Post # 1
I moved in with DH about three months before we got married. During that time I gained probably 5 pounds. I noticed with my first marriage, I gained about 20 pounds in the first six months we lived together, as well. Part of the weight gain could have also been a side effect of a medication I was on at the time. I ended up going to Weight Watchers and losing the weight a few months later.
Since DH and I were married, I have probably gained about 4 more pounds. This is the maximum weight I’d like to be at for my height. I’m 5’2 and a half, 115 pounds now. I believe I have gained a little muscle but I’ve also gained some fat too. Before DH and I were married, I use to eat lighter, more frequent meals. Now I’m eating the same food, just a heavier dinner. Since I’m not working and a full-time student, I cook dinner for us three times per week and we usually go out to eat once on the weekend.
I’ve heard a lot of other women and men say they gained weight after moving in with their SO or getting married. A lot of people attribute this to getting comfortable, cooking more, and going out to eat more. Is this the case for any of you bees?
Post # 3
DH and I moved in together a few months after getting engaged. I had lost 10 lbs in between getting engaged and moving in together, then lost another 5 lbs after moving in together before the wedding. Since the wedding and the honeymoon I’ve gained 10 lbs 🙁 So I’m still lighter than when we got engaged but heavier than our wedding. I’ve also gone off the BCP in this time which has majorly messed with my hormones!
Post # 4
When I moved in with FI, it was colder out and we were still in the “dating” phase, so we would go out to eat a lot… We both gained some weight, then decided to get back to the gym. I’ve lost weight and so has he, but we are eating healthier most of the time and try and balance things a little better now.
Post # 5
Studies have proven this happens. Happy couples gain weight — something about being content with the person and not looking to impress new mates. I think I’ve gained 15 lbs since we started dating (over the last three years). Instead of it being generic happy weight, though, I blame it on him feeding me like I’m also a six-foot-four, 220lb, male…
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
My H moved in with me about 7 months ago, and both of us have gained weight…even though I do crossfit regularly. We eat healthy on weeknights, I don’t know what’s happened! ha.
Post # 7
When I moved in with SO, 9 months before our wedding, I didn’t gain any weight. I actually lost some. Then the wedding happened, we went on a cruise and ate WAY too much, and I gained a LOT of weight. I have since lost it all plus an extra 10 pounds only to now be pregnant and be gaining again soon, lol. What a rockin’ rollercoaster!
Post # 8
I’ve gained probably 5 pounds, and him closer to 10 since we moved in together 2 years ago. I’m not overly concerned. Part of it probably has to do with us just getting older!
Post # 9
My weight (according to my clothes, we don’t have a scale) hasn’t changed in about 10 years. We’ve been together 7 years.
Post # 10
I gained an insane amount of weight when I moved in with SO and his parents. I’ve since lost all of it by changing my diet and eating mostly gluten free(I tested negative for celiac but it still affects me apparently). I’m now down to about what I was when I moved here and my dress fits again(yay!) and am hoping to lose some more!
Post # 11
Right before we moved in together I lost 17 pounds. After 8 months of living together I gained 20 pounds. Partially it was that I was cooking all of our favorites for the winter which weren’t very light meals and part of it is that my new job sent me into a depression and anxiety tailspin. At my highest I was 25 pounds heavier than move-in, but I’m back down to only 20 pounds heavier now. I’ve gotten help for my anxiety and I’m working on my food choices and portion sizes.
Post # 12
FI and I are living together and I have gained about 10 lbs since we have moved in. I used to eat really healthy and work out. Well that went out the window once I started cooking for both of us! FI likes meat, potatos, butter, cheese, sauce…you get the picture. I do too, but I would eat much better on my own. I am now trying to refocus and get both of us to eat better together! I made a grilled chicken salad for dinner the other night, and he raved about it, until I told him the blue cheese was reduced fat. I know, what a 5 year old!
Post # 13
I gained some weight after my FI and I moved in together,but that was because I was injured and couldn’t cook…so the only thing we ate was fast food. LOL In April I decided I was done and started a diet so that we could eat better. We stopped doing fast food at cut out processed foods (at least majority of the time), sweets (which is my sweet tooth) and salty food (his preference)…and it made a huge difference. FI lost 25 lbs in 2 months. jerk. LOL we are not as strict as we were for the first few months but definitely try to be more conscious about what we eat and cook more. Of course I still have 9 months before the wedding…so i might be dieting again after the holidays! haha
Post # 14
I gained like 5 pounds when we moved in together, lost 22lbs for the wedding, had to gain 5 back so my dress would fit (whoops/awesome), gained 5 more on the honeymoon (ugh), lost 7 during the first trimester (super ugh), and now I’m 15 weeks pregnant and weigh exactly the same as I did on our wedding day!
Post # 15
I gained 30 lbs and DH gained 20 lbs after moving in together, which was over a year before the wedding. We have been married for a few months and both lost all the weight we gained by adopting a primal/paleo lifestyle (and luckily we lost it before the wedding!).
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
I havent gained weight moving in with my BF but it is a STRUGGLE. I always have to watch what I eat and say NO to things. Sometimes I feel like a food nazi or a party pooper (on his food party). I don’t know how long I can keep this up though.
What annoys me is the the BF has gained 20 pounds since we started dating (Ive put on about 5 overall) and is always saying how chubby he is… yet buy the worst food and eats the whole package. I don’t like to even keep junk in the house, but I’m not going to tell him he can’t. He also uses rediculous, ludicrous amounts of cooking fats, he has no concept of calorie density.
Luckily I plan and cook most of our meals.