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Disgusting. That article encompasses everything I hate about the wedding industry!
I think that's disgusting and strikes me as really unprofessional. My wedding planner asked us our budget first, and then helps us to make everything fit, not the other way around. Her fee includes vendor meetings and negotiations for everyone, whether they are "her" vendors are not. That article is a good way to screen out crappy wedding planners, I think.
The worst line is the guy that stears brides away from a hard budget to a special occassion mindset. Some of us ARE on a budget and an extra $1000 just ISN'T an option!
I rarely rely on middlemen like that anyway. When I started I didn't even consider a wedding planner because I knew I could do it. When I sold my condo I didn't consider a real estate agent. Okay, maybe after two weeks on the market I briefly considered it, but then on week three the condo sold and I got to keep the 3% commission I would have been charged. Woohoo!
For the honeymoon cruise I did use a travel agent, but only because I was working through our timeshare management company so we could exchange our week for something cool. But I am booking the airfare, hotels, and excursions on my own.
Wedding planning makes you stronger for just this reason.
I ran into so many people who I felt had this way, always trying to talk you into something more. It's one thing to mention or suggest something bigger/expensive, I don't mind that, it was the guilt trip/your day would be so much better but unfortunately you just don't want to spend the money attitude. I got good at politely saying screw you, nevermind I don't need anything from you and figuring out a different way to do it.
I let all these wedding people make me feel guilty for about a month before I just said F*** it, we're doing it our own way, if they're going to take that attitude then they're more than dispensible, not hiring people to make me feel horrible and guilty and like I might have an awful day if I don't do what they say. We ended up having a fantastic day and went against plenty of the advice we heard when we first started planning.
All I could think when I read this was 'Why would a planner want their name/business associated with this article?' It's ridiculous and whiny. Now, I have to say that I completely respect the professionals in the field that I've come across. They work hard, they are well worth their pay, and frankly, it's what they do to support their families. But to say that an educated bride is "brazen" is just insulting. If I challenge someone to give me a better price, it's because I am sure that something else can be done within my budget, and not because I'm some mindless girl w an internet connection. As far as I know, business is propelled by competition. So if you don't want to give someone a better price (or you can't) then tough.
This is infuriating!! I used to work in the catering business and I bartended weddings every weekend--I was a witness to countless brides being almost guilted to "supersize" their wedding. To go for the bigger, better, more expensive option, and you know what? A lot of brides DON'T stand for that. These event planners need to realize that we ARE more educated now because of resources on the internet, and they need to start treating brides with more respect. There is a lot of competition out there, and we have the know-how to find it.
They just seem to keep digging their own grave. Many brides will still go that event-planner route, but more and more won't because we know better than to get ripped off!
Disgusting!
Well maybe a little healthy supply-and-demand action will start to bring down the extravagant cost of weddings. A wedding cake ordered from a bakery that only does wedding cakes costs twice as much as the same cake ordered from the local bakery. A bridal hairstyle costs more than a bridesmaid or prom up-do, just because it's for a bride. And don't even get me started on how much they charge for dresses and alterations these days! Wedding planners make deals with certain vendors to bring all their business to them, so those vendors have little incentive to keep their prices competitive.
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It's a wedding-industry publication talking about how awful it is that so many "brazen" brides are price shopping because now wedding planners can't mark things up as much as they used to:
http://specialevents.com/weddings/wedding-planners-battle-price-shopping-brides/
I don't understand why the thousands of dollars you pay your wedding planner isn't enough. Why does she also have to screw you over on every single vendor transaction?