Post # 1
I was talking to my mom last night about impending move (broken record, amirite?) and she mentioned that she thought it would be good for me. I realized that she was right, even though she never had that same experience w/ my dad (moving away w/ just the two of them). BUT she did live a lone and support herself for a period of time. I’ve never done that for myself, and I think it would have been good for me. I’ve always either had a roommate or lived with DH. I am hoping this move away from our hometown will be my “living alone” growing experience.
Have you lived alone? Did you like it? Do you think you gained anything from it? Or did you hate it?
ETA: I won’t be living alone, I never have. I just will be moving to a new city and am hoping this helps me be more independent and confident on my own (even though DH will be with me!)
Post # 3
Lived alone for a school year when I was in college (had my own apt vs living in the dorm)… and then I lived alone after my divorce.
Honestly, I am very much a people person… so I absolutely hated it both times.
Lol, now that I am over 50, IF the situation would ever present itself again, I’d probably just move into a Retirement Complex, I so need to have ongoing interaction with people.
Post # 4
I am someone who needs my space. I lived alone in the 5 years I was in graduate school, and I loved it! Even now, DH understands that when I come home, sometimes I just want to sit by myself and decompress for an hour or two.
Post # 5
I lived alone after I graduated undergrad, and I loved every second of it. No roommates to worry about, no one telling me what to do, no need to worry about waking someone if I get up in the middle of the night.
Don’t get me wrong, I love having FI there, someone to sleep next to and talk to… but that year of solitude was something I’d never trade.
Post # 6
Do you mean 100% alone, or not under your parents roof? I lived with roommates, but never 100% alone.
Ironically, the experience of living alone will come well after I’m married just in the form of a deployment. I’m not looking forward to that, but I understand that it’s a very empowering experience.
Post # 7
I lived by myself for about 3.5 years. I loved it. Sometimes I miss it.
Post # 8
I had a roommate one summer, but I would go days and days without seeing her, so I’m pretty sure it counts as alone enough :). I’m not a fan, I actually kind of hated it. But tons of people love it! I would get a hobby immediately. I ended up playing the same video game all summer when I should’ve taken up knitting or something! You’ll be fine, though, it wasn’t miserable, just boring!
Post # 9
I used to live alone. I did for about a year (completely alone, no relationship). In some ways I liked it… I proved I can “make it by myself”… other ways I hated it. At night I’d get scared.. despite living in a secure building in a secure area, etc. etc. Doing what you want, when you want is nice… silly things like eating popcorn for dinner at 10 pm. In some ways it sucked, though.. like hauling groceries by myself, making all the calls to the landlord… doing all the cleaning myself… etc.
Post # 10
@thursdayschild: I mean totally, 100% alone. No roommate, nothing. I’ve been out from under my parents roof since college, and even though I’ve always had roommates or DH living with me, I have been independent in paying bills, etc. But even so, I kinda feel like I missed out a little by not living totally on my own. Cooking for one, figuring out how to fix things myself, figuring out how to reach things on high shelves without my tall husband there to do it, etc.
Post # 11
I have only ever lived with roommates and my husband. Right now we live in my hometown. I’m hoping to change that in the near future.
Post # 12
I am so so glad that I lived alone. I didn’t live alone for very long (under a year), but it was a much-needed experience.
It taught me that I could take care of myself and didn’t need to settle on ANY man — I could be fine just by myself. It taught me money management, household management, and…honestly…it was just nice to not have to share my space 😛
Post # 13
I lived alone for approximately two years before I met my SO, and we lived together for a semester before doing our weird LDR. I loved living alone. I need time to just chill out and relax. I loved living with my SO, too, and I really miss it. This summer I’m living with a roommate and I hate it. She’s a lovely person, don’t get me wrong, but I need to be able to spread out and do my own thing.
In summary, I love living alone, but I don’t think it’s necessary for everyone to do. It definitely made me more independant, since I didn’t have anyone else to rely on/do stuff with. I have to make a much bigger effort to see my friends versus when I lived with/near them.
Post # 14
I had a single in college… but then again I was never really ‘alone’ on campus, so I guess not.
Post # 15
I’ve lived alone for 4 years and it was the best thing I ever did. You learn so much more about yourself when it’s just you. I’ve learned how to cook, balance living expenses, and how to deal with a crisis. Compared with friends who have not lived on their own I am far more independent and in a far better place if for some reason FI left me. I look at my mom who got divorced at 40 and had never lived on her own, her life went into a tailspin. I definitely recommend it. It’s made me a much better person.
Post # 16
I’ve lived alone and I don’t really see how it’s that much more valuable than living with roommates. In both cases you’re financially independent. If anything a roommate does a better job of preparing you for other peoples crazyiness.