sand jar thing?
The only time I have seen wine used in a wedding is to celebrate the eucharist? I hope that is not what you are thinking of changing?
Or are we just a little behind the times here in Aus?
Post # 7
I don’t really think it matters. Just don’t get beer from a giant keg at the altar hahahaha. I really disagree with a lot of people that think ceremonies have to be super serious and rigid; what if the couple is not? It should represent you guys as a couple, be a bit serious, but be fun too if that’s how you guys are! Don’t worry about the details…and you can’t ever please everyone.
Post # 8
@iRun2004: Yes, say that: “Just screw you guys” 😉
Post # 9
I think it’s a wonderful idea. What makes wine better anyway? It’s the meaning behind the ceremony.
*Just don’t start doing belly shots or anything at the alter.* ^_^
Post # 10
@Miss Sydney: from a website
“The Bride and Groom are represented by separate decanters of wine. Traditionally, the Bride is symbolized by white wine and the Groom with red, though many couples choose wines based on their individual wine preferences and not on color or tradition. Each pours their wine into a single glass and then both drink from it. This represents both the blending and the accepting of each other.”
Using something like beer and ouzo might be pretty nasty though 🙂
Post # 11
No one’s business but yours. Put whatever you want in a goblet that is not see through and blend the liquors. You could call it “The Loving Cup” in the program and just have the officiant lead into it without explaining what’s inside the cups And be done /with it. If it is sacred don’t go around saying what you’re doing and what you’re using. Just do it.