Post # 1
Let me start this post by saying I feel terrible asking this question… but nonetheless I still really feel like finding out what other peoples take is on this and what to do. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 3 years. We knew we wanted to get married for a long time, and the ring he gave me is an heirloom ring. It’s a heart shaped diamond solitaire in a bezel setting. It’s a little more than 1/2 carat. I absolutely adore this ring in so many ways especially because it belonged to his great grandmother. Lately though (last 6 months) I haven’t really been feeling the ring so much. I’ve stopped wearing it regularly and am not really feeling “in love” with the ring. And my fiance knows how I feel. It was actually a question that we had initially when he got the ring from his grandmother. Because it is a heart shape we sort of wondered whether our feelings about it might change. I’ve found myself looking at other styles of engagement rings a lot lately and I think I want a different ring. This one will always be my engagement ring… but I just don’t want to wear it all that much anymore. Does this happen often? Have other people had this issue? How did they go about handling it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
toastess: No worries. As long as your Fiance is on the same page as you are then replace or upgrade your ring. I certainly did reset my ering before the wedding and Fiance had no issues with it.
Post # 4
Just stop looking at Weddingbee and other similar sites and your engagement ring will start to look good again.
Post # 5
I do not have experience with this- but maybe he’d be down for a new bridal set (with ering) for the wedding? And the heart could go on the right hand. Or just get a fancy detailed blingy wedding band and maybe upgrade the ering for an anniversary.
Unrelated i am slightly obsessed with 1/2 carat heart bezels- I just bought a CZ rose gold version but I want a diamond one some day. You could always commit to loving your ring!
Post # 6
GreenBayBee: No actually, he’s not against it. I just feel bad/guilty about it. I guess in the end it is only a piece of jewelry. I mean, how many people get more than one ering?
Post # 7
toastess: Can we see? I have a bezel set heart and I think the look is REALLY unique! So cool that you have an heirloom set the same way with a heart diamond??!
Post # 8
I haven’t fallen out of love with me ring but that might be because it was one of the rings I had shown to Mr. Trilly as examples of rings that I like.
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind
I think it happens, but I also think if you look at it through the right lens you will fall right back in love with it, especially if you make it more you with the band you choose. However, if you really don’t like and your fiance is on the same page, maybe you can look for something different together? BTW, can we seet it?
Post # 10
If you want to get a new one that’s fine, but do you think it’s possible that if you got a new ring you could eventually fall out of love with that one as well? You said in the beginning you adored the ring.. could it happen again?
Maybe once paired with a wedding band you would feel differently?
Post # 11
MrsCallalily: All good points. Thanks for sharing. I suppose it could happen… but I think the reason I feel the way I do is because it is heart shaped, sometimes I just don’t feel like it “fits.” It’s very classy looking, but it’s sort of like having a certain style and it not quite fitting that style somehow. I found a wedding band I love, which was actually an estate piece and it doesn’t look right with the ring really. I could look for other wedding bands that match it more… but you know how you feel when you’re going for a look in your head and it isn’t quite syncing with what you have in your wardrobe?
Post # 12
I’ll post a pic in a few minutes.
Post # 13
toastess: Can you post a pic of your ring, as well as the one you want?
I also have a heart shaped ring. I am fortunate that I really love it, but it is one of those cuts that you kind of have to be sold out to. I am actually thinking of resetting mine into a bezel, so I would love to see yours
Post # 16
Personally I can see why you wouldn’t love that ring, as it’s lovely but kind of something a younger kid would wear? (no offence!!!)
I was going to write this whole thing about how people start feeling differently about their rings after they see all the glam bedazzled embellished monster rings that are on this site sometimes or on peoples hands. So you get envious as people do, then you just need to realize “wait, that’s not MY style, I don’t want that!” and you start to get normal again.
But now that I’ve seen your ring, I understand how you feel. Perhaps keep that ring as an occasional and purchase something you’d actually wear everyday. I have an heirloom ring as well, but it’s my style and classic so I love it.
Post # 17
I know how you feel. I think fancy cuts can have that effect if you wear them everyday – they are beautiful but very specific and you’ve been looking at it for a long time now… That’s a lovely ring, but if your falling out with it I’d wear it as a right hand ring and get a new ering… When you see it less often each time you put it on you will have that warm feeling inside…