Post # 1
This is about the 3rd or 4th time at least while we’ve been working on this project he has spoken in this way.
Me: “We discussed and decided yesterday we didn’t have that data readily available and that we didn’t need it anyways.”
Him: “Well, do we have access to that data?”
Me: <<pretending to think because it’s already been discussed>> “No we don’t.”
Him: “Are you sure we don’t?”
Me: “Yes, it’s not in one of the tables already.”
Him: “I can think of two places it’s already in the table.”
And this is where I look away because that is such a rude and condescending way to speak to my project teammate and I. Although he is our manager and my teammate and I are doing all the work, we are working on this project ultimately all together.
That means we bounce ideas off each other and what one person doesn’t think of the other might. I just think it’s so rude to ask a question repeatedly that you already know the answer to.
Am I off base for thinking that way? I asked a coworker and she agreed, rude, but maybe I should ask you bees who can easily offer anonymous honest opinions. 🙂
Post # 3
lol that’s nothing. i worked for an asshole lawyer for 3+ years and he was a micromanaging condescending jerk. one day he came into work in a shitty mood (as usual) and started griping about the garbage cans being too full and said we all needed to start taking our garbage out every day (lol yea ok asshole) and i wasn’t responding to him really, i just continued to work at my desk and he didn’t like that one bit. so he was like, “take it out now” and i just looked at him and said, “are you being serious?” and he said, “take out the fucking garbage, yes i’m serious” to which i replied, “you know what? GO FUCK YOURSELF” in front of the whole office loudly.
needless to say it turned into a screaming match and i grabbed my purse and called him a piece of shit and told him to pay someone else to put up with his mouth as i walked out the door.
damn it felt good:)
Post # 4
deleting just because I don’t like to have any mention of work online 😛
Post # 5
@Talishazwi: ok, i’ll play devil’s advocate here.
i think it probably was rude, and i can understand your feelings being hurt.
but if your boss is anything like me. . .maybe at work, he is just wanting to get the job done. and he really is not thinking about your feelings.
not that he *shouldn’t* be. . . but he probably just isn’t.
and at work, i will admit that I have a very low level of tolerance for people telling me things that are unreliable. for example, if I ask a nurse whether a patient had any problems overnight, and she or he tells me ‘no’, and then later I find out that something actually did happen. . . I tend to get pretty upset internally, because I need to be able to rely on the other members of our team.
hopefully I won’t say anything rude, but might I be short with them? sure.
I don’t know–just giving you another perspective!