Post # 1
Hi bees, recently I’ve noticed that I’m not as close to my Maid/Matron of Honor since she moved away not long after my engagement was announced. We’ve been good friends for a long time but with how busy our lives are and the 4 hours between us now it’s harder to stay in touch. I’m just wondering if any other bees have gone through something similar prior to being married? And you married bees, are you still very close with your wedding party or have you grown apart since you were married?
Post # 2
Sadly that’s part of life. I find myself having fewer and fewer close friends. Looking specifically at all the people I was ‘BFFs’ with in HS and college, most seem like strangers today.
Post # 3
You may not be ‘as close’ as you once were physically, but I have a funny feeling that the times you two are together, it will be as if things never changed!!! I sometimes struggle with feeling distant from close friends whom are in different locations, and feeling like I know NOTHING about what is going on with them, but have learned over the years it makes getting together that much better: the stories, the catching up, etc. She is your Maid/Matron of Honor for a reason, and at your core, the bond is still definitely there – I assume.
We are newly married, and picked our wedding party with the confidence that these people will truly be a part of our lives in some form or fashion. Sure, things will change, as families grow and it becomes more difficult to get together, but they will always be our friends, our children’s “aunts” and “uncles”. They will always be at the bigger, important life events.
I say that because I had individuals in my wedding, whose wedding I was in of theirs 5-7 years ago, and we managed to maintain the close friendships thru it all!!
Edit to note: We are in our early 30’s, and on average, the amount of time we have known everyone in our bridal party is 10 years. This included our brothers/sisters, high school, college, and post college people in the group.
Post # 4
Stimpak: It happens, sadly. I am still close with my Maid/Matron of Honor, but one of my bridesmaids I no longer talk to. We found a reason to talk to each other becuase of the wedding, but we really do not relate on any level anymore besides having a history. And neither of us are the same people we were when we were younger. It sucks, but sometimes its ok to let go.
Other times, like in the case of Maid/Matron of Honor and I, no matter how much time passes by between meetings we still feel like we have been talking every day.
Post # 5
I’m definitely not as close with most of my wedding party! My Maid/Matron of Honor was my cousin so we are still close, but not at all to anyone else. Life happens and we all grew apart.