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So I was wondering if anyone else this problem and how you dealt with it.
My son has an unusal name and everytime I tell anyone I have to:
1. explain it how it's pronouced
2. explain why I chose it and then wait for all the reasons they don't like the name.
Some people say it's really "cool" or whatever, my family is very supportive and all think it suits him, but the majority don't approve.
It took me 8 months of going through names and names I didn't like until I thought of it.
Does anyone else have this problem or simular? How do you react when people flat out tell you it's a weird name or frown and act negativly about it?
His name is Ryatt Elijah
Ryatt like Wyatt with an R. A combonation of Ryan and Wyatt. (I have to explain this every single time.)
It's technocally pronouced Riot, but thats not really where I was going with it.
I though it was unique and cute and edgy. But people tell me it's negative and he's going to hate it and hate us and he'll be misbehaved. (like every joe child out there is well behaved?)
How do/would you deal with all the negativity?
And heres him.. so you can see how cute he is.. Oh I mean if the name suits him.
He is so cute! I think you should just stop explaining it to people. Just say that you liked the name and spell it for them if they want to know. If he hates the name he can go by Ry. Or when he gets older he can go by his middle name if he really doesn't like it. But I really like Ry.
so cute... and i love his name!!! it so fits that awesome face of his!!!! congrats. and stop worrying... your baby boy is perfect and os is his name. love him.
I think that's an adorable name for an equally adorable baby boy! I understand where you are coming from, though. My bestie is due with her first (also a boy!) any day now, and they've picked the name Odin Vonn. I think it's a really cool name, and very fitting for her DH's Norse heritage. But so many people are so negative about it!!
I'm not as nice as Jacqi would be... I would say "Tell you what... next time I get pregnant, I'll let YOU pick out the name!" Or "Well, I really did want to spell it R-I-O-T, but...." ;)
I was expecting a name like that little boy named Adolph Hitler. Don't listen to those naysayers :) I agree with PPs - you don't have to explain or defend your name choice.
I agree that you should try not explaining. Just say, oh I loved it or oh I love it. If someone asks how it's spelled say Wyatt with an R. People are going to be less comfortable expressing negative opinions in a shorter conversation so I'd try not to have any conversations about it. It's his name. Period.
I don't see a thing wrong with it.
He is a cutie! And I think his name is adorable. My mom hated my sonn name (Rex), and bitched about it constantly, so one day, I just said, "Hey, you had your chance to name your kids, so deal with it." And that was that. With this baby, everyone has an opinion and keeps trying to get names out of us, and we're just telling people that it's not up for discussion, and if they want to name something they should get a goldfish.
I LOVE unique names and it honestly bugs the crap out of me everytime someone I know names a baby "Jonathan" or something. So good for you for doing something different!! I did not make the "riot" connection until you mentioned it. I like the name. I know of a child named Breaker, it doesn't mean he's gonna start breaking things all over the place!
Try to ignore people's negativity. Frankly that is very rude for anyone to say anything negative about a baby name, after the fact. It's one thing if the baby isn't born yet, and you're looking for feedback for name ideas. It's quite another to insult the baby's actual, given name. I would respond with something that would make them feel guilty about their comment. "Oh, well, we think he's our little angel, and we don't think any name could make him any less sweet and loveable than he is!"
FWIW, we plan on naming our first son after a BEER. (there's a story behind it, but still. :) If we get crap for it, oh well.
I agree with those that say stop explaining it away, either people like it or don't. I wouldn't let it get it you. I'm sure you don't like every name you hear so why should other people! If you love it no worries.
Your son, your call. You could say, "We were deciding between Ryatt and Adolf, and since he's so sweet, we really didn't want him to share the name of someone who killed all those people." Then smile.
@littlemissmango...I wanted to name my son Killian so bad, but my ex vetoed it bc his name is Ian (of course it took him like a month to figure it out)
And to the OP, the more I think about that name, Ryatt, I just love it!! I'm not gonna steal it, but I just think it's awesome!
I was expecting something way strange, but that's not bad at all! And I got the pronunciation right before you even explained it! I say don't apologize and just say it's Ryatt, and if people ask just say "That what we decided" and if they badger it cut THEM off and say, "It may not be for everyone, but that's his name, it's not changing now." And walk away.
People confuse FI's name too, it's "classic" but pretty unheard of, especially shortened to his "everyday" name. He's always having to clarify it, so I totally get your frustration!
wow, I think this is incredibly rude ESPECIALLY since he is already born/named! It's bad enough when people do this to pregnant women, but everyone can be so opinionated on all things baby...it's like a free for all, when you would never comment so much to non-pregnant women, etc....ugh
People don't know when to bite their tongues! Please don't apologize for anything. It makes people second guess and say stupid things. I did that with my first dog's name "Zolie". When I was tenative about it, but once I was more confident no one said anything negative. I simply said, "I made her name up. It rhymes with Jolie". I got much better reactions then.
Wow, I can't believe there are people actually telling you that they don't like the name! How rude.
My FI's last name is Jett and if we ever have a little girl we want to name her Joan, but my mom completely hates it. (Joan Jett... yes we are big music nerds =P )
wow I LOVE that name...how creative!!
I wouldn't worry about it...you'll run into people who think it's weird...but whatever! My brother's name is Rebel. I think it's awesome and so unique. He loves it too!
A lot of older people don't like my daughters name: Brooklyn. I couldn't give two sh*ts however. If it makes you happy that is all that matters... he is your son.
I actually had to endure my father calling my daughter "borough" for the first few months of her life... thats how much he hated it.
I think his name is adorable... My little girls bestfriend is a little boy named Rylan and everyone just calls him Ry =) Pretty similar!
Middleton, Rut, Link, and Glena are all names of some friends I have. They are mainly family names but some people don't like them. These people are all between the age of 23 - 30 and have dealt with it there whole lives, your son will be fine and the people who tell you they don't like it, just ignore.
@ Starlet, LOL that took me a minute to figure out as well! Yeah, probably not the best idea in that case! haha :)
@meliss, Hah, nope but that's not bad! lol. On our first (blind) date, I let him order his drink first, so he gets a hefewiesen, and I just ordered my standard black porter (I'm a dark beer drinker). When a waiter came over with the drinks, he gave the pretty little hef with a lemon wedge to me while sliding the blacker-than-coffee pint over to my guy, and I had to say, "Oh actually, that one's mine!" His response? "Wow, way to out-beer him!" I can't tell you how many times we've told this story. Our son will be, Porter. :)
It's very rude of them to comment so negatively. Just come up with a standard answer, it's doesn't have to be funny or mean. Tell them you came up with it and thought it sounded good with your last name.
Maybe there will be enough strangely named kids in school with him that it will never be an issue. Personally, I hate my first name because it's pronounced differently than the common pronunciation. (Brianne pronounced like Brian, long I.) People have gotten it wrong for 31 years and I'm sure they'll get it wrong for the next 31 years. But everyone has some issue with their name. (Sara, is that with an H? Katherine, is that with a C? etc.)
Wow. I really just can't believe the audacity of those people who are making negative comments. The *only* appropriate response when learning someone's name is to say, "Pleased to meet you." If I were you, I would say, "I don't care to discuss it with you" when people say anything about his name.
I think it's cute! And I got how to pronounce it before you explained! I think most people who read English would be able to get it right away, too :)
The only issue is that it is so similar to Wyatt which is a much more common name. When he grows up and talks on the phone, introduces himself to other people etc. he will have to work a little harder to make sure people hear "Ryatt" and not "Wyatt." I have a cousin named Jadison and she always is having to explain "no, with a J, not an M" and even after she corrects them sometimes they still forget and call her Madison! She still likes her name though :)
It is rude for people to comment but I understand why they do. It's "riot" regardless of how you spell it. But it's still not their place to question your judgement and express negative opinions. I agree with PPs and stop explaining or defending the name. You chose it, so say it proudly and with confidence so that negative talk is not welcomed. In the (many) situations where people say things they shouldn't, I always say back to them kind of giggling, "I can't believe you just said that. You must be so embarrassed."
Edit: I also encourage you to teach your son to say his name proudly as he will have to deal with it for his entire life. People will comment or ask him if that's "really his name."
Your son is adorable! What a cutie!
The people who are giving you grief over his name are being very rude. I agree that saying it and explaining it with confidence and shutting down naysayers fast will go a long way toward keeping you sane.
That said, when you give your child a newly created name, having to explain it to everyone comes with the territory. Don't expect the questions to stop anytime soon, and expect for your son to probably get them for his entire life. I think that "like Wyatt, but with an R" or "it's a combination of Ryan and Wyatt" or "I made it up and I love it" sums it up very succinctly.
For a real life story, I am good friends with a guy whose parents gave him a made-up name. Just the other night we were out at dinner and the waitress asked him all about his name as she was returning his credit card. The waitress said, "Wow, I've never heard your name before!" and he said with a big smile, "Yes, that's because my parents made it up!" and she said, "Oh, how nice" and that was the end of it. He loves his name and really embraces it. So it just goes to show, it's not the name, it's how you wear it that matters.
what a doll, and for those who can't say it, maybe they should talk english again. i'm a nurse and see TONS of names that i can't say, but i got his right off the bat, no problem! i think it's cute! and by the way, i think i have a pretty normal name, but still have to spell it, sound it out and explain why it's not spelled britney or some other way of spelling it... people always say, well shouldn't it be said 'brit-tany'?? really people? get really and don't be jealous!! lol
I figured out how to pronounce it without you explaining it. And I cant believe people are so rude as to tell you they dont like your sons name. Its not THEIR kid!
ryatt is awesome. i would even name my child riot if i had one. :)
Wow - I did not need you to tell me how to pronounce Ryatt - it is phonetic and a beautiful name!
I have an unphonetic name - I have a CH at the beginning of my name that is pronounced as a hard C like Charismatic or Christmas. I have always had to tell people how to pronounce it and spell it.
But I LOVE MY NAME! Always have always will. Now I do have an outgoing personality and so that helps in me not hating it - I can see how some people might have hated having a name like mine. But i don't mind at all! I never got made fun of and all the kids in elementary school loved hearing how the supply teacher was going to butcher my name LOL!
But I don't think Ryatt will have any of these problems anyway because his name is phonetic and the coolest boy name I have heard in a long time. Onto my baby name list it goes ;-)
Don't give people the opportunity to make fun of it! If they ask how to pronounce them tell them and leave it at that. I have gotten comments from strangers like "that's different!" or "that's unusual" but I usually take it positively instead of negatively. Even if they are saying it negatively I say thank you and move along. What do I care if they like my name!
At first, my mother didn't like the name my husband and I chose for our daughter. Her name is Yuuki. First it was that she looked it up and it was the name of a vampire (in anime, not some old legend), and she didn't like that. And when she came to terms with that, she didn't like that we decided to spell it with two 'u's instead of one, because it wasn't as cute and it wouldn't mean 'snow' anymore. By the way, with two 'u's it means 'tender hope' and 'precious help', much better than 'snow' if you ask me. I had to keep insisting that we were keeping the name as is.
We always get the strangest looks when we tell people her name. At the hospital, every time it came up, I had to spell it and explain where we got it from. There will always be people who aren't fond of the names we choose for our children. I just decided not to let it bother me and know that my husband and I chose the name for a reason and that it means something to us.
Wow thanks for all the postive comments. Yeah both my FI and I fell inlove with the name for him instantly and I still feel it's his name, it just clicked for us.
But I let them get me down so i'll take everyones advice and just forget about it. I'm glad there are more people out there that like unique names.
I think its an awesome name! I love unique names and I think there are more and more people using more individual names. If your some does not like itm you always have the option of calling him by his middle name or letting him pick a nickname. But he is adorable and the name is awesome!
ignor the neg. comments.
Ryatt isn't weird at all! I was expecting something like Moxie Crimfighter (Penn Jilette's daughter)! Kudos to you and your adorable baby!!
I think it's an awesome name! And he's so super cute! I knew how to pronounce it before you explained and never thought of the "riot" thing. A few people have said my son's name is a last name. Um so. I just shrug and walk away or change the subject. Jackson is very common and that's a last name too. I would basically ignore them. They are obviously being rude and inconsiderate.
My sons name is Soren Anthony and when we told everyone what his name would be they would mispronounce it, make fun of it, or just plain say they didn't like it and suggest another name. I wasn't that thrilled with it at first either, my fiance chose this name but it grew on me by the time he was born and I absolutely love it now. Don't worry about people I am glad I named my son something unique, makes him more noticeable.
That's a beautiful name! and he's gorgeous! I immediately knew how to pronounce it (you spelt it perfectly, great phonetics,) and would probably never have even thought of the 'riot' connection.
It's a great name. And he'll grow into it, and love it, I'm sure. :-)
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