Post # 1
I’d like to hear if any of you ladies have planned anything wedding related before you’ve even gotten engaged. I guess what I’m really looking for is confirmation that I’m not completely crazy and not the only one doing this, lol.
I personally love to plan and organize things and I needed a new “hobby” for my weekends instead of just sitting around and doing nothing, so I started looking into wedding things. I’m already surprised at how stressful it can be! I honestly had no idea just how many things there are to plan for a wedding. I’ve got a feeling that my boyfriend will propose during our anniversary trip this August, and if he does, we will only have one month to pick a date as well as pick a ceremony/reception venue to see if it is available. We choose all of our vacation days at the beginning of this October for all of 2011, so I would want the wedding date picked out prior to then, as well as have a venue chosen and ready to reserve as soon as we get our vacation days off from work confirmed. I don’t want to be running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off during that month after he *fingers crossed* proposes, so I’ve started researching things now.
I have a list of venues that I now plan on narrowing down (so far I have narrowed the list down to 18 possibilities). I’m actually thinking of visiting a few of them to get an idea of what I want, and then later when we are actually engaged I can take the future fiance to my favorites and he can help choose. I feel kind of scared to visit venues prior to even being engaged (feels sort of stupid to do), but whatever.
I’ve also kind of already got my heart set on a wedding theme and colors and I have a folder on my computer with all of my saved ideas that I’ve found and would like to implement later. Going with that theme, I’ve already bought some of the supplies for invitations that I’d like to have too. If my man doesn’t like the theme (although I think he will), then it’s not a huge loss as I haven’t gone completely overboard and spent a ton of money.
I’m going to feel like a total idiot if he doesn’t propose prior to this October (as well as frustrated because then that would mean that we can’t marry until 2012 at the earliest), but I suppose then I can still save all this planning stuff for even later. It’s been kind of nice because it’s given me something to occupy my time, even if it is slightly crazy!
Post # 3
My husband and I did 🙂
We knew we were getting married about two years into our relationship. We just didn’t want to get engaged until we were more stable financially.
I started to think about things like dresses and style, and I would talk to him about it. At first, he would look at me funny, but then he got into it too. I swear! We picked out our venue before getting engaged, and yup, it’s where we got married 🙂
Post # 4
i guess it depends on how you define “plan”
actually buying/booking things? no
but have mentally planned a lot in the past 6 months… didnt know what i wanted at all and now have a very clear picture of everything from flowers to dress. Also have a file saved on the computer with inspiration ideas. I dont think theres anything wrong with doing all that like you are.
I would hold on buying things only because if you dont know when the engagementi s coming you dont really know the timeline and your ideas could change between then… i had saved a few images a month or two ago and just revisited them and had second feelings. its fine now bc im only in the planning phase but if i had bought materials for those invites would have been a problem.
Post # 5
I know its bad… but I did buy a flower girl tutu.. it was cute and cheap and I can always just give it to my neice to use for dress up if it doesn’t go with our colors it’s not a big deal.
Post # 6
We arent’ officially engaged. However we have a wedding date of October 2011. We are always talking about about our wedding..I just don’t have a ring.
I love planning, I have extremeOCD when it comes to planning. It doesn’t matter what it’s for, if there is something to plan, I’m all over the place with ideas. My friends all come to me when they need to plan something because of this.
So when we started talking about weddings and trying to see if we were on the same wavelength as far as style, etc… my mind automatically goes into planning overdrive. I can’t help it, it just does it.
So, I have our wedding planned out, he knows it and is being a good sport about it. I keep asking him where’s my ring =) I know he wants it to be a big surprise, so I know it’s coming, it’s just a matter of when.
I already had a good idea of what I wanted. One night we were talking about it and he started asking me what I wanted… so I let it all spill out. Thankfully it didn’t freak him out but he was pretty happy with everything I had already planned.
Plus, I have justified my overdrive planning due to the fact we will be paying for it. I’ve already found ways to really save us money on just about everything. I’m can be pretty crafty and will make a lot of our things, which of course are all planned out.
Best of Luck!!!
From one crazy planner to another =)
Post # 7
We were both talking about getting married for a while. We started looking at reception places and the one we fell in love with booked two years in advance. So last November we booked it and in December he proposed
Post # 8
um, we booked our venue before we were engaged. but we had a long talk about doing so, and we kept our parents in the know about what we were doing 🙂
here’s what happened..i was planning an event for my alumni association and i was responsible for getting quotes from some venues. we had gone ring shopping and i knew he had purchased it, so i asked him if he wanted me to get quotes from places that looked like they might be nice to have our wedding at. he said to go ahead and do that, and i found this awesome venue AND they were having an open house a few days later. i asked him if he wanted to go (we never turn down food and wine!), and he said yes. we both loved the place, and decided to book it because it normally books really far in advance. i made him promise that if we booked it, we would be engaged by may 31, 2010 because i needed at least 8 1/2 months to plan the wedding. luckily i only waited two weeks (he had the ring 4 days..proposed on vacation) but people thought we were NUTS for booking the venue before we were “officially” engaged.
my main point here is that if you’re both REALLY on the same page, i see nothing wrong with planning things (or even booking things). but you have to SURE you’re both really working with the same timeframe.
Post # 9
edit: i dont know why this posted twice… 🙂
Post # 10
I absolutly started some folders on my computer with inspiration ideas, but i was way too scared to do any real planning. I was afraid I would jinx the engagement! Another practical reason to hold off is, you might change your mind on lots of things. I know I changed my theme and colors at least three times over the course of our 1.5 year engagement.
Post # 11
I have been a MOH twice, a bridesmaid, and a wedding coordinator once for weddings in the past two years. I can’t help but to have made notes and saved images over that time frame. I’ve been awaiting a proposal for what feels like an eternity (we’ve been together 7 years, I’ve been awaiting a proposal for about a year now), when it finally happens, all I will have to do it make a few calls and sign some contracts and the wedding will be planned. ha
I haven’t actually booked anything, but I have narrowed down most vendors to top 3-5 and have outlined budgets, vendor question worksheets, photo inspirations, etc. I pass my freetime surfing wedding blogs and vendor websites and Weddingbee (of course).
Post # 12
I’m engaged now but I absolutely did lots of planning before hand! I stopped short of booking anything and my only purchase was a cake mold for making those miniature wedding cakes. FI new about that and just rolled his eyes!
Post # 13
I’m the same as July.
Have thought about ideas, colors or venues I might like but not purchased or dyi anything. I live with my SO so he’d find me out for sure if I started anything hehe.
I did however take up cake making as a hobby and it turns I’m really quite good. I volunteer to make cakes for several friends special occasions… in order to practice for my wedding cake lol.
Post # 14
we booked our venue and band before I had a ring on my finger. FI was cool with it and we wanted a hot date. 2 months later, it was offcial. I think it’s ok if you’re on the same page. He went with me to all of our meetings so he definitely had input!
Post # 15
oh girl…don’t worry, you aren’t crazy AT ALL! i do this too….actually i have almost every detail planned…just no ring
everyone knows we are gonna get engaged and married…we’ve already been together a loooong time (8yrs)
yeah…we have our date set too…so just waiting on my ring for it to be official! lol
Post # 16
I haven’t done any direct planning, but I have looked at a lot of wedding related things in magazines online. I started doing this after my BF gave me his blessing, so I can also talk to him about it.
I would ideally like to get married in BF’s home county, as there are so many beautiful venues there. I have talked to my BF about this and he agrees. We haven’t agreed on a specific one though.
A couple of months ago I came across a venue in a magazine, which I absolutely adored. So I visited their website and found out that their wedding packages cost 10 000 pounds, which I know already at this early stage exceeds our budget. I mentioned the venue and the price to my BF and he just said “That means nothing to me, is that a lot??”. My sweet adorable BF has no clue about wedding planning whatsoever. He has no idea what things cost and how much there really is to plan when it comes to a wedding, so I think he is more than happy to leave it to me to find these things out 🙂
I’ve also fallen completely in love with wedding stationary, and find myself day dreaming about the invitations! I absolutely love purple and lilac, so that’s on my wish list.